Subtitle: Confused, Complicated, and Carrying It Alone – The Emotional Reset Men Deserve

Series: Full Disclosure– The Trigger and The Truth Podcast

Host: Tina White

This episode sits with the truth that’s often avoided. In too many households, men are suffering silently from things that were never their fault but have shaped every part of their lives.

Tina White opens the door to a conversation about what happens when pain goes unspoken and wounds go untreated. From childhood violations to confusion around identity, from emotional shut-down to hypersexuality, this episode explores how unresolved trauma becomes the driving force behind destructive behavior.

You may know him. Maybe you are him. The man with the sharp edge, short temper, multiple children in multiple homes, always in some kind of chaos, emotionally closed off. Sometimes that’s a conscious choice. But other times, it’s a cover for confusion, shame, and unprocessed trauma dating back to when someone crossed a line that should’ve never been crossed.

Many men have never been offered a space to speak about what happened. They were raised to power through, to lead while broken, to provide without ever unpacking the pain they’ve buried. Some don’t even know that the chaos they cause is a result of wounds they never asked for.

And in protecting secrets, families sacrifice healing.

This is not a conversation about blaming anyone. It’s about drawing a line. A choice to face what’s real. Because hiding the truth won’t protect your children. And silence will not save your relationships.

Real healing starts with full honesty—especially with yourself.

• How generational trauma shapes emotional patterns
• What happens when silence becomes a father’s legacy
• Why emotional neglect is often mistaken for discipline
• The hidden cost of “being strong” in the absence of support
• What it takes to break the cycle and choose healing over harm

💬 “You can’t lead with clarity when you’re living in confusion. And your children deserve more than your pain recycled.”

If you’ve never had the language for what’s been holding you back, this episode gives it to you. It’s not too late to stop performing and start healing.

🎧 Tap in. Then pass it on.

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Series: Rewind & Rise – The Trigger and The Truth Podcast

Host: Tina White

In Episode 28 of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White unpacks one of the most frustrating, unspoken truths about building a career in real estate—and in life: sometimes, the people who should support you are the ones who try hardest to block your shine.

“Still Spending Money From ’88” takes us deep into Tina’s early days as a rookie real estate agent navigating shady brokerages, passive-aggressive "mentors," and the power plays of women who saw her potential as a threat.

This isn’t just about a canceled real estate license.

This is about what happens when ambition meets insecurity—not your own, but theirs.

From earning deals that mysteriously disappeared to having her license dropped without warning, Tina shares how the very people who were supposed to pour into her success instead left her questioning her worth.

This episode is a masterclass in emotional survival, self-worth, and how to navigate toxic dynamics in professional settings—especially when you're the only one in the room who looks like you.

✅ Why emotional intelligence is your #1 business tool

✅ The real reason some “mentors” gatekeep instead of guide

✅ How to recognize when a space is no longer serving you

✅ What to do when you’ve done everything right—and still get pushed out

✅ How to bounce back when betrayal blindsides your business

"They said they wanted to teach me. But the minute I showed promise, the support disappeared. My presence wasn’t the problem—their projection was."

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If you’ve ever felt shut out of rooms you worked hard to get into, this episode is for you.

Rate, review, and share with a woman who’s ready to turn her setbacks into her setup.

Series: Rewind & Rise – The Trigger and The Truth Podcast

In this raw and revealing episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White takes us back to the early days of her real estate career—when hustle met heartbreak, and the people who should’ve poured into her tried instead to dim her light.

“Show You How To Do This, Hun, NOT” it’s a message for every woman who’s ever been sold a dream wrapped in a certificate, a cold dinner, and empty mentorship. Tina shares the real cost of trusting the wrong leaders, navigating shady brokerages, and trying to hold it all together behind curated Instagram success.

From fake empowerment retreats to toxic "team leaders" who viewed her as competition instead of community, this episode exposes the reality of building something meaningful while fending off sabotage from the very people who should’ve been allies.

This episode is for the women who’ve been underestimated, underpaid, and overextended and still show up.

It’s not about perfection. It’s about truth. And this truth? Might just be yours too.

