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Learn when to say yes and when to say no to your spouse to make the most of your marriage.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.

Boundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage - and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for.

Boundaries in Marriage will help you:

  • Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse
  • Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage
  • Protect their marriage from different kinds of "intruders"
  • Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries - or work with one who doesn't

You don't have to let your marriage head toward separation or divorce. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2000 by Henry Could and John Townsend (P)2000 by the Zondervan Corporation

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This book is very practical and encouraging. It is a must read for any couple whether you have a boundary loving spouse or a boundary resistant spouse. The narrator is easy to listen to and does a great job of narrating conversations between a husband and wife. Highly recommend!

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Too Much Bible

I'm struggling to get through part one because these mentions of God/Bible are uneccessary and frustrating to the non-religious non Christian reader.

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  • Stephanie
  • 2008-04-04

Powerful Tool

I purchased this book to learn and grow and that I did! I learned areas that I was contributing to making my marriage weak, and learned where I can improve, grow and change immediately. I have personally grown with every Cloud/Townsend book. I also enjoyed the narrator, he told the story well, but I do prefer Cloud/Townsend themselves to read, I still enjoyed this one very much! Get it and make a difference in your own marriage, if not to save it, STRENGTHEN it! God Bless You on your journey!

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  • GrayFox
  • 2016-09-09

Good info; horrible voice inflections

If nothing more, this books serves as a great reminder to take self-accountability for your role in a relationship. I picked up a few new ideas. I appreciated the nexus to Christian spirituality.

Personally, I find it repulsive when the reader changes the inflection in his/her voice when quoting a character. It drives me nuts. Just read the book. Stop trying to entertain me with unnecessary drama.

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  • krista
  • 2014-01-13

Great material, Valuable insight, weird narrator

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would highly recommend the book but not the audiobook. The book offers a lot of wisdom and gives case examples to illustrate points. The strangeness of the narration is too distracting and detracts from the book.

Who was your favorite character and why?

non-fiction- no characters

What didn’t you like about Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance?

Contrary to what is listed the narrator is not either of the authors- it's someone else- I believe the same person who narrates the other boundaries books. This is a self-help book not a dramatic novel. There's no need for the narrator to try and "make things more interesting" by reading so dramatically and making each person in each case example sound like they are ready to jump off a bridge. No one talks that way. It makes it hard to take it seriously. He also gives everyone this weird accent- it's almost like a long island accent but not quite. It's distracting and I would suggest reading this as opposed to listening to it.

What did you learn from Boundaries in Marriage that you would use in your daily life?

That a good marriage and good boundaries start with having good character and good boundaries with yourself.

Any additional comments?

Wonderful book. Weird narrator.

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  • Keith Thompson
  • 2005-03-17

Very helpful

This book is a great resource for married couples. There was so much to digest I had to listen twice. The authors do a great job presenting the material, if your looking to improve your marriage this book will help.

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  • Nicholas
  • 2008-11-04

Great

This book helped transform my marriage. My wife and I are happy for the first time in years.

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  • Sheral
  • 2009-09-17

Amazing Insight for Troubled Marriages

We were having trouble because both my husband and I have issues from our childhood that we had not resolved. This book helped us to reach a new level in our marriage.

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  • JBM
  • 2012-12-10

Boundaries *ARE* scriptural - ignore noisemakers

I cannot believe the people who claim that this book and the concepts it teaches are somehow an abomination and contrary to scripture. I am simply going to quote from this book as the authors are very clear in addressing such attacks.

"There's a lot of misunderstanding about boundaries. Some people are against boundaries because they see them as selfish. Other people actually use them to be selfish. Both are wrong. Boundaries are basically about self-control.Boundaries are not something you set on another person. Boundaries are something you set on yourself."

Self control *IS* very scriptural. In fact it is one of the fruits of the spirit that are explicitly referenced in Galatians 5:22-23. and as Apostle Paul says "against such things there is no law." The only people who object to the boundaries being used in marriage as Cloud and Townsend teach them are likely manipulative controlling spouses who want to continue to play their power games and don't like anything that deters their ability t manipulate and control their spouses.

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  • Jacqueline C. Anderson
  • 2016-09-26

So helpful.

Highly recommended for anyone; single, married whether you're have troubles or want to avoid them, or divorced. Lots of great information. Listening for the second time to absorb it all.

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  • science girl polzel
  • 2016-04-21

Such valuable information

So often disagreements in marriage lead to either verbal attack or silent stewing. This book describes how to resolve conflict in a different way. It encourages truth told in love and promotes healthy mutuality in a marriage. The authors push for growth in the reader without finger-pointing at the other spouse, aiding a person in seeing and taking hold of what they are responsible for. This book is full of hope and healing.

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  • larhay
  • 2003-12-10

Excellent!

I only wish I had this book years ago. It would have saved a lot of heartache.

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