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Act like a Lady, Think like a Man

What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Written by: Steve Harvey
Narrated by: Mike Hodge
Length: 6 hrs and 5 mins
Categories: Self-Help, Relationships
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Publisher's Summary

An international best seller

With translations in more than thirty languages, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the definitive relationship guide for women.

Steve Harvey can't count the number of impressive women he's met over the years - the many incredible women who can run a business, have three kids, maintain a household in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can't these same women figure out what makes men commit? According to Steve, it's because they're asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In this expanded edition, Steve includes an added section of all new advice, with tips on dealing with your partner's exes, spicing up your relationship, ensuring you're ready for that walk down the aisle, and much more.

Sometimes funny, often unflinchingly direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must listen to if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.

©2009, 2014 Steve Harvey (P)2015 HarperCollins Publishers

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I used the first 90 days like never before!

Great eye opening for anyone in the dating arena. It helped me tons and now I have found THE ONE for me. I know that some of the crucial questions I asked at the beggining were influenced by this book and I am SO glad I did.

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Great book. Easy to understand. Great narration.

I love listening to the book. I understand the message it is trying to get across. I think all men and women should read this book. Worth it. #Audible1 #Audible1

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Well said

Thanks Steve for being frank and open with your feedback. I’m really hoping a lot of women will practice even a few of the tips that you have explained.

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Bestseller?

Greatly disappointed. He made some good points, not enough to through this book. Poorly written. "ladies" "baby daddy" and "your man" is about half the book.

Don't waste your time, it's common sense and condescending.

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  • Virginia V.
  • 2016-07-24

Worth a listen

I had mixed feelings about getting this book from some of the negative reviews. One of my friends recommended it to me so, with the audible return policy in mind, I purchased it.
I am an educated professional woman and did NOT find this to be "too 1950s". I feel that I gained some understanding into the way many males approach dating. I will listen to it again

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2016-03-14

Insightful look into the minds of men

Although I might agree with all the opinions and what not expressed in this book it did open my eyes a bit to how I could improve my relationship with my partner. Things that seem normal or logical to us women might be totally different in a man's mind. Things I learned in this book that I have already applied in my own relationship have given positive reactions so I look forward to using this reference more in my life. I hope others in a similar situation as I am will also use this and be successful with it.

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  • Richard Schaaf
  • 2015-05-24

Overall it was very informative

I'm a man reading this book. was recommended by a friend. At first I was thrown by the title but, after the first chapter the insight helped explain some of my own hang ups about why I hadn't found a good woman yet. some of the content was not for me and that was to be expected.
the standards to hold others by and how to quickly identify what others are looking for was not exclusive to the male gender. I would recommend this to all who have found and wasted time on someone (whom you've always known deep down) that was not really giving themselves to your relationship.

I identified with both sides of the stories in this book, I gave my love to someone that always knew I was never the one and couldn't admit it to herself, or was simply just using me until my usefulness went away. on the otherside I have given time away on those looking for a quick hook up and wanted more after. Now with the help of this book I will use the tests set up to identify who is looking for love and who is looking for love "tonight".

......recommend to Men by a man if you want love and are not sure why you haven't fallen in love yet!



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  • RNH
  • 2016-07-14

Blegch... Avoid

Not the revolutionary eye-opener many purported it to be. Just a lot of common sense tempered with a load of antiquated advice. Save yourself six hours; book sums up like this: just be Donna Reed, but also a closet nymphomaniac, and make sure to have the patience of a saint, but, you know, have standards and stand up for yourself because you're strong, except don't expect men to talk because they're simple, and -- whatever you do -- don't ice a man out for more than a few days, otherwise he'll cheat and it'll be your fault because he can't help it. Never met an actual man as gross as the supposed 'Everyman' Harvey describes.

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  • Stephanie
  • 2016-06-14

Poorly Written, Uneducated Views

This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

This book is extremely geared towards the African American community, which is great for that demographic - but not for me.

Would you ever listen to anything by Steve Harvey again?

Maybe if it wasn't serious. My opinion changed about him after listening to some of this, I stopped less than halfway through. That's how bad of a listen this was.

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Poorly written. Sorry, maybe I'm just traditional - but this book basically blames women for men cheating. Multiple times he says that it's because women don't give them "the cookie" regularly enough and that it's natural for men to cheat. Sure, it may be an evolutionary tendency for men to seek sex - but here's an idea, WOMEN ENJOY SEX TOO. Also, this is coming from a man who has openly admitted to cheating on his wife. It's not our job to initiate sex all of the time. If you're in a solid relationship, both partners will initiate sex and work together on maintaining intimacy. Overall, if you're a loyal woman that respects yourself and respects the loyal man you're with - this will be a bad choice for you. As mentioned before, I had to stop it after about 2 hours. Sorry Steve Harvey, you should stick to being funny.

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  • Cas Karczewski
  • 2017-11-26

kept forwarding to next chapter, then deleted.

Not sure who the target audience is but I could not listen through the first few chapters. One of the rare books that I deleted.

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  • Sophie
  • 2017-09-01

Misogynistic and insulting to both women AND men.

Steve Harvey is living in the past. His ideas on relationships are so outdated it's embarrassing. It's as if this book was written in the 1940's. This is terrible advice for modern women and even worse advice for modern men.

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  • Rumbera
  • 2015-06-15

A book that teaches you to be sublime

Maybe I am too independent, maybe I am not that old fashion, but this book is basically telling you, suck it up, please your man, compliment you man, do things for your man, because for him to feel a man you must do all this things. Worse book I have ever read.

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  • Carmen Lang
  • 2018-08-05

Not for the metaphysical ly enlightened

Some points of good advice but very surface level . The book did have an undertone of everything falling on the woman.. Unfortunately I found most of the advice to be very standard for the surface-level type person. But If you are a metaphysical person or a person that is focused on defeating the ego to livie a very spiritually enlightened existence with an equally enpightened partner then this book really won't lend much to you.

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  • Becca
  • 2017-12-21

I’m not black

Maybe relevant, as long as you’re black and old fashioned. I agree that a lot of the changes of modern times have allowed men to take advantage and slack off on being real men, but unless you’re wanting to catch yourself a good hard-working, Christian black man over 50, this book is not realistic. He also stereotypes women and men both so much I couldn’t listen anymore.

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