✅ How fear, perfectionism, and validation culture stalled Tina’s launch for years

✅ The truth about toxic female leadership and fake mentorship in business

✅ Why emotional intelligence isn’t optional—it’s survival

✅ The unspoken burnout of building while pretending you’re okay

✅ Lessons from failed partnerships, shady brokers, and $2K regrets

You don’t need another polished coach or picture-perfect timeline.

You need your own story—and the courage to tell it as it is.

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If this episode made you pause, reflect, or breathe a little deeper—share it with a woman you love.

Leave a review. And don’t forget: The most powerful thing you can be is real.

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

Overview:

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m your host, Tina White—and today, we wrap up the DARVO in Real Life series with the part most people never get to:

Reclaiming your truth.

Leading your life and business not from your pain, but from your power.

Because survival is only the first step. Reclaiming your voice—that’s where the freedom is."

• You are not the villain in your survival story.
• Their denial does not cancel your reality.
• Their silence does not erase your healing.

• Protecting my peace like it was profit.
• Choosing partnerships that honored my truth.
• Walking away from spaces where my story had to be silenced to be accepted.

• You attract aligned clients.
• You set clear boundaries.
• You stop wasting energy managing other people’s projections.

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m Tina White, and this is Part 3 of our July Spotlight: DARVO in Real Life.

The betrayal happened. The lies spread. The isolation set in. And then... life kept moving.

But how do you rebuild a life—and a business—from the ruins of what someone else tried to destroy?

Today, we talk about the slow, painful, necessary work of starting over."

Lessons learned in the rubble:

• Stop waiting for people to fix what they refuse to admit they broke.
• Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors that only open for peace.
• You can rebuild your business stronger after betrayal—but you have to rebuild yourself first.

What I unlearned:

• The need for validation from people who benefited from your silence.
• The...

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m your host, Tina White. This is Part 2 of our July Spotlight: DARVO in Real Life.

Today, we’re talking about the part nobody warns you about: what happens when the lie gets louder than the truth.

When your abuser becomes the victim.

When the public believes them—and you’re left alone with your pain."

PART 1: LIVING IN THE LIE THEY CREATED

“After the assault, after the betrayal, you think the worst part is over. You think it’s behind you. But no—The violence was the opening act.

What followed was a campaign. A smear campaign built on denial, half-truths, and full-blown lies.

My sibling started telling the story before I could even process what happened. They controlled the narrative. They said I was unstable, bitter, exaggerating.

And what happens when a charismatic liar starts talking before the truth can catch up?

People believe them."

PART 2: DARVO EXPLAINED IN REAL LIFE TERMS

"This isn’t just family dysfunction. This is DARVO at work.

Deny: They said it never happened.

Attack: They told others I was crazy, aggressive, and starting drama.

Reverse Victim and Offender: Suddenly, they were crying to others about how I had mistreated them.

And the scariest part?

People love a victim story. Especially when it’s wrapped in charm and tears."

PART 3: THE PRIVATE PAIN OF PUBLIC DISBELIEF

"I was left to sit in silence.

I couldn’t post about it. I couldn’t cry to the people I thought were my support system. Because some of those people had already been recruited by the lie.

You ever been betrayed and then have to watch people comfort the person who hurt you? That’s a special kind of heartbreak.

The isolation was brutal.

The confusion was worse.

I kept asking myself, Am I crazy? Did I make this up? Am I overreacting?

That’s what DARVO does. It doesn’t just attack your story. It attacks your sanity."

PART 4: THE IMPACT ON BUSINESS AND MENTAL HEALTH

"Let’s talk facts—because this isn’t just emotional. It’s financial.

I lost focus. I lost deals. I lost sleep.

Clients could sense my energy shift. Partners could feel my withdrawal.

And then COVID hit—and my already fragile business foundation crumbled even further.

I was in survival mode:

Trying to keep my business alive.

Trying to keep my family safe.

Trying to keep my mind from breaking completely.

But surviving isn’t the same as healing. And working yourself to death doesn’t make the pain go away."

PART 5: NAMING THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN THEY WON’T

"It took me a long time to say this out loud without choking on the guilt and shame.

But let me say it for somebody listening today:

They may never admit what they did. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

You don’t need their confession to validate your survival.

