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Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink. If you’ve been in kink spaces, you’ve heard the acronyms — but what do they mean for nervous-system safety? In this episode, I break down SSC, RACK, and PRICK/SSICK, explore where they succeed and where they fall short, and offer a nervous system lens that makes consent more than words on paper. If you’re neurodivergent, trauma-impacted, or just craving clarity, you’ll learn how to translate these frameworks into embodied practice so consent is real, not theoretical.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction to Embodied Consent
• (00:01:59) - Understanding SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual
• (00:04:30) - The Evolution to RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink
• (00:05:56) - Introducing PRICK and SSICK Frameworks
• (00:07:25) - The Role of the Nervous System in Consent
• (00:20:25) - Practical Applications of Nervous System Aware Consent
• (00:28:24) - Creating Community Support for Embodied Consent
• (00:30:30) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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ADHD meds can be a lifesaver for focus, productivity, and stability — but no one tells you what they might do to your sex life. Lowered desire, delayed arousal, harder-to-reach orgasms… it’s a thing, and it’s not your fault. In this episode, I talk about how stimulant medications interact with sexual response, why neurodivergent brains often experience sex differently, and what strategies can help you adapt without shame. From timing your intimacy to sensory amplifiers to honest scripts with partners, this is about reclaiming agency and keeping pleasure alive — meds or no meds.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: ADHD Meds and Sexuality
• (00:02:04) - Understanding ADHD and Sexuality
• (00:05:31) - The Impact of ADHD Medications
• (00:09:26) - The Silence Around Sexual Side Effects
• (00:14:35) - Navigating Sexuality on ADHD Meds
• (00:19:44) - Partner Support and Communication
• (00:21:32) - Advocating for Your Sexual Health
• (00:23:34) - Reflection and Closing Thoughts

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You want to feel connected, but suddenly you’re gone — body present, mind floating near the ceiling tiles. Dissociation during sex can feel confusing, shameful, or even like proof something’s wrong with you. But here’s the truth: dissociation isn’t failure, it’s protection. In this episode, I break down why nervous systems sometimes check out during intimacy, how trauma and shame hijack presence, and what you can do to begin reclaiming safety and real connection. This isn’t about forcing pleasure or performing for your partner — it’s about understanding your body’s brilliance and learning to stay with yourself one breath at a time.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Reality of Dissociation During Sex
• (00:01:25) - Understanding Dissociation: Your Body's Safety Mechanism
• (00:02:41) - The Spectrum of Dissociation: Different Experiences
• (00:03:23) - Why Dissociation Happens: Vulnerability and Trauma
• (00:06:22) - Neurodivergence and Sensory Overload
• (00:07:38) - The Aftereffects: Shame and the Cycle of Dissociation
• (00:09:26) - Strategies for Presence: Micro Check-Ins and Sensory Anchors
• (00:11:11) - Communication and Nonsexual Touch
• (00:12:59) - Healing and Therapy: Rewriting Your Script
• (00:14:35) - Conclusion: Embracing Compassion and Healing