In this episode, we open up about the kind of childhood trauma that stays in your body long after you've grown up - the patterns you inherit, the wounds you didn't ask for, and the mothers who were doing their best... even when their best wasn't enough.

Kelsi gets vulnerable about growing up with a mother whose love was often overshadowed by meanness, emotional neglect, and expectations no child could meet. She talks about understanding the why behind it — her mom's own painful upbringing, her lack of support, and the unresolved trauma she carried. But she also sits with the truth that understanding doesn't erase the impact.

Janai adds her perspective as someone who watched Kelsi's experience up close, and together they unpack how immigrant households — especially Jamaican culture - shape daughters through harshness, misogyny, and "tough love." They also dive into how Christianity can block real healing by avoiding accountability in the name of faith.

If you've ever had to heal from a mother wound, confront your upbringing, or break generational patterns, this episode is for you.

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Welcome back to the group chat, babes — and buckle up because this episode went from comedy to chaos REAL quick.

This week, we unpack the full story of how one of us ended up in JAIL (yes… actual jail), why the first phone call was straight to Mommy, and the reality check that followed. From mugshots to mommy-dependency to "girl, you need to grow up," this episode has everything.

We dive into:

✨ The unexpected jail story no one saw coming

✨ Why Mommy still has us in a chokehold at 30

✨ Spoiled vs. grown — are we actually adults?

✨ Childhood trauma, support systems & learning the hard way

✨ Laughing through the healing (because… what else can we do?)

It's giving therapy disguised as girl talk, sprinkled with unhinged humor, unexpected honesty, and just a little chaos. This one? Yeah… it got REAL.

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In this episode, we get real about how the childhoods we didn't choose ended up shaping the women we are today.

Kelsi opens up about growing up in Georgia with no real family support system — just her mom and sisters — and how that isolation showed up in adulthood. Meanwhile, Janai shares what it was like being surrounded by cousins, a full village, and how that shaped her confidence and identity.

We also dive into the dreams we had as kids, the dreams our parents shut down, and the dreams we're finally coming back to now. From acting and theatre to family pressure and "realistic" expectations… this one gets personal.

If you've ever felt like your upbringing put you on a path you didn't ask for, this episode is for you.

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🍒@janaiiman (https://www.instagram.com/janaiiman)
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