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The Torn Podcast

The Torn Podcast

Auteur(s): Susan Quilliam Caitlin Cockerton James Knight
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 The Torn Podcast explores what it means to feel internally conflicted, at odds with yourself, pulled in different directions, torn. Through moving personal stories and specialist insights from psychology, philosophy, literature and more, the podcast dives into how inner conflict shows up in our lives and, crucially, how we can resolve it. From questions of love and loyalty to issues of work, morality, life and death, each episode offers perspectives to help listeners find clarity, harmony and balance within themselves.

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Susan Quilliam, Caitlin Cockerton, James Knight Hygiène et mode de vie sain Philosophie Psychologie Psychologie et santé mentale Relations Sciences sociales
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  • Episode 10 - Richard's Story: I felt powerless to stop drinking

    Episode 10 - Richard's Story: I felt powerless to stop drinking
    Jan 20 2026
    What happens when a relationship to alcohol that once felt easy and enjoyable begins to feel complicated?In this episode, Richard shares his experience of becoming torn about alcohol and how he used parts work to think through and reshape his changing relationship with drinking. Following a health scare, Richard knew something needed to change, but stopping outright didn’t feel simple or right. Instead, he found himself navigating competing inner voices: parts that valued pleasure, routine and social connection, alongside parts that wanted health, clarity and self-respect.This episode explores how parts work can help us move away from shame, rigidity and willpower-driven change, and towards curiosity, compassion and inner collaboration.To deepen your understanding of parts work, you may want to listen to Episode 9: What is Parts Work and Why Is It Important?In that episode, a therapist explains the original theory behind parts work and offers further insight into how you can use it yourself and how working with a trained therapist can provide additional support.Listen here:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-torn-podcast/id1843063117?i=1000743928274Additional resourcesWe want to offer a range of resources alongside this episode, depending on where you or someone you care about may be in relationship to alcohol.For those rethinking their drinking:Alcohol Change UK: https://alcoholchange.org.uk/NHS alcohol advice and support: https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Sober Curious podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sober-curious/id1460377009This Naked Mind podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357For those actively worried about dependent or addictive drinking — their own or someone else’s:NHS alcohol support: https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-advice/alcohol-support/Find local alcohol addiction services: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/find-alcohol-addiction-support-services/SMART Recovery UK (also supports other forms of addiction): https://smartrecovery.org.uk/We Are With You (drug, alcohol and mental health support): https://www.wearewithyou.org.uk/Important note: This episode does not replace professional support. If alcohol use is causing harm or feels out of control, reaching out for specialist help can be an important next step. If you’ve ever felt torn between what you enjoy and what you sense might need to change, this episode offers insight, reassurance, and a compassionate framework for navigating that inner conflict.— Find more stories, resources and hope on all things inner conflict at our website www.thetornproject.comFollow us on Instagram @thetornproject.To reach out directly, use the contact form on our website.Find out more about The Torn Project team. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    47 min
  • Episode 9 - What is Parts Work & Why's it Important? Conversation with a Therapist

    Episode 9 - What is Parts Work & Why's it Important? Conversation with a Therapist
    Jan 6 2026

    What if the parts of you that feel anxious, critical, or overwhelming aren’t problems to fix, but parts of you trying, in their own way, to protect you?

    In this episode, Caitlin is joined by Alex, a London-based psychotherapist working with Internal Family Systems (IFS). For professional confidentiality reasons, Alex’s voice is performed by an actor, but the insights shared are very real and deeply practical.


    Together, they explore how IFS helps us understand inner conflict by recognising that we are not a single, unified voice, but a system of “parts” each with its own role, fears, and good intentions. Rather than silencing or fighting these parts, IFS invites us to listen to them, befriend them, and restore balance within ourselves.


    This is an episode about self-acceptance, compassion, and understanding that being torn is not a failure, but a sign that different parts of you are trying to help in different ways.


    Books Recommended:

    • Self Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Inner Wholeness Using IFS, a New, Cutting-Edge Therapy. By Jay Earley
    • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. By Richard Schwartz.
    • Also find No Bad Parts via our We Love filter in our resources section


    Resources to help you work out if professional help is needed, and how to go about finding it:

    • Do I need professional support
    • When giving support isn’t enough
    • We love: Befrienders Worldwide

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    Find more stories, resources and hope on all things inner conflict at our website www.thetornproject.com

    Follow us on Instagram @thetornproject.

    To reach out directly, use the contact form on our website.


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    47 min
  • Episode 8 - Ian's Story: Torn about my sexuality

    Episode 8 - Ian's Story: Torn about my sexuality
    Dec 23 2025

    What happens when who you are feels unsafe to be known?


    In this episode of The Torn Podcast, we share Ian’s story, which is a powerful, long-arc journey of inner conflict shaped by growing up gay in a time when homosexuality was illegal in the UK. Narrated by an actor to protect anonymity, Ian’s story traces decades of tension between inner truth and external danger: family expectations, religious pressure, fear of punishment, and the very real threat of violence.


    Susan and Caitlin reflect on Ian’s experiences through the lens of inner conflict, exploring shame, secrecy, identity, and the slow, non-linear process of coming to terms with who you are. They look at how context, relationships, and community can either trap us in conflict or help us move through it, and why some conflicts don’t disappear so much as soften, settle, and become integrated over time.


    This is an episode about patience, self-compassion, and the courage it takes to keep unfolding even when safety is never guaranteed. A reminder that being torn is not a failure, and that resolution doesn’t always mean certainty, but peace.

    Content note: This episode discusses historical criminalisation of homosexuality, stigma, and the threat of violence.


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    Find more stories, resources and hope on all things inner conflict at our website www.thetornproject.com

    Follow us on Instagram @thetornproject.

    To reach out directly, use the contact form on our website.


    Find out more about The Torn Project team.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    40 min
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