Ep 29 // Why Fidgets Aren’t Working (And What Actually Helps)

• Do you feel like your child is constantly on the move, and no amount of sensory toys or fidgets seem to “work”?
• Have you ever wondered why the tools that calm other kids don’t seem to help yours?
• Are you stuck in a cycle of guessing what your sensory-seeking child actually needs to feel regulated?

In this episode, lets discuss one of the most common sensory misconceptions parents face: the belief that a fidget is a one-size-fits-all solution for sensory needs. Let’s gently unpacks why some children need far more than a handheld toy to regulate — especially when their nervous system is craving deep proprioceptive input.

You’ll learn how to start decoding your child’s unique sensory signature, why movement can be a need (not a behavior), and how to build a more supportive rhythm into your day — using simple tools, sensory awareness, and compassionate curiosity.

Whether you’re navigating meltdowns, pacing in the classroom, or that “I’ve tried everything” feeling, this episode offers clarity and relief.

Resources and Links

• • Free Sensory Book List – Curated reading to support your parenting journey.
  • The Clarity Lab – A self-paced guide to understanding your child’s sensory systems + practical ways to support regulation.
  • The Sensory Blueprint – 1:1 support to co-create a personalized sensory plan for your family.
  • 📚 Related Episodes:
    • Ep 2 // It’s not bad behavior its a nervous system trying to cope

• • • Ep 20 //Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn? Decoding Your Neurodivergent Child’s Stress Response

Want help decoding your child’s sensory world? Let’s collaborate! Whether you’re looking to better understand their behaviors, track daily patterns, or create a rhythm that truly supports their nervous system — you don’t have to figure it out alone.

🌱 And remember — the work you’re doing right now matters. You are the expert on your child, and your intuition is one of your greatest tools.

This episode is a permission slip to stop pushing through and start tuning in. You don’t have to earn your rest. You don’t have to do this alone. Please share this episode with a fellow mama who needs to hear this!

In today’s solo episode we dive into what self-care really means for moms raising neurodivergent children—especially when you're deep in the trenches. She shares vulnerably about her own experience of burnout, early motherhood, and the unraveling that came before realignment.

Rather than pushing through and performing wellness, Victoria guides you toward the real work: decoding your child’s sensory needs and tuning into your own. This episode explores the spin cycle of co-burnout, why traditional self-care advice often backfires, and how nervous system-first support for both you and your child is the path forward. You’ll also hear about the difference between sensory input and output (hello, praxis!), and why understanding this distinction can change your parenting game.

Here she also shares tools like the Neuro Signature quiz, the Clarity Lab, and her signature Sensory Blueprint process, all designed to help you shift from overwhelmed to empowered—without adding more to your plate. If this message hit home, I would love to hear from you. Send me a message, join the newsletter, or inquire about upcoming workshops. Most of all, know this: there is a way through, and it's not by fixing yourself—it's by honoring what you and your child actually need.

• Decode Your Child's Neuro Signature - Free Mini Course
• The Clarity Lab – Nervous system-first parenting support
• Join the Newsletter – Stories, tools, and insights not shared on the podcast
• Explore the Sensory Blueprint – A custom 6-week plan to decode your child’s sensory needs
• Related Episodes:
  • Ep 21 // Attunement Over Perfection
  • Ep 8 // My own Sensory Needs

Hey Momma,

Are you heading into IEP meetings feeling like you have to fight just to be heard—and wondering how to do it without falling apart? You’re not alone.

In this week’s episode of Sensory Savvy Mama, I’m joined by Dr. Destiny Huff—mental health therapist, late-diagnosed autistic/ADHD mom, and special education consultant. Together, we unpack what it really looks like to advocate for your child and support your own nervous system in the process.

We dive into: -How nervous system regulation changes the tone of IEP meetings

-What to look for in an advocate (and red flags to avoid)

-When advocating for your child leads to discovering your own neurodivergence

-Why the system often misses what’s happening at home—and how to speak up

-What burnout really looks like for parents in the IEP process

-How to show up with clarity and confidence, even in the face of school resistance

-The three biggest takeaways for any parent navigating school-based support

Destiny shares from both sides of the table—as a therapist, a parent, and an advocate who supports families across all 50 states. Whether you're in your first IEP meeting or your fifth, this conversation will remind you that you don’t have to do it alone.

✨ You deserve to feel empowered—not exhausted—when advocating for your child.

