Feel “broke” even though you’ve got money in savings and retirement? You might be trapped by compartmentalized thinking, paying 25–30% on credit cards while your “retirement money” sits idle.

In this episode, we show you how to see your finances as one pool of money, become your own banker, and pay yourself back, without making money more complicated.

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We break down Nelson Nash’s Becoming Your Own Banker and the “97/3” insight: wealth is a skill, not a windfall. You’ll see how banking is a process you already participate in, and how to start controlling more of it. From braces and car payments to IRAs and credit cards, we show how small shifts (and an honest repayment plan to yourself) can transform cash flow.

Key Takeaways:
◦ Money is one pool, no matter how many accounts you split it into.
◦ Don’t earn 5% in an IRA while paying 25–30% on credit cards—that math loses.
◦ Becoming your own banker = borrow from your pool and pay yourself back (with interest).
◦ Wealth is a skill: discipline, tracking, and continuous learning beat lucky breaks.
◦ Control cash flow first; assets and compound growth follow.

Chapters
00:00 Why you feel “broke”: the compartmentalization trap
01:27 Becoming Your Own Banker (Intro to the first chapter)
01:58 The 97/3 rule: wealth as a skill, not a windfall
03:18 Can’t manage $1? You can’t manage $1M (cash flow vs income)
04:13 Spending leaks: Starbucks, dining out, and “must be nice”
06:16 Lottery winners & why sudden money rarely lasts
08:14 “You don’t have to change anything”… actually, you do (habits)
09:36 Continuous learning vs arrival syndrome
11:11 Banking is the most important business; money must flow
12:31 There’s only one pool of money
14:09 Using IRAs vs bank loans: the real cost of capital
15:45 We’ve been trained to think money is “complicated”
16:06 Retirement balances vs 30% cards: pay yourself back instead
18:27 Braces example: cash discount, banker hat, repayment plan
19:12 It’s not complicated—use an amortization schedule
20:23 Control the banking function in your life
21:12 Overwhelm? Start with baby steps + an advisor
22:29 Choose your hard: money stress vs money discipline
23:35 Why money problems strain everything (even marriages)
24:28 Keep learning the language of money
25:14 What’s next & how to get the books

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📩 Questions? Email us.
Mary Jo: maryjo@withoutthebank.com
Tarisa: tarisa@withoutthebank.com

🧮 Need a plan? Use the amortization calculator mentioned to set your personal “pay-yourself-back” schedule.
📚 Get the books: Life Without the Bank and Nelson Nash’s Becoming Your Own Banker.

Links Mentioned:
Life Without The Bank and Becoming Your Own Banker
🔗 https://www.withoutthebank.com/book/
Amortization Schedule
🔗 https://www.farmingwithoutthebank.com/amortization-calculator/

What if you could use the same dollar twice, to buy your dream car today and still have it grow for your retirement tomorrow? In this episode, we uncover the 7 Points to Consider from Nelson Nash’s legendary book Becoming Your Own Banker and why understanding where your money lives could change your financial future forever.

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In this episode #239 of the Without The Bank Podcast, we dive deep into how to make your money work harder through the Infinite Banking Concept (IBC). Mary Jo and Teresa explore why traditional retirement plans like 401(k)s and IRAs limit your control, how to leverage life insurance cash value for financing major purchases, and what it really means to have your money at work.

They challenge common beliefs about debt, discuss the dangers of government-controlled retirement systems, and show real-life examples of how cash value policies grow wealth over time.

Whether you’re new to Infinite Banking or already building your own private banking system, this episode gives you practical wisdom straight from Nelson Nash’s timeless principles.

💡 Key Takeaways:
◦ There are only two sources of income: people at work and money at work.
◦ You can use the same money multiple times through proper leverage.
◦ The government controls 401(k)s and IRAs more than you realize — and profits from it.
◦ Wealth must reside somewhere — make sure it’s under your control.
◦ You finance everything you buy, whether you realize it or not.
◦ Compound interest is powerful when it’s uninterrupted.
◦ Start small — even a $5,000 policy can grow into hundreds of thousands in value.

⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 – Using the same money twice
01:22 – Fun studio intro & casual chat
02:10 – Point #1: People at work vs. money at work
04:16 – Point #2: Passive income and long-term thinking
05:06 – Point #3: Stop giving your money to someone else’s bank
07:01 – Point #4: Government manipulation & retirement plan control
13:02 – Point #5: Where does your wealth reside?
16:59 – Point #6: You finance everything you buy
22:02 – Point #7: Your need for financing exceeds your need for insurance
23:44 – Real policy example & long-term results
25:44 – Final thoughts & call to action

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📚 Resources Mentioned:
Becoming Your Own Banker by R. Nelson Nash
🔗 https://www.withoutthebank.com/book/
Warehouse of Wealth by Nelson Nash
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Economics in One Lesson by Henry Hazlitt
🔗 https://www.amazon.com/Economics-One-...

Most people obsess over “rate of return”, but they miss the banking process that controls every dollar in their life and how to leverage that same dollar to make more.

Book: Life Without The Bank by Mary Jo Irmen
📌 https://www.withoutthebank.com/book/

In this episode, we unpack the Introduction & Points to Consider from Nelson Nash’s Becoming Your Own Banker and show how dividend-paying whole life can be an AND asset: fund your policy and still deploy capital into investments.

Mary Jo and Tarisa break down why Infinite Banking (IBC) is education, not a sales tool, why your need for financing is greater than your need for protection, and how the end-of-life benefit, privacy, control, and long-range planning all fit together.

We clarify common myths (like “recapturing interest”), compare AND vs OR assets, discuss HELOC call risk, and explain why IBC is about where wealth resides, not chasing returns.

Key Takeaways:

◦ IBC is a financing process, not an investment. Use whole life to control capital flows, then invest.
◦ Your need for financing outweighs your need for protection. Solve financing correctly, and you end up with a bigger financial legacy for your loved ones.
◦ It’s an AND asset. Fund the policy, borrow, and still invest (real estate, brokerage, IRA contributions, etc.).
◦ Clarifying “recapture interest.” You’re redirecting the spread by paying yourself more than the policy loan rate, which requires discipline.
◦ Major items only. Think of cars, equipment, appliances, education, business capital expenditures, not coffee and fries.
◦ Control & privacy matter. Policy loans aren’t reported to bureaus; contracts are private.
◦ HELOCs can be called. Don’t build your “bank” on someone else’s terms.
◦ Long-range planning wins. Power compounds in later years; this is a get-rich-slow, multi-generational approach.

🔗 Links Mentioned
Book: Becoming Your Own Banker (5th Edition) by R. Nelson Nash
📌 https://www.withoutthebank.com/product/becoming-your-own-banker/

Book: Life Without The Bank by Mary Jo Irmen
📌 https://www.withoutthebank.com/book/