What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.

In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:

“What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”

They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.

🌿 You’ll learn:

• Why “trying to change your partner” always backfires

• The real reason your partner resists transformation

• How to move from control to curiosity

• The link between self-abandonment and resentment

• How to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let go

• A powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth
  

📍 Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change

03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go?

06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance

10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries

15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table

22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating

27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work

31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change

36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You

42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee

48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers

52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love

58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation

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