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Dear Girls

Intimate Tales, Untold Secrets & Advice for Living Your Best Life
Written by: Ali Wong
Narrated by: Ali Wong, Justin Hakuta
Length: 6 hrs and 20 mins
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Publisher's Summary

New York Times Best Seller

Ali Wong's heartfelt and hilarious letters to her daughters (the two she put to work while they were still in utero) covering everything they need to know in life, like the unpleasant details of dating, how to be a working mom in a male-dominated profession, and how she trapped their dad.

"Fierce, feminist, and packed with funny anecdotes." (Entertainment Weekly)

Named one of the best books of the year by Time • Variety • Chicago TribuneGlamour New York

In her hit Netflix comedy special, Baby Cobra, an eight-month pregnant Ali Wong resonated so strongly that she even became a popular Halloween costume. Wong told the world her remarkably unfiltered thoughts on marriage, sex, Asian culture, working women, and why you never see new mom comics on stage but you sure see plenty of new dads.

The sharp insights and humor are even more personal in this completely original collection. She shares the wisdom she’s learned from a life in comedy and reveals stories from her life off stage, including the brutal single life in New York (i.e. the inevitable confrontation with erectile dysfunction), reconnecting with her roots (and drinking snake blood) in Vietnam, tales of being a wild child growing up in San Francisco, and parenting war stories. Though addressed to her daughters, Ali Wong’s letters are absurdly funny, surprisingly moving, and enlightening (and gross) for all.

Praise for Dear Girls

"[Wong] spins a volume whose pages simultaneously shock and satisfy.... Dear Girls is not so much a real-talk handbook as it is a myth-puncturing manifesto." (Vogue)

"[A] refreshing, hilarious, and honest account of making a career in a male-dominated field, dating, being a mom, growing up, and so much more.... Yes, this book is addressed to Wong’s daughters, but every reader will find nuggets of wisdom and inspiration and, most important, something to laugh at." (Bustle)

©2019 Ali Wong (P)2019 Random House Audio

What the critics say

"Dear Girls can be crude and flippant, LOL-dense and breezy - so breezy, in fact, you will be desensitized to the grossest of Wong’s gross-outs by chapter one, at which point you have already learned how to hold in a fart during yoga. But as with her stage comedy, she is also sneakily thoughtful about the public roles she occupies - Asian American, working mom, woman on comedy stages - and the come-from-behind grind they necessarily demand." (Washington Post)

"By now, you know that Ali Wong doesn’t have a filter - and thank goodness for that. She brings the same level of candid heart and humor that you love from her comedy to her new book, covering everything from growing up in San Francisco to finding comedy to having kids. Dear Girls is a ridiculously funny and enlightening collection of letters to her daughters, but it may be just the thing that you need to hear, too." (HelloGiggles)

"A collection of letters to her baby girls that are barn-burning reflections on being a working mom, marriage, sex, and more. If you've ever wanted to have Ali Wong's signature voice in your head for 200+ pages, now's your chance." (Glamour)

"Yes, we fell in love with Ali Wong when we watched her Netflix stand-up specials. Yes, we fell in love with her all over again when we watched her in Always Be My Maybe this Summer. This fall, her world domination is complete with the release of her essay collection, Dear Girls. In it, you'll find hilarious essays written as letters to her two daughters, that are filled with insight and smart observations about motherhood, womanhood, and life in general. (And yes, you're going to fall in love with her all over again. Again.)" (PopSugar)

"All the grunts, the guttural noises, the glee with which she waxes poetic...together serve to bracket the harder times that Wong faced emotionally as she fought to make a name for herself. Frank discussions of what it was like to explore the outer limits of what was deemed 'acceptable' for a young woman in comedy while navigating the dangers of actually being a woman in comedy, the terrors of safekeeping your own body in scary situations, make the raunch crucial to her story. Her embrace of the ugly as intrinsically human makes listening to the groans and snorts and other nonverbal sounds she emits a genuine pleasure." (The New York Times Book Review)

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Amazing

Loved this book a lot, there were great stories and advice. Highly recommend this audiobook to anyone who needs a laugh.

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Cry. Laugh. Cringe.

Such a wonderful look into the makings of a bad ass comedian. I loved the stories which showed how wildly diffent and completely similar I am to this women. Her daughters will be so proud to read this one day. And also probably scarred.

Deffinatly worth the listen if you want to laugh.

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Ridiculously funny!

Fantastic book. Was she talking to me or her girls?! Funny and inspiring; would highly recommend for all young women to read!

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This is not for the faint of heart

If you are offended easily... walk away.

I really liked it:) hope you do too.

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Absolutely Amazing

I truly loved every part of this book. It was hilarious and sweet, and honest and moving. I laughed, I cried, I laugh cried, and I cannot recommend it more. It made me feel better about my own shit, and have more understanding for others and myself. It also has inspired me to try and expand my horizons and experience more things. You will not regret reading/listening to this book. I promise. It's fabulous.

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Raunchy

Some stories are relatable while others are vulgar or unsettling so the book is a bit startling. There are interesting cultural and generational insights.

