00:00 — Body-based arrival practice: noticing the signals your body is sending
04:30 — Recognizing reactivity: when your body’s already loaded
09:10 — The “trigger” isn’t always what you think
13:45 — Steph’s story: when an innocent question lights a fuse
17:50 — Georgianna on preparing for rupture that hasn’t happened
22:40 — What’s yours, what’s theirs: how to tell the difference
27:20 — Physical cues of old pain showing up in the now
31:05 — Regulating before reacting: what to do instead of spiraling
36:50 — Real-life tools for relational repair and nervous system care
42:00 — Why awareness matters more than perfection
45:20 — Closing practice: softening the activation loop

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph unpack the real nature of triggers — and how owning what we bring into a moment can shift everything.

Steph shares a story about catching herself mid-spiral during a conversation with a friend, while Georgianna opens up about a subtle moment in a therapy session that helped her realize how often her body was bracing for impact before anyone even said a word. Together, they explore how unspoken tension, unfinished emotion, and even the way we sit in a chair can shape the outcomes of our conversations.

Drawing inspiration from Dr. Gabor Maté’s “loaded weapon” analogy, they break down the difference between blame and embodied ownership — and why nervous system awareness is the path to more honest, healing interactions.

Discover how:
- To separate what’s yours from what’s theirs in conflict

- Triggers can be invitations, not accusations

- Real body-based awareness changes how you show up

"Like finding gold." – Alma W."The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

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Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

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With love,
Georgianna & Steph

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph explore one of the most transformative (and surprisingly simple) tools in relational healing: saying things out loud.

They share personal stories of how naming the truth — even clumsily, even late — creates clarity, soothes conflict, and deepens connection. From stories of oversharing to boundary-finding and parenting with presence, they walk through how narrating your inner world can change how you relate to everything around you (and how everything around you relates back).

Discover how:

Naming your feelings helps you feel less alone
Narrating your day helps you build better boundaries
To express your truth without blaming or performing

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.
"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

Join our monthly membership for LIVE calls & practice:
http://bit.ly/4eF86re

Get our Self-Compassionate Body-Based Toolkit:
https://bit.ly/40Vnz3b

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

Learn more about us and how you can practice with us LIVE at wholeheartedloving.com

With love,
Georgianna & Steph

In this honest and laughter-filled episode, Georgianna and Steph explore how we get conditioned into busy, pressured ways of being — and how hard it can be to even notice that something feels bad when it’s all we’ve ever known.

Georgianna shares the story of how Chinese school on Sundays when she was a kid left her feeling like there was always something else to do — a feeling she later replicated in adulthood through jam-packed days, over-functioning, and last-minute scrambling. Steph offers her own version: how she misinterpreted ease as laziness until realizing her minimalist approach had real wisdom.

Together, they unpack why contrast is essential for rewiring your body’s expectations — and how simple body-based tools can quietly shift what you believe is possible. If you’ve ever wondered why slowing down feels wrong, or why you can't seem to bring more peace to your daily flow, this conversation will hit home.

- Learn how pressure becomes your body’s default — and how to shift it
- Discover how to find a new, better-feeling baseline through contrast and simple practice
- Replace shame-based motivation with compassionate incentives that move you to act from internal motivation instead of outside pressure.

"Like finding gold." - Alma W.
"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." - Sanjeev B.

Join our monthly membership for LIVE calls & practice:
http://bit.ly/4eF86re

Get our Self-Compassionate Body-Based Toolkit:
https://bit.ly/40Vnz3b

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

Learn more about us and how you can practice with us LIVE at wholeheartedloving.com

With love,
Georgianna & Steph