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  • Written by: Terrence Real
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Fierce Intimacy

Written by: Terrence Real
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Publisher's Summary

Proven Skills for Navigating the Real Challenges of Intimate Relationships 

What does it take for couples to sustain love? How can you deepen your relationship even when you and your partner disagree, fight, or let each other down? “Intimacy isn’t something you have. It’s something you do”, teaches Terry Real. “It’s a minute-by-minute practice of connecting to others through empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.” With Fierce Intimacy, this renowned author offers a revolutionary way of living in connection - one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure.  

How to Communicate with Love and Respect - Even When You Argue 

Terry’s approach to relationship is called “full-respect living” - to skillfully and honestly assert your needs while also honoring your partner’s needs. In these six sessions, he presents invaluable training for individuals and couples on developing the skills necessary for this authentic way of connecting. You’ll begin by learning how to clear away the outdated beliefs and habits that keep you from developing healthy self-esteem. Then Terry will help you and your partner transform the Five Losing Strategies that sabotage relationships into the Five Winning Strategies that lead to clear communication, trust, and mutual support.  

“When we dare to be more vulnerable and open and honest, we are forging new territory”, says Terry Real. Whether you’re still seeking a partner or want to breathe new life into your existing relationship, Fierce Intimacy brings you essential tools for connecting with true respect, uncompromising honesty, and ever-deepening love.  

Highlights

  • The adaptive child - how to recognize and defuse self-sabotaging habits
  • Unhealthy self-esteem traps for men and women 
  • Identifying your CNI (Core Negative Image) - a key to making arguments constructive instead of destructive
  • The Feedback Wheel - a four-step approach to revolutionize your communication 
  • The Five Losing Strategies: our impulses to control, retaliate, and be right all the time 
  • The Five Winning Strategies for shared happiness, connection, and success 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2018 Terry Real (P)2018 Sounds True

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Best relationship book I've read in a long time!

Wow! Straight advice that's easy to follow. Glad I overlooked the negative reviews. I'm not really sure about the one saying he's got a problem with fat people. I didn't hear that at all except for a rant about him talking about someone's "fat little head" for about 5 minutes.

I heard his podcast on Goop and immediately looked up his books. Turns out I had looked at this book weeks before and avoided it because of some of the reviews.

Practical and self deprecating advice.

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great book with amazing relationships tools

I absolutely loved it, so well written and narrated, it teaches incredible tools that can be used in every relationship.

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  • DL
  • 2023-03-24

Straight Forward No B.S!

I love Terry's work; it is straight to the point with no B.S....... Honest, tangible guidance for those tough relationship challenges that most couples face! Great listen!

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Excellent RLT tools

Found this one great. It is shorter than his other audios— and he is the narrator.

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Very helpful

I loved everything about this audio book. I like Terry is the narrator himself. In Fierce Intimacy he gives the listener basically the content of a workshop. So you get a lot of value for the price of an audio book. The exercises and insights he shares are very valuable.

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Best title I’ve ever read on the subject

I love Terence’s down to earth approach. He does a great job at simplifying a sometimes complicated subject.

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Must read for nearly everyone

Just amazing - this book can change for better your relationships with others and as a result - your life

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life changing book!

In the words of Bill and Ted, "be excellent to eachother!"

This book teaches just that.

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  • 2021-08-17

Lots to learn in this book

There are lots of nuggets of growth in this book. The closest thing to a 'step-by-step guide' to marriage, if one is possible.

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Mind Blown!!

Terry Real has opened my mind and approach to all my relationships. I’ve experienced such wonderful shifts with my dating partner, my mother, siblings and friends so far and I’ve just finished it - I’m excited by the potential ahead for more transparency, intimacy and satisfaction!!

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  • Danae Duby
  • 2019-09-30

If you can pick the gold out of the fat phobia, it’s gold.

