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Brave, Not Perfect

Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder
Written by: Reshma Saujani
Narrated by: Reshma Saujani
Length: 5 hrs and 26 mins
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Publisher's Summary

International Best Seller • Inspired by her popular TED Talk, the founder and CEO of Girls Who Code urges women to embrace imperfection and live a bolder, more authentic life.

"A timely message for...women of all ages: Perfection isn’t just impossible but, worse, insidious." (Angela Duckworth, best-selling author of Grit)

Imagine if you lived without the fear of not being good enough. If you didn’t care how your life looked on Instagram. If you could let go of the guilt and stop beating yourself up for making human mistakes. Imagine if, in every decision you faced, you took the bolder path?

As women, too many of us feel crushed under the weight of our own expectations. We run ourselves ragged trying to please everyone, pass up opportunities that scare us, and avoid rejection at all costs.

There’s a reason we act this way, Saujani says. As girls, we were taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite, urged us to be careful so we didn’t get hurt, and steered us to activities at which we could shine. As a result, we grew up to be women who are afraid to fail.

It’s time to stop letting our fears drown out our dreams and narrow our world, along with our chance at happiness.

By choosing bravery over perfection, we can find the power to claim our voice, to leave behind what makes us unhappy, and to go for the things we genuinely, passionately want. Perfection may set us on a path that feels safe, but bravery leads us to the one we’re authentically meant to follow. In Brave, Not Perfect, Saujani shares powerful insights and practices to help us let go of our need for perfection and make bravery a lifelong habit. By being brave, not perfect, we can all become the authors of our best and most joyful life.

©2018 Reshma Saujani (P)2018 Random House Audio

What the critics say

“I love this book! A timely message for girls and women of all ages: perfection isn’t just impossible but, worse, insidious. The prose is so clear, so honest - you feel like you’re sitting across from Reshma sharing stories.” (Angela Duckworth, Christopher H. Browne Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of Pennsylvania, and New York Times best-selling author of Grit)

“The perfect is not just the enemy of the good; the pressure to be perfect is the enemy of girls around the world. In this courageous, convincing book, Reshma Saujani shares a bold vision to free girls - and women - from the shackles of social expectations.” (Adam Grant, New York Times best-selling author of Originals, Give and Take, and Option B with Sheryl Sandberg)

"For any woman who has ever thought to herself "I just can't...” or "I'm just not...," this eye-opening book will help you showing up every day as brave, not perfect changes how the world sees you, but more importantly, how you see yourself - and what you are capable of. This book is great reminder that having the courage to stare your mistakes and your imperfections in the face is one of the most overlooked sources of power." (Amy Cuddy, Harvard lecturer and best-selling author of Presence)

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Loved it!

I loved reading this book or rather listening to it. I found I couldn't put it down as it caught my attention so greatly.
I definitely could relate to the ways in which we've or rather I'd been brought up to be so called "perfect" based on expectation and the interesting ways it's played out in my life at such an unconscious level.

No one book is perfect I don't think as far perhaps repeating a point several times or repeating point well into the book that was already covered.

Overall I enjoyed the book and found it to be very powerful. Since reading the book this week I encountered a moment myself in which I had an opportunity to express 'bravery' when I was in an uncomfortable situation from a man who thought his humorous comments were just that and not sexually offensive, inappropriate and disrespectful. Taking a stand for myself and overall for women in general I most definitely felt empowered, confident and brave. I believe having read the book encouraged my response and heightened my inner awareness to recognize it was the time to act.

I definitely recommend for women and mothers of young girls to read this book.

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A Must Read!!!

Very well written. Started many wonderful conversations between my husband and I as we reflected on the messages being shared in our home as we raise our son and daughter.

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inspiring

Thank you for writing this book Reshma. your words inspired me to be a die hard member of team brave.

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A must read!!!

If you are a parent of a girl or a woman yourself, you need to read this. We need to take ownership for change and be brave! I love this and have listened to it twice now😊

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Good starting info

This is a book that has great starting info for women who struggle with perfectionism including understanding how our current culture and environments create and contribute to it.

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  • Corey Watts
  • 2019-10-08

Good for Husbands Trying Understand their Wives Better

This book helped me dig into the deeper parts of feminine psychology. It’s always been hard for me to connect with my wife to get her to embrace challenges and have confrontations with people, even when she’s right. She also gets more frustrated with things that she’s not automatically good at. And it all makes sense after reading this.

Now, hopefully I can give her some techniques for fighting through her ingrained psychology. Husbands who want to do the same, should consider reading this book. It’s easy, quick, and well written. Ms. Saujani is able to speak on difficult subjects without alienating most readers, and I’m grateful for that. It’s a good book, and I’m glad she wrote it.

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  • Dana Goodrich
  • 2019-02-21

Empowering!!!

I absolutely loved this read! Easy to connect with, kept me engaged, and opened my mind as to WHY women do what we do when navigating thru work, womanhood, and motherhood ♥️

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  • Lexi
  • 2019-10-08

Wish it had more of a storyline

Saujani seems like an amazing and bright person. She has made me become bolder in the classroom but the overall storyline of the book was just eh. I wish that it had more of her life story and how she became the woman she is.

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  • Jennifer
  • 2019-07-13

Perfect for Young Girl Power

Some good take aways. This would be a perfect read for a young girl in her early 20's.

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  • Anna
  • 2020-03-24

Inspiring

The narrating is very professional and easy to follow.
The book itself is very inspiring and interesting: many personal examples and meaningful recommendations.

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  • R.B.
  • 2020-03-20

really good message

there were some things that I didn't resonate with. but overall would recommend it :).

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  • Mascara13
  • 2020-02-11

Wish I had this book when I was 18

This is such a great book for young women and teens. I'm not the target audience but I still found it really empowering and learned some things. It should be required reading for all young women entering college. Reshma is doing amazing work. If this book had been around when I was a young woman I truly believe I may have taken a very different path.

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  • Bernard
  • 2020-01-29

Based on so many stereotypes

This book was hard to get through because of the limitless number of stereotypes that the book is based off of. As the mother of a boy, I was mildly offended at the presumptions the author makes as you how society raises girls vs boys. You’d think this book was written 50 years ago based on the info. Definitely written for women who have been sheltered & have low self-esteem.

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  • Jared
  • 2020-01-28

Fantastic read!

I have highly recommended this book to a number of friends and colleagues. it is a really great listen and goes by very quickly!

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  • Danielle Parker
  • 2020-01-22

Really great book

Wow! This book was really great. Loved every second of it. Very enlightening about how we raise girls and the double standards. Inspirational and hard hitting.