Healing Marriage

A must listen for couples more than 15 years apart in age. Best to listen prior to marriage but important to read if a marriage sours. Sam Margulies, who has mediated 4,000 divorces has found this group having specially identifiable issues that can be dealt with productively and fairly. The younger spouse, generally a woman, grows up during the marriage and seeks an equality not there in the beginning. The older, generally richer spouse, bargained for this kind of relationship and must now decide whether to change the status of the younger party or move on.

I have to deal with recurring flashbacks of my divorce as kind of a mental trial or flaw in my character. Hearing that, you might think this disqualifies me from giving comments about what a healthy marriage should look like. "Sounds like that guy’s not yet healed, so what does he have offer me?” But, I do, in fact. I have hard-earned special insight into healthy marriages. I learned it the way we learned about healthy bodies in medical school: We studied diseased bodies.