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  • Forgiving What You Can't Forget

  • Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again
  • Written by: Lysa TerKeurst
  • Narrated by: Lysa TerKeurst
  • Length: 8 hrs and 7 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Categories: Religion & Spirituality, Christianity
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (31 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Number one New York Times best seller

You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can't go on living like this, but you don't know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.

With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

  • Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry.
  • Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.
  • Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.
  • Identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.
  • Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts
©2020 Lysa TerKeurst (P)2020 Thomas Nelson

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read the Bible instead of this trash
both are horrible and repetitive and extremely colonialistic.

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Forgiveness equals Freedom

This is for everyone, no matter how great or small, an act of forgiveness is needed.
Lisa gives an eye-opening and heart-warming discussion on forgiveness.

Jesus Saves

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A realistic, compassionate guide

I wish I also had the paper version but I enjoyed hearing Lysa's voice of compassion and understanding reading her story and studies. There are other books on Biblical forgiveness which contain similar Biblical principles, but few if any wrapped with the vulnerability, humility, compassion and understanding that Lysa offers. The "how to" aspect carries a lot of weight since the author has so recently walked this difficult road and personally wrestled so deeply with these issues.

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Wonderful Wisdom

The first chapter of this book really brings out raw feeling and emotion, I feel like Lysa was speaking directly to me. This book mentions a lot about God and being religious, myself I am more of a spiritual person, but could still relate to the messages. After listening to it once I could for sure say that I disagree or am not at the point of being where she talks about being mindfully. I screamed back at the book at some points to point out my shear distaste for what she was saying. That doesn't mean she is wrong. That only tells me I have alot more room to grow and will for sure be listening to this book more than once or twice. I can literally see/feel myself changing day to day internally. Not reacting as I once did to certain things or situations. I would recommend this book.

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For Christians

If you are a Christian this might be for you. If you are looking for an opinion this might be for you. One persons story who explains why it takes a little more work than letting Jesus take the wheel. Boring. Really wanted to like this book.

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Forgiving what you can’t forget

I expected more, more practical skills, more clinical theories.. not religion. I don’t mind the occasional, religious context, but not the whole book. So much so that, I didn’t even want to finish reading.

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  • Soly
  • 2020-11-30

Waaaay Toooo Many Bible references...dragged on.

She basically is pushing Jesus, God and the Bible. Which is fine but if someone is agnostic, or not Christian this book is very bible thumpy. Nothing about mental health or cognitive behavior solutions. I should have researched the author before purchasing. Don’t get this book if you’re not Christian, it drags on otherwise. I wanted to like this book, but everything in it referred back to a verse in the Bible....I’ve actually read the Bible front to back.

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  • Michelle
  • 2020-12-26

Heartfelt and practical

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very gentle and compassionate words and voice
practical tools to help you forgive and more forward
all founded on the blood of Jesus

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the tenderness and analogies can be a little over the top and be distracting. I saw a review that said that earlier and was like "whatever I'm sure it's fine" but wow. I get it now.
it seems more practical and helpful if there's hope for reconciliation. I was hoping more for how to move forward in a relationship when there's forgiveness but not reconciliation. maybe I just need to re-read "Boundaries" for that. This author's story shows her finding peace and forgiveness without the offender, and then walking through reconciliation with the offender. im stuck in limbo where I can continue on in relationship and find peace and forgiveness, but the offender likely will never admit wrong so im trying to figure how to navigate that without being stupid but also not letting bitterness take root. This did help me a little but would likely help people who are either cut off completely OR reconciling completely. that weird in between isn't really addressed.

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  • Carole
  • 2020-11-22

When the student is ready to receive the teacher appears

This book was written for me
Soo many things paralleled my journey
Told in such a way that I could understand & not feel ashamed that I have not been able to forgive
To understand that what happened to me was devastating but not the end of who I Am
With gratitude Lysa...





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  • Mom2many
  • 2020-12-03

Should have sampled first

I bought this book after listening to an interview the author gave. She was interesting and had a great story of forgiveness and redemption. I only wish she would write like she speaks. When nonfiction authors use phrases like "dance in the sun drenched meadow of redemption" (not her exact words) I want to gag. Maybe because I am a to-the-point person I want to read to-the-point books. I'm sure she gave great advice on forgiveness and I still admire her greatly for her testimony, but I only made it halfway through the book. It was too melodramatic for my taste.

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  • Mel
  • 2020-12-11

Could have been written to me

First of all... the people talking about how they don't like how there are to many bible references... DO RESEARCH DUDE. Lysa is literally the President of Proverbs31 MINISTRIES. Have a seat.

Moving on...
This is a brilliantly painfully insightful book. Lysa is raw and vulnerable and relatable. She backs up her process with scripture and testimony of God's promises to us. I loved that she did the narration herself because you can feel it. I cried and laughed more than once. I will definitely do a reread because I am sure I will have new take-aways the second time around.

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  • Consumer Woman
  • 2020-11-24

Worth the Read

If you're struggling with forgiveness of others over some really difficult issues then this is the text book to move towards healing. We each have to do the work to heal, to forgive. Lysa's book helps you do just that.

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  • Ryan
  • 2020-11-26

Lysa Terkeurst does it again

Continuing to use her story to help share life experiences with others is so encouraging.

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  • Rodrigo
  • 2021-01-26

Another Jesus book, glad I can get my money back.

Another Jesus book, glad I can get my money back.
Extremely disappointing, definitely won’t be reading anything from this author again.

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  • Jade Harvey
  • 2020-11-27

Very Helpful and Encouraging

As someone who, like everyone, is struggling through pain; I found this book to be a very helpful and encouraging resource. I hope to use this wisdom on my journey through forgiveness.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 2020-12-04

The best book of 2020... or ever

Lysa literally could have been talking about me. Maybe not the exact circumstances, but the thoughts, responses, hurts and learning processes were spot on. This is more than a book on just plain old forgiveness. This is real, raw truth about every piece of real life hurts and how we deal with them. This is also direct and honest about what GOD says about forgiveness, NOT what people say. I've read pretty much all of Lysa's books and this was the most guy wrenching, honest, nod-my-head-in-agreement book she's ever written. Who says God can't take the worst heartache and make good come from it? It's proven right here on the words in this book. Don't miss what is offered here!

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