If you've ever left a doctor's office or professional meeting feeling unheard—or like you were the problem instead of the person needing help—this one's for you.

Ever found yourself nodding politely while an expert dismissed your concerns?
You walked in hoping for support, but left doubting your instincts, downplaying your pain, and questioning your right to speak up.

I've been there too. And so have many of my clients.

In this episode, I share a personal story (yep, it involves a root canal) and a powerful client transformation that both reveal what really happens when we outsource our voice, and how to take it back.

You'll hear what happens when ego gets in the way of expertise, how to stay calm when you feel yourself spiraling, and the one golden question that can transform a defensive conversation into a collaborative one.

Whether you're dealing with a doctor, a lawyer, a therapist, or a coach—this episode is your reminder: you're the client. You're allowed to ask questions. You're allowed to be heard.

And you don't have to blow up or shut down to get your needs met.

• Why you freeze or go quiet in high-stakes conversations

• What to do when an expert's ego starts to take over

• How to use "the golden question" to reset the room

• A real client script for communicating clearly and calmly

• How to shift from emotional reactivity to empowered communication

• The power of pausing - and how it can bring everyone back into the present

Make sure you join my mailing list as this Sunday's email gives you the exact words to use when you feel dismissed - so you can speak up calmly, clearly, and without guilt. Get on the list.

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This is your reminder that you don't need fixing - you just need tools.
And I'm here with you every step of the way.

If you've ever made a big life choice… then second-guessed it because of someone else's opinion? This one's for you.

We all want to make the right choice.
The smart choice. The one that keeps us safe, successful, secure.

But what if the voice in your head saying "play it safe" isn't even your voice at all?

In today's episode I am joined by returning guest and financial planner Frank Iozzo. Together, we explore what really happens when we outsource our thinking - and the emotional cost of handing our decision-making power over to other people's headlines, opinions, and fears.

You'll hear why following blanket money advice (even from big names like Dave Ramsey) might not work for you, and what it looks like to reclaim your gut instinct, ask better questions, and choose what's right for you - not your parents, your neighbours, or the algorithm.

This isn't just about money. It's about your life. Your values. Your voice.

If you've been living by other people's rules, without even realising it, this is your invitation to pause and come home to your own.

What you will hear about:

• Why even well-meaning advice can lead you away from yourself

• How to tell the difference between fear-based decisions and informed ones

• Frank's honest take on why "all debt is bad" doesn't hold up

• The emotional pressure behind financial decisions (like buying a home or sending your kids to college)

• How to spot when you're seeking advice… just to avoid responsibility

• What it means to reclaim your gut wisdom - and why it's so needed now

The next time you feel pulled to follow someone else's advice, pause and ask:
Is this true for me? Or just familiar?

Then take one small step toward your own clarity.

Resources & Links:

If you missed Franks last two episodes you can check them out now:

Episode 40 - Tackling College Debt: Beyond Price Tags and Prestige

https://jennymcoaching.com/episode40/

Episode 43 - Drowning in Debt? How to Take Back Control Before It's Too Late

https://jennymcoaching.com/episode43/

Frank will be back, so if there is a question you would like to ask him, you can DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching or email me at jenny@jennymcoaching.com
or DM me on Instagram with the word "MONEY".

Connect with Frank

Make sure you are following Frank on LinkedIn @Frank-Iozzo or check out his webiste https://www.fmifinancial.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed.

Whether you're feeling the weight of other people's opinions, second-guessing your next step, or just craving clarity in a noisy world - please share this episode with someone who needs to feel more grounded. A decision reclaimed is power restored.

Before You Go

You don't need fixing - you just need tools. And I'm here with you every step of the way.

This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

Your people pleasing isn't a personality trait.

It's a survival strategy you learned long before you ever realised you were doing it.

In this episode, I take you right into the early moments where people pleasing begins, how those habits harden over time, and the emotional cost of performing calm on the outside while falling apart inside.

I share my story from childhood stage school to years of performing for approval, to losing myself again after moving to America. You'll hear how the cracks finally pushed me toward habit change coaching and the tools that helped me rebuild my voice, my self-trust and my emotional regulation one pause at a time.

If you've ever wondered why you swallow your truth, overextend yourself or explode over tiny things, I walk you through the exact tools that changed my life and the lives of my clients.

These are the practices that help you shift the cycle of trigger → react → regret into trigger → pause → respond.

And if you're tired of performing, pleasing or pretending, there's one small challenge at the end of the episode that can shift everything.

"People pleasing isn't who you are, it's what you learned." – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

• Why people pleasing begins so young
• Childhood rules that shape lifelong behaviour
• Performing for approval and its hidden cost
• Becoming everyone's person after moving abroad
• Finding purpose in non-profit work
• The moment coaching changed everything
• Rebuilding self-trust and emotional regulation
• Learning to pause before reacting
• Setting boundaries without guilt
• A challenge to practice one tiny truth

Press Pause:

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en

Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/

Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed.

Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/