Honestly, this might be one of the most useful and practical relationship books I’ve ever read. I just finished it and I’m about to immediately restart it.
The author is definitely fat phobic and often tells people they need to lose weight to get their lives together (which is bullshit if you’re familiar with any actual science). He also uses “fat” as an insult. But! If you can withstand the fact that he is human, and is still struggling to understand how fat phobia is harmful...then every other part of this book is amazing. There is 100x more awesome info in this book, than damaging anti-fatness. If your self esteem can take it, then definitely give the book a listen. It’s a game-changer...even if the author is an arrogant white dude ;)

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  • Dimeadozen
  • 2019-03-07

Life changing

This is one of the most influential pieces of content that I have ever purchased. I have been giving this and sharing this with my entire extended network of professional men. I would estimate that 30 to 40 guys that I know, have begun work on themselves with the help of this content. The feedback that I received from the people I’ve shared this with who are going through it themselves mirrors my own incredible Journey with this content. Fierce intimacy, quite possibly saved my marriage. It certainly made me a better friend, father, and business leader.

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  • UrbanUtah
  • 2020-06-16

Wow!....

I am currently the partner in a 20 year relationship in crisis. Our therapist recommended reading this book during our first session. Being an audible subscriber I immediately logged in and found the book, having no idea what I was about to embark on—the title was a little misleading. My husband has been reading it as well, although I devoured the book in 3 days he is listening at a more leisurely pace. That might be because I am the one in crisis, I am the one standing at the precipice of a chasm that looks a bit like divorce. Halfway through this book I said to myself...alone and out loud, “I wish I had read this book when I was 20, my life might have taken a different course.” I most certainly would have entered into relationships as a much more healthy person with a far greater understanding of what I was getting myself into. I loved the book so much I gifted it via Audible to my 26-year-old daughter in the hopes she might find enlightenment and understanding in her relationship and as a new parent. I would’ve gifted it to my son, but he doesn’t have an audible account and he hates reading books, but I certainly made a point of giving him the name and author. At nearly 32 years old I figured he could use it too, largely because he’s had several failed relationships and there might be something to that, lol. I highly recommend this book. It was like the awakening after reading Men are from Mars Women are from Venus back in the late 80s. It is imperative that we move our relationships into balance and equality. Whether my marriage works or not this book was well worth the read. In fact, I will probably read it over and over again as I “do the work” for myself so that either my current relationship is healthier or my next relationship is far better. Thank you Terry!

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  • Stacy Mccaughn
  • 2019-04-12

invaluable

I have listened to this audio book two times now and seem to learn something new every time I listen to it. I mostly do individual therapy and I must say that this relational therapy approach is wonderful.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2021-01-25

Best relational book I’ve ever stumbled upon

Great narration, very easy and pleasant to listen to.
Real skills, real understanding, nothing missing, nothing unnecessary. No common sense filling.
Men friendly, unpretentious, yet strong messages. I was already familiar with the theoretical basis of this book and still learned a lot from it. Give it a try!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-10-25

exceptional

Terry Real has a lock on relationship do's and don'ts. He has an amazing insight through his own personal experience in the winning and losing strategies of communicating with your partner. A truly insightful assessment of letting someone you love know what you need.

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  • 2021-04-12

Amazing

if you are ready to really listen and learn about yourself and how to approach others, this is beyond awesome. He is easy to listen to...I am on my third go round.

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  • Sarah4321
  • 2022-10-30

Author is a self-admitted Narcissist

Don’t waste your time on this book. You’ll just have the “pleasure” of listening to this person talk about himself for 15 hours. Oh, and he talks a lot about his wife, who never has a chance to add her 2 cents. He uses a lot of phrases like “you women” as in “the thing you women need to understand is…” and he also says “if a woman is being an absolute witch.” Hard pass. I’ll take my relationship advice without a side of misogyny.

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  • shira
  • 2020-06-05

Take lots of notes & markers to go back to & listen time after time

This is a great book; it includes information that allows you to identify behaviors and give them names, it then explains the reason behind such behaviors and dynamics and THEN it gives practical, simple, hard and incredibly effective practices to change the way you are towards yourself and in your relationship for the healthier- listen to it! Better more, practice it!!

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  • Michelle Spurling
  • 2019-06-14

I loved this book!

So practical, insightful, wise and easy to follow. I will listen to the audible book repeatedly and I just bought Terrance Real's other book for even more supportive guidance.

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