Does setting boundaries make your chest tighten? Even just thinking about saying “no”?

Well, you’re not alone.

For a lot of anxious people, turning someone down feels selfish in the moment. So they go along with everything, and slowly sink into exhaustion, anger, and resentment.

Although always saying “yes” might feel kind or capable, this loop of taking on more than you can handle has nothing to do with either. It’s actually about avoiding emotional discomfort, and it shows how easy it can be to place other people’s reactions above your own capacity.

In this episode, I share what’s actually happening when boundaries feel hard, and how to set them without feeling guilty or spiraling afterward.

(This comes straight from my own experience of burning out, resenting people I cared about, and learning how to set healthy boundaries.)

Tune in to learn:

• 00.35 Why boundaries don’t make you selfish
• 02:48 Why you still avoid saying “no”
• 05:53 How to set boundaries without overexplaining
• 09:33 How boundaries strengthen self-trust and calm the nervous system

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