Resources + Next Steps 📲 Connect with Dr. Destiny Huff: Website or on IG @destinyhuff_iep_advocate 🧠 Related episode: Ep 23 // Seeing the Child, Not the Data ✨ Explore The Clarity Lab → Your DIY roadmap to decoding your child’s sensory needs 💌 Flip the Switch Newsletter → weekly calm & clarity straight to your inbox

💜 If this episode supported you, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review so more moms can find the tools they need.

Hey Momma,

Are meltdowns, sensory sensitivities, and daily battles leaving you exhausted? In this week’s episode of Sensory Savvy Mama, listen in to the conversation with our guest Sam Marion, LCSW—a neurodivergent therapist, parent, and advocate who specializes in supporting families raising autistic and ADHD children.

Together, we dive into:

• Why parents are the true experts on their children’s needs
• How small, simple sensory accommodations can make a big impact
• The importance of neurodiversity-affirming care that embraces, rather than pathologizes, differences
• How to recognize the supports you already use at home (and give yourself credit!)
• The “mixing board” metaphor for understanding sensory needs as dynamic, not fixed
• Why schools often feel like a sensory minefield—and how to advocate for your child within rigid systems
• Generational reconditioning: how late-diagnosed parents can give their children the support they never had

Sam shares from both his professional expertise and lived experience as a neurodivergent adult. You’ll walk away with practical strategies, fresh insights, and renewed confidence in your role as your child’s strongest advocate.

Whether you’re new to exploring neurodivergence or already on the journey, this episode will help you feel less alone and more empowered.

If you loved this conversation, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review Sensory Savvy Mama so more moms can find the hope and strategies they need.

Resources + Next Steps:

💡 Flip the Switch Newsletter – Weekly sensory strategies and regulation tools, straight to your inbox.

Explore the Clarity Lab → your $9 DIY guide to decoding your child’s sensory system

📲 Connect with Sam Marion + Instagram: @sammarioncounseling

Hey Momma,

Does your child speak in movie lines, repeat certain phrases, or rely on routines in a way that leaves you unsure how to support their communication?

Are you navigating multiple languages in your home and wondering if that’s “too much” for your neurodivergent child?

Have you ever felt like your child’s sensory needs and communication struggles are speaking a language you just don’t understand yet?

Today’s conversation is with Amanda and Paulina of Natural Communication, two neurodiversity-affirming, multilingual Speech‑Language Pathologists and co-founders of Natural Communication on a mission to bring neuro-affirming communication tools to multilingual families around the globe. Together, they explore:

• What Gestalt Language Development actually means—and why scripting, delayed echolalia, and character voices are valid, meaningful communication.
• The link between sensory regulation and a child’s ability to access and express language—and how OT and SLP collaboration can unlock breakthroughs.
• Why multimodal, multilingual communication is not only okay—but essential for honoring identity, culture, and connection.
• How parents can stop second-guessing and start trusting the communication they’re already seeing and supporting at home.
• Why honoring your child’s natural communication style—no matter how different it looks—is the foundation of safety and belonging.

Visit Amanda & Paulina at Natural Communication or on IG @naturalcommunication

👉 Grab The Clarity Lab — a calming, mom-friendly starter pack that helps you decode your child’s sensory meltdowns and build confidence in less than 10 minutes.

Inside you’ll get:

• A 2-min flowchart to spot sensory triggers
• A short audio to shift how you see meltdowns (not as misbehavior—but as messages)
• A PDF guide to 5 subtle sensory signs most moms miss

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You're already the expert on your child. The Clarity Lab just helps you see it clearly.

What if it’s not your child that’s dysregulated—but the system you’re trying to function inside?

In this episode, Victoria is joined by neurodivergent mother, and community voice, Isabeau, for a no-holding-back conversation about the invisible work of raising high-needs, neurodivergent kids while slowly unmasking your own identity.

Together they explore what it looks like to parent outside of urgency, honor emotional truth without fear, and find micro-moments of peace in the middle of what often feels like chaos.

Whether you’re deep in co-regulation, learning to step out of survival mode, or holding the tension of being both soft and strong at once—this episode will feel like a deep breath and a nervous system hug.

• The moment you realize you might be the chaos
• What masking really looks like in neurodivergent motherhood
• How to protect your peace without abandoning your child
• Why urgency is not regulation
• Creating connection before compliance (especially in school mornings)
• Teaching resilience through softness—not stress
• What it looks like when your child starts self-advocating better than you were ever allowed to
• Why growth doesn’t have to mean constant change

“I just want to pause time and melt down in peace... and then pick it all back up like nothing happened.”

