Self-control is the last on Paul’s list of the fruit of the Spirit—but in real life, it often feels like the one we struggle with most. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David kick off a backwards walk through the fruit of the Spirit, starting with self-control and how it uniquely shows up in the lives of single Christians.

From sexual temptation and “I deserve this” spending, to doom-scrolling, boredom, and loneliness, they talk honestly about the places where our wills feel weak and our excuses feel strong. Along the way, they unpack why self-control isn’t just willpower or personality—it’s a Spirit-given fruit, grown as we set wise boundaries, notice our triggers, flee what pulls us under, and repent when we fall.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should have more self-control by now,” this conversation is for you. Be encouraged that God hasn’t given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control—and that His grace meets you even in the middle of the struggle.

Is singleness a spiritual gift? We say no. In this candid round-table, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack the church cliché and get honest about desire, hormones, and holiness. We dig into 1 Corinthians 7:7–9 (“better to marry than burn”) and show why Paul isn’t offering a lust-management loophole or promising a supernatural removal of sexual desire. Instead, we explore singleness and marriage as good gifts—seasons in which God calls us to devotion and self-control (a fruit of the Spirit, Galatians 5:22–23), not a pass on discipleship. We talk temptation vs. sin (Matthew 5:27–28), why marriage won’t “fix” porn or lust patterns, and practical pathways like fasting for training our desires toward Christ. Plus: a teaser for our upcoming series on the Fruits of the Spirit from a single-life lens.

What if singleness isn’t a waiting room but a calling worth celebrating? Natasha takes us through powerful excerpts from Timothy Keller, David Platt, and Elisabeth Elliot—three influential Christian thinkers who each bring clarity, theology, and comfort to the often-misunderstood topic of singleness. Tune in for a refreshing, gospel-centered look at what it means to live fully devoted to Christ.