Your peace is not on hold until they tell the truth.

Sometimes, the healing begins when you stop waiting for the apology—and start speaking your truth, whether anyone claps for it or not."

PART 6: UPLIFTING TAKEAWAY – RECLAIMING YOUR VOICE

"If you’re in that place where the lie feels louder than your voice—don’t stop talking.

Even if you have to tell your story alone in your journal at first. Even if nobody believes you yet.

Your truth will outlast their story.

And one day, your healing will be louder than their denial.

Keep building. Keep leading. Keep healing.

Because what they...

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

Overview:

This episode unpacks the shock of being violently betrayed by someone you once trusted—not just personally, but professionally—and the psychological chaos that followed. Tina speaks candidly about how it impacted her ability to function as a leader, a mother, and a businesswoman.

Key Talking Points:

• The moment everything shifted: the assault, the silence, the disbelief.
• Trying to “stay professional” while internally shattered.
• How this betrayal felt like both a personal attack and a business collapse.
• The early signs that were ignored.
• The shame that follows—especially when the person is respected by others.

Quote from Tina:

💔 Betrayal hurts. But when the person who harms you gets to rewrite the story and still gets celebrated—it’s a deeper kind of pain. In Episode 1 of our new series, Tina White unpacks the moment everything changed and the years of silence that followed.

Question for Listeners:

"Have you ever been forced to defend yourself against a lie louder than your truth?"

🎧 Listen now: The Betrayal Nobody Saw Coming

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July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

🎙️ Series Launch Intro: DARVO In Real Life – Mask Off

“Let me tell you how we got here…

A couple weeks ago, I received a text message from my beloved niece.

Someone I love like my own child.

A young girl who, in a different life, would've been sleeping peacefully in the guest room at my house again this summer.

She asked if she could come stay with me.

And my first instinct? Of course, yes.

That’s what love says. That’s what family says.

But here’s the problem...

She’s the daughter of the same sibling who violently assaulted me in February 2020.

The same sibling who pointed a gun at me.

The same sibling who launched a smear campaign against my name when I spoke the truth.

And suddenly, I found myself caught between the person I used to be—the fixer, the protector, the one who put everybody’s needs before her own.

And the woman I’ve fought like hell to become through therapy, boundaries, and healing.

Over two days, I spoke with both her parents.

Even after I told my niece’s mom not to give him my number, my sibling called me anyway.

And I answered. I let him speak. He asked if his daughter could stay with me.

At first, I said yes.

Out of habit. Out of love for that little girl.

But after sleeping on it... consulting with my circle... and sitting in my truth...

I realized:

I can’t go back.

I won’t go back.

So I sent the text that closed the door.

And just like that—the fake politeness, the pretend apology, it all evaporated.

His true colors showed, just like they did that day outside the real estate office.

The same rage. The same manipulation.

And in that moment, I realized something deeper:

This isn’t just family drama.

This is DARVO.

Deny. Attack. Reverse Victim and Offender.

A manipulation tactic where the person who harms you denies it ever happened, attacks your character, and then plays the victim when you protect yourself.

And I almost got caught in it again.

Almost.

But therapy showed me the trap.

Healing showed me the pattern.

And wisdom told me no.

Even when your heart is breaking…

Even when a child you love is caught in the crossfire…

Protecting your peace sometimes means saying no to the innocent because the guilty still refuse to change.

That’s the cost of healing.

And that’s why I’m launching this series.

Over the next four days, I’m going to walk you through how DARVO plays out in real life, far beyond the textbooks and TED Talks:

➡️ Day 1: The Betrayal Nobody Saw Coming – How it all began.

➡️ Day 2: When Silence Becomes Survival – What happens when your truth gets buried beneath their lies.

➡️ Day 3: Rebuilding from the Rubble – Therapy, boundaries, and reclaiming my business and my peace.

➡️ Day 4: The Power of Truth – Why your story matters, even if they never admit what they did.

This is DARVO in Real Life: Mask Off.

No more cover-ups. No more pretending.

Just the truth.

And if this is your story too

I want you to know:

You’re not alone.

🎧 Stream the full series wherever you get your podcasts.

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