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Publisher's Summary

Severing a cherished relationship is one of the most painful experiences in life - and cutting those emotional ties to a loved one can feel almost like ending an addiction. Up till now, people recovering from other problems were able to get real help - like AA and rehab - while those struggling in the aftermath of traumatic breaks dealt with platitudes and friends insisting they should "get over it already". But now Exaholics Anonymous treats getting over an ex like kicking a chemical habit.   

Written by counselor and therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby, Exaholics offers meaningful support and advice to anyone trapped in the obsessive pain of a broken, or dying, attachment. She helps the brokenhearted heal, showing them, on a deep level, how to develop a conceptual framework for their experience, understand the emotional processes at work inside themselves, find the path to recovery, and free themselves of shame, injured ego, and remorse. In-depth case studies of others' journeys will illuminate the way to future happiness.

©2015 Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, LMFT, BCC (P)2019 Tantor

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Indispensable

This book saved my life, no jokes.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby helps you at every stage. Have listened throughout my recovery process. I’m not all the way there yet, but this book helped me get unstuck and moving in a positive direction.

Highly recommend if your are going through heartbreak, and also hope that your are well a know you are not alone.

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  • Yamilett
  • 2020-02-22

It helped a lot

I started this audiobook when I was still feeling really confused and was stalking the ex a lot . And every time I’d check to see what he was doing or who he was with or check on his family or friends to see if they’d post about him, I’d feel so bad afterwards. Like why am I doing this to myself. This book really helped!!

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  • Sarah El
  • 2020-09-08

Don’t waste your time

This sucked. Authors voice sounds naive and girlish and this was so fucking ramble-y. Ended up feeling worse after hearing this shit, not better. Don’t waste your time

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  • 2020-09-03

Don’t waste your time

Horrible drivel that couldn’t get any worse until you hear the narrator who sounds so disingenuous and contrived that you can’t make it past the first chapter. This must be written for 16 year olds.

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  • S. W.
  • 2020-09-29

Sadly Repetitive

The same few sentences seemed to be repeated over and over in different ways in this book. It’s a lot of explaining the scientific reasons why it’s understandable when you have your heart broken.

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  • Gezzy
  • 2019-11-12

More helpful than I knew I needed!

This book tackled some hard to deal with ups and downs associated with getting over an Ex Love. I reached rock bottom and thought about ending it all, then I found this book. It helped knowing that I was not alone in feelings of deep hurt, shame and guilt for struggling to move past an Ex Love.

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  • Nikki Davis
  • 2021-01-09

generic, just.generic..."when Jen met Matt" blah !

I have a feeling I got held back on my dislike for the beginning of this book. nope awful

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  • 2020-02-21

Wow

This book is amazing and I have recommended it to others in this situation, I am thankful to have stumbled upon it !

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  • Jessy Mendia
  • 2021-05-29

oh gawd no

not what I thought it would be. Wish I could get my credit back 😭

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  • deerjeff
  • 2021-03-15

More negative than hope

Spends over 3/4 of the time talking about the pain then actually talking about solutions and hope. We all know the problem, what’s the solutions or options

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  • Kendra Elliott
  • 2020-10-15

Life changing book

Regardless of your degree of “exaholism” this book is incredible! It starts by giving you a way at the beginning of a breakup to give yourself emotional space to grieve. I feel like what differentiates this book from every other “just gets over it breakup book” is how it then describes step by step how to move past the “train your mind to avoid the pain” directly in to “face the pain, walk through the hurt and emerge on the other side a different human with more emotional and relationship skills than you had at the beginning”. Too many of us get caught at the ignore and avoid stage and then figure out work is done because the pain has subsided only to re enter the same relationship (with a different person, or go back to the same person) and try again. But, when nothing changes..... nothing changes, right? This book gives you the tools for change. Highly recommend.

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