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The Gay Body Standard: Confidence or Conditioning?

We call it confidence — but most of the time, it’s conditioning.

From gym culture to social media validation, here’s the truth about how the gay community shaped our self-worth.

Because being fit is great — but being free? That’s power.

🎙 Unbuttoned — new episode out now.

Dating in the gay community isn’t easy.

Apps made meeting easy — but connection harder than ever.

We chase validation, perfection, and three-second attention spans… but what about depth?

In this episode of Unbuttoned, I get real about why modern dating feels so broken —

from ghosting and hookup culture to the pressure to perform masculinity and hide softness.

Because at the end of the day, we all want the same thing:

to be seen, safe, and loved for who we are — not how we look.

🎧 Full episode out now on Spotify + Apple.

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Monogamy isn’t boring.

It’s strength. It’s discipline. It’s being chosen every single day.

I tried open… and I ended up crying in the bathroom while my partner brought another man into our bed. That’s when I realized: this isn’t love. This isn’t partnership.

We don’t talk about how messy open really is. The jealousy. The emptiness. The way it chips away at intimacy until you feel more like roommates than lovers.

I’m not here to shame anyone — I’m here to tell the truth. And if you’ve ever felt pressured to accept less than what you deserve… this episode is for you.

🎙 Full episode on Unbuttoned — Spotify & Apple Podcasts. Link in bio.