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  • Forgiving What You Can't Forget

  • Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again
  • Written by: Lysa TerKeurst
  • Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst
  • Length: 8 hrs and 20 mins
  • 4.2 out of 5 stars (54 ratings)

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Forgiving What You Can't Forget

Written by: Lysa TerKeurst
Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst
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Number one New York Times best seller

You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can't go on living like this, but you don't know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.

With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

  • Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry.
  • Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.
  • Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.
  • Identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.
  • Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts
©2020 Lysa TerKeurst (P)2020 Thomas Nelson

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For Christians

If you are a Christian this might be for you. If you are looking for an opinion this might be for you. One persons story who explains why it takes a little more work than letting Jesus take the wheel. Boring. Really wanted to like this book.

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Forgiving what you can’t forget

I expected more, more practical skills, more clinical theories.. not religion. I don’t mind the occasional, religious context, but not the whole book. So much so that, I didn’t even want to finish reading.

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needs to have a religious disclaimer

Unfortunately, this was a DNF for me because it's all about Jesus. No empirical evidence or studies...

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fine message but too much bible talk

the message is fine but it's too much bible talk. she has a nice voice.

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No no no

Trash. This is just a book about Jesus (god, or whatever) helping you heal. Absolutely not a help at all. Whatsoever. I did not finish this and regret wasting a credit.

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Way to religious

I am a religious person but reference to the God and the Bible every few sentences really takes away from the learnings. Not happy I wasted my money on this.

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The words I needed

This is helping me. It’s definitely helping me let go and look at my situation differently.

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Great points…not for those who don’t believe in “Him”/God

Can relate to the overall points but instantly turned off by the heavy religious foundation.

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very challenging

this was very challenging book. I had to stop many times just to process

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read the Bible instead of this trash
both are horrible and repetitive and extremely colonialistic.

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  • Michelle
  • 2020-12-26

Heartfelt and practical

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very gentle and compassionate words and voice
practical tools to help you forgive and more forward
all founded on the blood of Jesus

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the tenderness and analogies can be a little over the top and be distracting. I saw a review that said that earlier and was like "whatever I'm sure it's fine" but wow. I get it now.
it seems more practical and helpful if there's hope for reconciliation. I was hoping more for how to move forward in a relationship when there's forgiveness but not reconciliation. maybe I just need to re-read "Boundaries" for that. This author's story shows her finding peace and forgiveness without the offender, and then walking through reconciliation with the offender. im stuck in limbo where I can continue on in relationship and find peace and forgiveness, but the offender likely will never admit wrong so im trying to figure how to navigate that without being stupid but also not letting bitterness take root. This did help me a little but would likely help people who are either cut off completely OR reconciling completely. that weird in between isn't really addressed.

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  • Mom2many
  • 2020-12-03

Should have sampled first

I bought this book after listening to an interview the author gave. She was interesting and had a great story of forgiveness and redemption. I only wish she would write like she speaks. When nonfiction authors use phrases like "dance in the sun drenched meadow of redemption" (not her exact words) I want to gag. Maybe because I am a to-the-point person I want to read to-the-point books. I'm sure she gave great advice on forgiveness and I still admire her greatly for her testimony, but I only made it halfway through the book. It was too melodramatic for my taste.

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  • Carole
  • 2020-11-22

When the student is ready to receive the teacher appears

This book was written for me
Soo many things paralleled my journey
Told in such a way that I could understand & not feel ashamed that I have not been able to forgive
To understand that what happened to me was devastating but not the end of who I Am
With gratitude Lysa...





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  • Consumer Woman
  • 2020-11-24

Worth the Read

If you're struggling with forgiveness of others over some really difficult issues then this is the text book to move towards healing. We each have to do the work to heal, to forgive. Lysa's book helps you do just that.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 2020-12-04

The best book of 2020... or ever

Lysa literally could have been talking about me. Maybe not the exact circumstances, but the thoughts, responses, hurts and learning processes were spot on. This is more than a book on just plain old forgiveness. This is real, raw truth about every piece of real life hurts and how we deal with them. This is also direct and honest about what GOD says about forgiveness, NOT what people say. I've read pretty much all of Lysa's books and this was the most guy wrenching, honest, nod-my-head-in-agreement book she's ever written. Who says God can't take the worst heartache and make good come from it? It's proven right here on the words in this book. Don't miss what is offered here!

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  • Ryan
  • 2020-11-26

Lysa Terkeurst does it again

Continuing to use her story to help share life experiences with others is so encouraging.

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  • Jade Harvey
  • 2020-11-27

Very Helpful and Encouraging

As someone who, like everyone, is struggling through pain; I found this book to be a very helpful and encouraging resource. I hope to use this wisdom on my journey through forgiveness.

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  • Sasha Coley
  • 2020-12-03

forgiveness

Hearing these words and putting my situation into play, I knew I needed to forgive. I played this in the car and someone riding with me started listening. They started to ask questions about forgiveness and if they needed to forgive. This book of conversation and I enjoyed the read.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2021-04-22

Too religious

Give it a religious name because i'd like some info from a real professional, not a bible-thumper.

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  • Alcald1987
  • 2021-01-17

Forgiveness explained in a super empathetic way

This book is written by a woman who has known immense grief. She explains forgiveness in ways even the people in the most pain will be willing to hear out. There's no sense of condemnation thrown at the reader. Just empathy and an approach of great love and so much care toward the hurting person seeking the right avenues.

As someone who struggles with unforgiveness due to great pain, I decided to listen to the audio of this book as a way to help unfold why I am having such a hard time forgiving and letting something go that the people I am upset with already let go and moved on from forgetting I even exist while they live off of using others to keep themselves above water and constantly leave people worse off than when they found them, but are happy while I'm sobbing. At least this was the view I had going into it. I have realized more than ever that it wasn't so much what was done to me, but what emotional triggers that were already there inside me from early childhood traumas that the actions from these two brought to the surface (feelings of inadequacy and rejection, feeling that I don't matter, etc.). I learned that in order for people to do this to others, however, they have to be experiencing their own sort of emotional hell, and may not fully realize what they're leaving in their wake. Broken people are selfish sometimes due to wanting to prevent what hurt them before from happening again. They take from others to feel better, but are too tired or distracted by grief to give back in return. I realized from this book too that those people are loved by God more than I will ever fully understand in this life, and they need prayer for healing. They need the love of Christ. They need God to fill their voids. I realize it may be for that very reason I met them, so I could see the extent to their detriment, see past their emotional projections stemming from their internal emotional hell, and pray for whatever it is causing them to act out in such a way to be brought to the surface and for them to seek healing from it. This book allows you to see different perspectives like this. It's worth about 10 more listens. I can't give anything word for word after the first read, but I can say how much better I feel and how softened my heart is in comparison to before I started. My Holy Spirit heard every word which is evidence to my softened heart and my determination to forgive and to pray for those who hurt me to heal and to turn to God for their affirmation and to stop using and then hurting others.

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