For so many of us in psychologically and emotionally abusive relationships, using our voice wasn't safe. It was met with silence, dismissal, punishment, or chaos. We learned to stay quiet to survive… or to scream just to feel seen. In this episode of Wildly Her, we explore what it really means to find your voice after living in emotional invisibility.

We talk about why validation and being seen are basic human needs, how the lack of them shapes our identity, our relationships, and our nervous system, and why learning to speak up doesn’t happen overnight. This is an honest conversation about unlearning the lie that your needs don’t matter, and anchoring into the truth that your existence alone is proof that they do.

You’ll hear about the difference between speaking from survival versus speaking from grounded self-trust, and how important it is to use your voice without bulldozing others. If you’ve ever struggled to trust your voice, felt invisible in your relationships, or wondered why speaking your truth feels so terrifying, this episode is for you.

This is about reclaiming your voice with clarity, courage, and compassion… and finally learning what it means to be validated as you.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

Resources:

The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

How to be Accountable by Joe Biel and Faith G. Harper (available on Amazon) - https://www.amazon.com/How-Accountable-Responsibility-Boundaries-Relationships/dp/1621062368/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=186408013837&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.4VrBeng2vHdB_Ckni_gNJvOfN_RIGiSFOsaDkD5MZep_GyKvqZVj-xT-Nep1TUaZbGILbMYaFLssrYBtFgRyv_qW_nJ3SG99vgYueNEUz1I.PKI2wUOl-Da-HmQqT9jOssUkKelnGq5SlQPQQvK_Uko&dib_tag=se&hvadid=779663702282&hvdev=c&hvexpln=0&hvlocphy=9027239&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=10033227653149758238--&hvqmt=e&hvrand=10033227653149758238&hvtargid=kwd-2399023181015&hydadcr=21931_13324213_8896&keywords=how+to+be+accountable+joe+biel&mcid=1b1d3209be94380e8817322753e279de&qid=1765211785&sr=8-1

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In this episode of Wildly Her, we dive into how rejection can shape our identity. Rejection doesn’t always show up as a single moment. It's on replay when we're under psychological and emotional abuse. Sometimes it becomes a quiet narrator in our minds and it begins to shape how we see ourselves, how we love, how we show up, and what we believe we deserve. In this episode, we walk through the subtle and sneaky ways rejection weaves itself into identity: the defensiveness, the people-pleasing, the perfectionism, the isolation, addiction, and even self-hatred.

I share how these patterns form, why they feel so powerful, and how they’re actually rooted in old survival wiring and not truth. And then we’ll shift into hope. Because the brain is not fixed. The identity shaped by rejection is not the one you’re bound to.

Together, we’ll explore the science and soul of healing. The neuroplasticity of the brain brings the hope of the rewiring process that helps you quiet the old narratives, build new neuropathways of worthiness, and reconnect with the parts of yourself that rejection tried to bury.

This is the episode that reminds you: You are not defined by who walked away, who abused you, or who failed to see your worth. Your mind can heal. Your identity can be rewritten. And you were never unworthy to begin with.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

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In this episode, I shine a light on one of the most exhausting parts of psychological and emotional abuse: the way an abuser twists the narrative to make you look like the problem. From flipping blame to provoking emotion and then shaming you for having it, these traps are designed to confuse your mind, shake your confidence, and make you doubt your own reality.

I break down some of the most common manipulation tactics—how they’re set, how they feel, and why they work on even the strongest, most self-aware people. Then we shift into the healing side: practical, in-the-moment tools you can use to stay grounded when someone is actively distorting your truth. You’ll learn how to pause, re-center, recognize the tactic for what it is, and reclaim the clarity that is rightfully yours.

This conversation is meant to help you name the traps, understand the patterns, and step back into your own power. You are not the crazy one.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA

We'd love your feedback. Your voice matters here. Feel free to email us at WildlyHerPodcast@gmail.com.

Want more than an episode a week? Get bonus content, dive deeper, ask questions, and connect with women walking the same path. Come behind the mic with us! Join the private Facebook group and be part of the conversation.

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