Clear, direct communication, reciprocity, and adult friendships are the theme of this solo catch-up. Alessandra gets honest about recognizing patterns (hello, boundaries!), pulling back when there’s no reciprocity, and why you don’t owe anyone a 24/7 version of you. We dig into millennial money shame (renting vs. buying in 2025), dating after divorce when you have kids, and the grief that comes when friendships shift as loved ones enter the “mom era.” Plus: fall fragrance layering with pistachio lotion, dark-academia book recs, and cozy TV/book adaptations to binge.

Books mentioned: The Secret History (Donna Tartt), The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches (Sangu Mandanna), Educated (Tara Westover).

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Plus-size supermodel and body-positivity advocate Tess Holliday joins Alessandra to talk representation in fashion, practicing body neutrality, eating-disorder recovery, mental health, motherhood, dating while plus-size (and queer), and building real community in an algorithm-obsessed world. We get into setting boundaries online, handling trolls with compassion (and clapbacks), finding confidence through action, protecting your inner child, and why third spaces matter. Tess also shares the heart behind her new teen/tween book, Take Up Space, Y’all: Your Bold & Bright Guide to Self-Love, packed with expert insights, prompts, and practical tools for navigating social media, friendships, and body image. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” this one’s your soft place to land.

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Today Alessandra is joined by Phaith Montoya (@phaithmontoya).

Using her platform for fashion, beauty and most importantly plus size positivity, Phaith is a fresh air in the social media world. She talks about dealing with her haters, not wanting the world to weaponize her health journey, and how the strong women in her life have influenced her.

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