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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests
- Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keeps Us from Optimal Living
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hrs and 44 mins
- Abridged Audiobook
- Categories: Health & Wellness, Psychology & Mental Health
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"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.
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A must-have day-to-day guide!
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- A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
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While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless.
Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
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The Dance of Connection
- Written by: Harriet Lerner
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 4 hrs and 38 mins
- Abridged
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Overall
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Performance
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Story
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- A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
- Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 2 hrs and 52 mins
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The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct, and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships, be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member.
Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
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Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters
- Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
- Written by: Harriet Lerner PhD
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner PhD
- Length: 1 hr and 28 mins
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Before a woman is anything else, she is a daughter. Her relationship with her mother anchors every other relationship in her life. Yet as an adult she may still blame her mother, try to change her, or fail to speak out about issues that matter. Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters is a personal conversation for every woman who seeks to better understand the mystery of the mother-daughter bond.
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Sad when it ended :(
- By Britt Negus on 2020-04-11
Written by: Harriet Lerner PhD
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Why Won't You Apologize?
- Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
- Written by: Harriet Lerner PhD
- Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
- Length: 4 hrs and 36 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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Performance
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Story
Renowned psychologist and best-selling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language - I'm sorry - and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.
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Probably a good read for everyone
- By Anonymous User on 2022-08-04
Written by: Harriet Lerner PhD
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The Dance of Anger
- A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- Written by: Harriet Lerner
- Narrated by: Barbara Caruso
- Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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Performance
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Story
"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.
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A must-have day-to-day guide!
- By Isana on 2018-12-06
Written by: Harriet Lerner
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The Dance of Anger
- A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
- Narrated by: Harriet Lerner
- Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
- Abridged
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While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless.
Written by: Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
Publisher's Summary
Unhappiness, says best-selling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hit, they may become our constant companions.
With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn:
- How to have the courage to speak, act, and show up when we are anxious and afraid
- How to deal with the fear of not being good enough and the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate
- How to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace
- How to manage fear and despair when things fall apart
- How "positive thinking" helps and harms
- How to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified
No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can't avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.
What the critics say
"Conversational and often witty." (Publishers Weekly)
"Superb insights." (Library Journal)
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- Marty
- 2007-12-27
very insightful and realistic
This book is excellent in many respects but first a comment about the author's delivery, which other reviewers have made into the issue about this book. It's true. The delivery takes some getting used to. Also, the book starts out a bit slow. It takes time to get to the parts that are actually useful. But, it does provides some very deep insights, in relatively simple terms and what I prize most about her account is that she's realistic and also self-deprecating. If you are looking for ways to understand anxiety and fear and other mind states that can be quite debilitating, this is an excellent resource and the author's perspective provides a sense of understanding that in and of itself can be healing. Excellent book, warts and all.
13 people found this helpful
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- Brenda
- 2006-01-30
Very informative and helpful
Once you get past the sometimes monotonous tone of the author, this book is very helpful. I have read a number of books on anxiety but this one tackles all the issues. She discusses shame, fear, depression, anxiety, and phobias, as well as other conditions and how they all relate.
She takes a somewhat mediation approach to her psychology. That is, being aware of what you are thinking and using this knowledge to move on productively. This approach to me is the best because it forces you to be real and actually deal with you emotions instead of finding ways to distract yourself from them. Her speech is also very real and as a listener you feel connected to her. Some books feel clinical, but not this one.
If you are serious about healing your mind, this is the book to get. It offers concrete advice and is filled with humorous and personal stories. She doesn't just ask you to expose your weakenesses, she invites you to listen to hers as well. So get past her monotone voice and understand the message.
15 people found this helpful
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- B. Brown
- 2020-04-17
Insightful!
So much wisdom packed into three hour-long chapters! Lerner is a pro at the content. Her delivery was a little hypnotizing, slow, and repetitive. I suggest listening to it at a faster speed than 1.0.
5 people found this helpful
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- Steveorevo
- 2007-11-08
Boring, and anxiety inducing
The speaker is very monotone and provides too lengthy analogies about anxieties such as fear of flying, why anxieties are good for you (i.e. a kid that died river rafting). If you don't have enough anxieties, this book will give some more to think about. Granted, the author is attempting to enlighten positive points, but the monotone and very long personal experience will either bore you to tears before making good on any points... if any. I was too bored to ever finish a complete sentence each time I started a session of this particular audiobook (average session being 45 minutes!). I tried, about 5 times and gave up. There are four hours of this but if you have panic attacks I would recommend listening to "Pass Through Panic" by Dr. Claire Weekes five times in a row.
10 people found this helpful
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- Shelly
- 2015-06-30
Harriet Lerner, again, makes it look doable.
I have read Harriet Lerner's books for many years. I find myself rereading them every once in a while when I lapse back into old thinking habits.
She is a down to earth person who is gifted with the ability to break things down to a basic level. I love the examples she shares to illustrate her logic.
It is refreshing to hear her laugh about herself and the experiences that have made her the strong, empowered woman she is today.
I just wish I could find an unabridged recording. I miss the additional stories and concepts that are not included in the abridged recording.
3 people found this helpful
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- Samantha F.
- 2020-07-08
understandable and insightful
this book was an easy listen filled with insight. great for anyone interested in understanding and building a healthy relationship with negative emotions
1 person found this helpful
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- Still Lettos
- 2017-11-09
Painful to listen to
While I liked a few thoughts the author had for the 45 minutes I tried this one, this book was completely BRUTAL to listen to. Her voice dips and pauses after every. single. phrase. I can't finish it.
1 person found this helpful
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- SmileyGuy
- 2007-09-12
Psycho Is In Psychotherapist
Firstly, this book is primarily geared to women, which is fine, but guys need to know that prior to thinking about ordering it.
Secondly, if you want to know all about this author's crazy life and how she doesn't handle it well, it's a great listen. I get the impression that if you looked at her cross-eyed, she'd turn into a jellyfish.
Unfortunately, for true anxiety sufferers, there really isn't much to be found here. Although this type of issue could never be resolved in a three hour audiobook, this book is still quite a let down.
6 people found this helpful
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- John
- 2005-05-16
Stopped listening 1 hour deep
This audiobook may have had some interesting nuggets, but they were hard to mine from the narrator's irritating tone and impossibly slow pace.
11 people found this helpful
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- Meena
- 2021-10-14
No one other than Harriet
Loved it. No one can present such hard material as simply and as clearly as Harriet.