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Absolutely raunchy and hilarious!

This book had me constantly in stitches. Not recommended for anyone offended by bad language.

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Don’t trust Audicted reviews

I bought this book because it was recommended on audicted . I found it overly crass and over the top with offensive language..The theme of preparing one’s daughters for life is a good idea but it could have been done with more class.

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Soo amazing

This is just what I needed... listening to this book during a hard time in my life this book had everything I needed to hear but also everything I don’t have the relationship with my mother to hear from her! If only I could get some of the men in my life to read this book! I think it would help them get a reality check lol

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So relatable

Finished the book in two days, in the car, making dinner, and before bedtime. The book was fragmented in time, all over the place in no chronological order, and organized kinda haphazardly but I guess it made sense to Ali's train of thought. Ali made me laugh, and cry, and laughed till I cried. She had hilarious anecdotes of her trials and tribulations as a struggling artist. But it was her pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood stories had me in stitches laughing in the car on the way to work. It's like she described my own stories in her words with colourful foul language. Her cultural upbringing was so relatable to myself, an Asian-Canadian, when she described her way to discovering her cultural identity in crude humour and honest dialogue. Her Asian family and her relationships with them felt genuine and oddly similar. Justin's letter at the end was so touching and kind, it really wrapped the book up in a perfect package. Though it doesn't matter what race you are, I'm sure Ali will make you laugh till you pee yourself.

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  • Erica P.
  • 2019-10-17

This book is the shit!

Honestly, I loved everything about this book! Ali Wong's narration is perfect. She tells it like it is, she's honest, and does not hold anything back. I'm not a mother, but as a daughter I can definitely respect this type of honesty. I think what topped it off for me was the afterword done by her husband, Justin Hakuta. To hear a man speak they way he did about Ali and his daughters just melted my heart and reafirms my belief that there are good men out there. Thank you for this book!!

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  • Eric Y.
  • 2019-10-19

So honest and truthful

Ali exposes herself in such away that makes you look and reflect at your own life. Written as a letter to her daughters Ali shares what she has learned in her life. Through Ali’s sharing she not only tells her story but also shares that there is learning through all the journey we call life. One surprising quote to hear from her “There is no linear path to success. And no linear path to maintaining it even if you do achieve it.” That type of wisdom only comes from a person that has live through difficult times.

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  • 2019-10-18

Loved every moment of listening to it!

As a Chinese I first encountered Ali Wong through Instagram posts by other celebrities I am following, then followed her on instagram, and I smile or laugh looking at her posts, then watched the cartoon she narrated as one of the birds:) listening to this book brought me so much joy!! I finished it within two days!!! So appreciative of her honesty, humor and grounded personality. Also loved her husband’s afterwards, filled with love towards their daughters and families:) Try it out! You wouldn’t be disappointed!!!

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  • Ruthi
  • 2019-10-16

Absolutely hilarious & perfect

Longer review to come but short & sweet: hilarious, full of heart & 100% Ali Wong! Definitely one to get on audiobook even if you don’t do them because she brings it to life in a way I wouldn’t have even liked let alone love if I’d done text. Definitely a great choice for rough days!

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  • Michelle
  • 2019-10-15

Laugh out loud funny

I was so entrenched in Ali’s storytelling that I was late on my commute. Her ability to weave through vulnerable moments with raw and real humor comes through in this book just as much as her standup comedy. You won’t be disappointed!

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  • Leticia
  • 2019-10-21

Must Listen to or Read book!

I knew Ali was funny but this book! Had me laugh & cry and then laugh again too much. I
Had my husband listen to parts of it when I couldn’t atop laughing and it made me think of certain things in my own life. Thanks Ali Wong for being REAL and sharing your life with us. This book has touch my heart in so many different ways.

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  • Jen
  • 2019-10-22

Laugh-out-loud funny!!!

Ali Wong geniusly mixes raunchy comedy with nuggets of wisdom. It will make you cry from laughing but also from being moved by her honestly and truth. The icing on the cake is dad’s epilogue—made me cry the whole time! You just feel the genuine love all around. Highly recommend!!!

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  • DCSaw
  • 2019-10-21

Same Ali...Loved This

It was great to hear Ali Wong be so vulnerable and honest in her book. I think her daughters will truly appreciate their mother on a different level one day. It was just as good as her stand up and I'm so glad I took a listen. I've always dreamt of leaving my sons a similar book about myself, but it's probably best I don't. If I had daughters, a different story. :-)

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  • Swoo
  • 2019-10-16

Loved her Netflix special, Loved her book

Ali Wong, in the long format version. Enjoyable, comical, raw. I expected nothing less from her and she delivered.

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  • Rosie
  • 2019-12-26

More love for Ali Wong

I thought that Ali Wong was funny, but this book makes her real. She is so insiteful, vulnerable with a funny delivery that I had my teenage son listen to some of the chapters (skipping over parts obviously not meant for teens to hear), which helps him, my little suburbanite, to understand me better as a SF native with the struggles of being different.

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