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Do you spend almost an hour getting everyone else ready, but barely grab coffee for yourself? Handle more than a dozen family questions daily while getting maybe 90 minutes for yourself all week?

If you've ever thought, "If I don't handle this, it simply won't get done," this episode will shift everything for you.

Today, we're uncovering Major Mom Mistake #3: Being Everything to Everyone. This is a clever trap, wrapped up in what appears to be love—it tricks you into believing that being needed means you're truly valued. But it slowly chips away at who you are, one innocent "yes" at a time.

Listen, I know what it's like to look in the mirror and barely recognize the woman staring back. The woman who once dreamed big, burned with passion, and had purpose beyond meeting everyone else's needs. I've been exactly where you are.

In this episode, I'm sharing the gut-wrenching moment when I realized I had vanished—completely invisible within my own life. And more importantly, the truth that changed everything: Taking care of yourself isn't selfish. It's love in action.

What You'll Discover:

• Why the "everything to everyone" approach creates what I call the Identity Eraser Effect
• The dangerous lesson you're unintentionally teaching your family (and how to fix it)
• The difference between self-sacrifice, narcissistic selfishness, and strategic selfishness
• How boundaries aren't barricades—they're guardrails that keep love safe
• The surprising research from Dr. Brené Brown about the most compassionate people
• Exactly how to shift from depletion to reclaiming yourself without guilt

The Hard Truth: 71% of moms report being most strongly defined by their motherhood. That means millions of women are struggling to remember who they are beyond their roles. You're not alone in this.

But here's what I want you to imagine: Waking up with genuine eagerness for the day ahead instead of dreading what everyone will need from you. Your family is empowered and capable, no longer viewing you as their personal assistant. Your marriage is flourishing in true partnership, free from resentment.

This isn't about becoming someone entirely new. It's about powerfully remembering the magnificent woman you were before you slowly disappeared into everyone else's needs.

Y'all, you are more than everyone's everything. You are someone. And it's time you started believing that.

Key Quotes from This Episode

"Perhaps the most chilling thought of all, the one that truly cuts deep, is that whisper that says, 'I no longer know who I am. I have no idea what I truly desire and, honestly, I feel kind of lost.'"

"The greatest gift that you can teach your family is that everyone, including mom, deserves joy and fulfillment."

"Boundaries aren't barricades meant to push people away. They're guardrails that keep love steady and safe."

"Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's love in action."

"You're not broken—you're buried beneath years of shoulds and expectations."

Action Steps

After listening to this episode:

1. Reflect: When was the last time you said "If I don't h

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"Strategic Selfishness vs. Constant Sacrifice: The Debate That's Keeping You Invisible"

Are you caught in the impossible choice between being a "good mom" and honoring yourself? This episode puts an end to that exhausting debate once and for all.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why 93% of mothers feel burned out (and it's not what you think)
• The hidden cost of constant self-sacrifice on your marriage and kids
• What Michelle Obama knows about motherhood that most moms miss
• The "garden analogy" that will completely shift how you see your role
• 4 simple, 30-second practices to start your transformation today

If you're the mom who: ✓ Manages 20+ family passwords and everyone's schedules ✓ Feels proud of "doing it all" but cries in the shower ✓ Puts everyone else first yet feels invisible in your own life ✓ Wonders if taking time for yourself makes you selfish

...then this episode is your wake-up call.

The truth? Neither extreme sacrifice nor pure selfishness creates thriving families. What does work is Strategic Selfishness - being intentional about when to give and when to receive so you can love from abundance, not depletion.

Stop teaching your children that love requires self-erasure. Start showing them what a fulfilled, whole woman looks like.

Ready to transform from Invisible Mama to Utmost Woman? This episode gives you the roadmap.

This is episode 2 in the "6 Major Mom Mistakes" series - your guide to reclaiming who you are beyond mom and wife.

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Do you ever catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and barely recognize the woman staring back? The one who once dreamed big, burned with passion, and had a purpose beyond meeting everyone else's needs? You're not alone. What if you could finally reclaim that vibrant, purposeful woman you've always been? If this resonates with you, then this series is your guide back to yourself.

Welcome to the first episode of our powerful new series, "The Six Major Mom Mistakes and How to Fix Them." Have you ever considered that one of the most dangerous traps mothers fall into isn't what you expect, but rather a subtle habit you probably never even realized you're doing – one that masquerades as noble, pure, and essential for being a 'superwoman,' the perfect mom and a great wife – yet it's silently costing you your joy and sense of self?

In this powerful first episode, we'll uncover the hidden costs of this pattern, revealing how it's fueling your disconnection, invisibility, and those pervasive feelings of being "used up" and past your prime.

We're praised for being selfless and giving, creating a dangerous equation in our minds: more service equals more value. But this fundamentally flawed equation, where you become everything to everyone, is actually the very thing paradoxically moving you further away from the connected, joy-filled family life you desire, and costing you your true self.

The truth is profound yet simple: your worth is non-negotiable. It doesn't fluctuate based on productivity. It's not dependent on others' opinions. Your value exists because you exist - just like Michelangelo's David stands as a masterpiece without doing anything but existing. And if you are ready to begin reclaiming your identity, how could you actively rewire your brain to believe this truth through simple daily practices that affirm your inherent value?

Ready to stop feeling invisible in your own life? What would it be like to transform your marriage from servitude to partnership, raise children who respect boundaries, and most importantly, reclaim the vibrant, purposeful woman you've always been? Subscribe to this podcast series to begin your transformation.

0:00 Welcome to Your Utmost Life

1:55 The First Major Mom Mistake

6:27 The Exhausted Mom's Daily Reality

9:53 The Selfless Service Myth

15:34 Your Worth Is Non-Negotiable

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