“My daughter is regulated because I’ve built a life around her nervous system. But the cost of that? Is mine.”

“You are allowed to be mad. You're just not allowed to be mean. And you know what? She gets it.”

• You’re a neurodivergent mom raising a high-needs child
• You’re stuck between knowing what to do and having the capacity to do it
• You're navigating emotional dysregulation, sensory needs, or burnout
• You want to raise a child who self-advocates without apology
• You’re craving conversation that skips the small talk and goes right to the soul

🔎 Find Isabeau on IG @neurofriendlybeau 💡 Subscribe to Flip the Switch — our weekly love note with sensory tips, co-regulation strategies, and honest reflections to help you feel more anchored in your parenting. Join here

🌀 Start with the Clarity Lab — Your first step to understanding your child’s (and your own) nervous system blueprint. Learn more

🤍 Need deeper support? Let’s talk. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want to explore if 1:1 support could help, book a free clarity call. No pressure—just presence.

Hey Momma,

In this fiery conversation our guest is Lisa Baskin Wright, a mom, advocate, and coach who has lived the IEP struggle firsthand and now helps families navigate it with more clarity and less fear. Together they pull back the curtain on the systemic barriers parents face—and the micro-shifts that bring humanity back into the process.

From the myth of the “perfectly regulated” child to the harm caused when schools ignore sensory needs, this episode validates your lived experience and offers a powerful reframe: What if advocacy could be curious, collaborative, and centered on your child’s full humanity?

You’ll walk away with:

• Language to invite curiosity, not confrontation
• A deeper understanding of how sensory needs show up—and get missed—in school settings
• One micro-shift that changes the IEP dynamic: leading with trust and shared humanity

• (00:00) Lisa’s story: from privilege and connections to six NDAs and burnout
• (09:15) The gaslighting cycle: “We don’t see it at school”
• (18:30) The harm of not being seen—invisible stress vs. externalized “naughty” child
• (29:10) Why sensory needs are overlooked in schools (and why it matters)
• (41:45) Teachers, shame, and the myth of the “good” classroom
• (55:00) The micro-shift: reframing resistance into compassionate curiosity

💡 Flip the Switch Newsletter – Nervous system tools and sensory strategies to anchor you through hard seasons. [Subscribe here]

💫 Ready to decode your child’s behaviors through the sensory system? Start with The Clarity Lab—a short, self-paced workshop designed to help you understand why your child reacts the way they do, and how to support them without overwhelm. Just $9 for Summer 2025 👉 Grab The Clarity Lab

🌟 Connect with Lisa – Explore her coaching community, 1:1 support, and resources for navigating IEPs with more clarity. https://www.lisabaskinwright.com/ @lisabaskinwright

Hey Momma,

Ever feel like you’re constantly defending your parenting decisions—at family events, IEP meetings, even in your own head? Like you’re doing everything you can, and still wondering, why is this so hard?

You’re not alone—and you’re not doing it wrong. In this episode, we unpack the invisible weight of shame many moms carry when raising a neurodivergent child, especially when behaviors don’t “look” like a disability to the outside world. Let's pause, breathe, and begin to rewrite that story—from survival mode to self-trust.

We’ll explore:

• Why your child’s behavior isn’t a reflection of your worth as a parent
• How to recognize your own sensory needs—and why honoring them matters
• What co-regulation actually looks like when you’re both tapped out
• A small but mighty shift: carving out five intentional minutes to reset your nervous system

This episode is a blend of raw truth, regulation wisdom, and soft encouragement to make your needs part of the plan—not an afterthought.

• (00:00) Reclaiming your narrative as a neurodivergent mama
• (04:15) The invisible cost of public meltdowns, IEP meetings, and unspoken expectations
• (07:30) What one mom discovered through sensory blueprinting—and how everything shifted
• (11:20) This week’s micro-invitation: 5 minutes of regulation, just for you

📚 Watch the Free Pyramid of Learning Training to see how sensory processing forms the foundation for everything from emotional regulation to everyday tasks. It’s the must-know framework every sensory-savvy parent should have in their toolbox.

💌 Subscribe to Flip the Switch — Our weekly love note full of nervous system tools, sensory strategies, and soft reminders that you're doing a good job.

Start with the Clarity Lab — A self-paced course to help you decode your nervous system and your child’s sensory needs, all from a place of compassion. Just $9!?!

✨ The Sensory Blueprint helps you decode your child’s unique sensory patterns so you can stop second-guessing and start creating rhythms that work. It’s collaborative, compassionate, and completely customized for your family.