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Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage

Written by: Beth McCord, Jeff McCord
Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins
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Becoming Us is a wake-up call for couples who feel stagnant, revealing what happens when two people in a committed relationship risk seeing each other from a fresh perspective.

Couples often enter into marriage with a potentially harmful assumption: they assume they “know” themselves and their spouse. The reality is that whether a couple’s been married a few months or many decades, conflict and misunderstandings happen. Beth and Jeff McCord provide a glimpse into how the Enneagram, used from a biblical perspective, brings astonishing clarity to couples so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear and shame, by knowing and experiencing the unconditional love, forgiveness, and freedom they have in Christ. Beth and Jeff guide couples through discovering their Enneagram type and core motivations, as well as those of their spouse, gaining insight into how their family of origin shapes the way they relate to their spouse, and understanding what “assumicide” is and how to put a stop to it. Couples are made for an intimate and thriving marriage relationship. For those baffled by the person sleeping beside them and looking for an instruction manual, Becoming Us serves as a roadmap for couples to transform into the best versions of themselves-together.

©2019 Beth and Jeff McCord (P)2019 Beth and Jeff McCord

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  • Mandy Goodnight
  • 2019-08-16

Good book but didn’t care for the Audible version

I have been learning about the Enneagram and love Beth McCord!! I listen to a lot audible books, but did not care for this one due to the Narrators. Their voices sound robotic, so I found myself zoning out a lot. I prefer audible books where the Author is the narrator. Other than that I would recommend... just not the audible version.

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  • Shari Oliver
  • 2019-08-16

Marriage Magnificent

Berh and Jeff lead you through the enneagram in light of the gospel in a way that sheds such light on yourself and how you connect to others, spouses especially!

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  • Mark A
  • 2020-03-13

Great information

Although the material is interesting and very good it is delivered in such a dry manner that it’s hard to listen to for any length of time. Feels like a textbook.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2020-02-02

Wait till it goes on sale

The entire first part of the book was nothing but an advertisement for the book – a very very very lengthy one. The second part of the book was repetitive and yet sometimes still unclear. A resource, for certain. But, not deep enough to be of much real use and too wordy for you to wish they would go deeper.

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  • Frankiejogs
  • 2020-01-18

Great information!

There is so much great information in this book and so much to reflect and ponder on! I listened and realized I needed to buy the book so I could go back to particular sections, reread and mark it up for further study.

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  • Michael R.
  • 2019-12-22

decent relational book for enneagram lovers

Lots of Christian cliche used without explanation of the same. A person not exposed the same teaching will not understand.

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  • Kenyon Martin
  • 2019-12-07

Difficult to Listen to

Wanted to love this book but, in sincere honesty, it shouldn’t have been a book. It will likely be more effective as a course (which they offer). The first few chapters should have been condensed down to one and It felt very much like the content was inserted to fill pages.

It simply lacked depth but I imagine it’s because it is really for couples who have no experience with the enneagram at all.

This is a great start for people looking to understand themselves and their partner but you will definitely require more resources than this.

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  • Aimee Padgett
  • 2019-12-07

Brought hope and clarity!

The content of this book brought hope and clarity to some places of my life and heart (and marriage!) that hadn't felt these things for a while! I'm so grateful. Even if you do not understand the Enneagram yet (or, on the flip-side, if you already do), I truly believe you will glean so much from the contents of this fabulous book.

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  • Joshua
  • 2019-09-29

One of the best books on the Enneagram!

Becoming Us by the McCords is one of the best books on the enneagram I've now read! They balance their story and an explanation of the enneagram well. My favorite things about this book is that it is unashamedly centered around the gospel message and the enneagram is used as a tool to better understand one's self and others through the lens of the gospel message. I would recommend this book to those who are well versed in the enneagram and the newcomer looking to learn more.

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  • Crystal
  • 2019-09-19

Excellent read. practical help for couples

The authors vulnerably share how their Enneagram types contributed to the the difficulties in the early years of their marriage. This book is insightful and packed with practical ways to grow in understanding yourself and your spouse,.