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Act like a Lady, Think like a Man

What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Written by: Steve Harvey
Narrated by: Mike Hodge
Length: 6 hrs and 5 mins
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An international best seller

With translations in more than thirty languages, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the definitive relationship guide for women.

Steve Harvey can't count the number of impressive women he's met over the years - the many incredible women who can run a business, have three kids, maintain a household in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can't these same women figure out what makes men commit? According to Steve, it's because they're asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In this expanded edition, Steve includes an added section of all new advice, with tips on dealing with your partner's exes, spicing up your relationship, ensuring you're ready for that walk down the aisle, and much more.

Sometimes funny, often unflinchingly direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must listen to if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.

©2009, 2014 Steve Harvey (P)2015 HarperCollins Publishers

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Misogynistic bullshit

Steve Harvey's age is showing. Has he ever heard of women who work? Women who are the primary bread winner in the family? Stay at home fathers? Women who have higher libidos than their male partners? And justifying men cheating on their wives because they don't get sex on a weekly basis? Does he really think men are entitled to access to women's bodies whenever they want? I used to like Steve Harvey and thought he was funny. Now I think he is an out of touch neanderthal and sure am glad that my husband is more evolved than him. I am glad he doesn't have sons to raise with his outdated and toxic ideas of what it means to be a man.

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Every woman with an open mind should read!

I was skeptical at first to read/listen to this book, so I borrowed the audio-book from the library. Holy cow was I wrong! This book has helped me/motivated me to start changing my life for the better. I was able to understand and apply all the concepts the book discussed and the narrator was great! Needless to say I've purchased it to re-read and continue to learn and grow into the amazing woman I am and want to be!

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I used the first 90 days like never before!

Great eye opening for anyone in the dating arena. It helped me tons and now I have found THE ONE for me. I know that some of the crucial questions I asked at the beggining were influenced by this book and I am SO glad I did.

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Great book. Easy to understand. Great narration.

I love listening to the book. I understand the message it is trying to get across. I think all men and women should read this book. Worth it. #Audible1 #Audible1

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Pretty great book!!

Pointed out so many things we tend to not see or overlook, which tells us everything that's really going on on their side...
Very straightforward, no sugar coating, it all starts to make sense, everything ... it's almost like learning a new language and be able to think in it/through it

Very eye-opening, in so many ways.

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just perfect!

Everything he said is absolutely true.
I wish I could read this 6 months ago! the life changing book.

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Very helpful and informative. There are many things in the book which are hard to read from a man's perspective, however, it's the truth and we have to accept it.

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Well said

Thanks Steve for being frank and open with your feedback. I’m really hoping a lot of women will practice even a few of the tips that you have explained.

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Bestseller?

Greatly disappointed. He made some good points, not enough to through this book. Poorly written. "ladies" "baby daddy" and "your man" is about half the book.

Don't waste your time, it's common sense and condescending.

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  • Virginia V.
  • 2016-07-24

Worth a listen

I had mixed feelings about getting this book from some of the negative reviews. One of my friends recommended it to me so, with the audible return policy in mind, I purchased it.
I am an educated professional woman and did NOT find this to be "too 1950s". I feel that I gained some understanding into the way many males approach dating. I will listen to it again

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  • 2016-03-14

Insightful look into the minds of men

Although I might agree with all the opinions and what not expressed in this book it did open my eyes a bit to how I could improve my relationship with my partner. Things that seem normal or logical to us women might be totally different in a man's mind. Things I learned in this book that I have already applied in my own relationship have given positive reactions so I look forward to using this reference more in my life. I hope others in a similar situation as I am will also use this and be successful with it.

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  • RNH
  • 2016-07-14

Blegch... Avoid

Not the revolutionary eye-opener many purported it to be. Just a lot of common sense tempered with a load of antiquated advice. Save yourself six hours; book sums up like this: just be Donna Reed, but also a closet nymphomaniac, and make sure to have the patience of a saint, but, you know, have standards and stand up for yourself because you're strong, except don't expect men to talk because they're simple, and -- whatever you do -- don't ice a man out for more than a few days, otherwise he'll cheat and it'll be your fault because he can't help it. Never met an actual man as gross as the supposed 'Everyman' Harvey describes.

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  • Adam
  • 2018-10-19

As a man, I think this is a great primer for women

This book was mentioned to me by a friend, and I agreed to have a listen and see what trash was being spouted by Steve Harvey. From the beginning to the end, I couldn't believe hiw spot on it was. This is not a book just for women in my humble opinion - this reminds a man that he is a beautiful creature made exactly as he he was supposed to be. We can curb our more destructive tendencies, but this book severed as a sort of affirmation that being a real man, especially in today's world, is not only achievable, but preferable and expected. highest praise for Mr. Harvey's work here.

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  • Elizabeth
  • 2016-09-10

Men are Pigs

What disappointed you about Act like a Lady, Think like a Man?

What I detested about this book is that it stated that all men are generally all pigs who can't control their desires. Which makes them animals incapable of making higher intelligent choices. And all the fault in a relationship gone wrong is the women in them. There are some good points in the first half of the book (because I couldn't finish the second half) about women standing up for themselves but overall rubbish. Also, I figured Steve harvey was a man who supported women but he applauds the fact that his wife gave up two things she really enjoys because it bothered him....I am assuming in their relationship that works but in the book it comes off as unfair.

What could Steve Harvey have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

Been his own narrator and.

Any additional comments?

Don't waste a credit.

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  • Benedek
  • 2017-05-09

Offensive, sexist, homophobic, materialistic and disrespectful in many ways.

This is everything modern society should stand against.

To women out there: please don't take any of this seriously, this a bad joke, reflecting an uneducated man's own opinion.

Read "The Man's Guide to Women" and "The 5 love languages" instead if you are looking for a meaningful relationship.

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  • Richard Schaaf
  • 2015-05-24

Overall it was very informative

I'm a man reading this book. was recommended by a friend. At first I was thrown by the title but, after the first chapter the insight helped explain some of my own hang ups about why I hadn't found a good woman yet. some of the content was not for me and that was to be expected.
the standards to hold others by and how to quickly identify what others are looking for was not exclusive to the male gender. I would recommend this to all who have found and wasted time on someone (whom you've always known deep down) that was not really giving themselves to your relationship.

I identified with both sides of the stories in this book, I gave my love to someone that always knew I was never the one and couldn't admit it to herself, or was simply just using me until my usefulness went away. on the otherside I have given time away on those looking for a quick hook up and wanted more after. Now with the help of this book I will use the tests set up to identify who is looking for love and who is looking for love "tonight".

......recommend to Men by a man if you want love and are not sure why you haven't fallen in love yet!



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  • alliii
  • 2017-08-28

just nope.

did not agree with a lot of the things he had to say. too old school

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 2017-05-07

The Cookie!

Steve love u to death bit constantly referring to my personal gift as "the cookie" made me feel a bit insulted. It would have been fine if it was a few times but not every moment through out the book. Now the base information was ok. I definitely got something out of it! Good job.

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  • Rumbera
  • 2015-06-15

A book that teaches you to be sublime

Maybe I am too independent, maybe I am not that old fashion, but this book is basically telling you, suck it up, please your man, compliment you man, do things for your man, because for him to feel a man you must do all this things. Worse book I have ever read.

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  • syh
  • 2020-02-22

practical

it has a lot of common sense points. just that you didn't know it was.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-11-21

je n'aime pas

je n'aime pas dis tout en plus be me suis fais avoir je pense que c'est en français