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Getting to Zero
- How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships
- Narrated by: Jayson Gaddis
- Length: 8 hrs and 19 mins
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Publisher's Summary
The counselor, teacher, and founder of The Relationship School reveals the origins of conflict styles, and how to stop avoiding and resolve conflict in relationships with loved ones.
Conflicts in our closest relationships are scary because so much is at stake. If the conflict doesn't go well, we could lose our marriage, our family, or our job, all connected to our security and survival. So we do just about anything not to lose those relationships, including avoid conflict, betraying ourselves or becoming dishonest. Unresolved conflict affects every single aspect of our lives, from self-confidence to physical and mental health.
Jayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world’s leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals, couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero - how “clean and clear” we feel with others when we have successfully worked through a disagreement. We get to a place where there is “zero” conflict.
In Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the listener how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them. Through funny personal stories, uncomfortable examples, and effective tools and skills, he shows the listener how to move from disconnection to connection, acceptance, and understanding. This method upgrades the old tired and static conflict resolution approaches and offers a fresh, street-level, user-friendly road map on exactly how to work through conflict with the people you care most about.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
What the critics say
“In this compelling guide to approaching conflict in our most intimate relationships, Jayson Gaddis offers a science-informed, practical toolbox for resolving the inevitable tensions that arise in our personal and professional lives. Filled with useful concepts and readily applicable steps to sensing and solving interpersonal challenges, repairing ruptures when they occur, this book is not about trying to achieve a life without difficulties in our relationships, but is about moving toward a receptive state of calm and clarity - a state our author names as “zero” - in which we can engage our inner life and our connections with others with kindness and presence that research suggests are at the core of mutually rewarding, generative ways of living with compassion, connection, and well-being.” (Daniel J. Siegel, MD, executive director, Mindsight Institute, New York Times best-selling author of IntraConnected, Mind, Mindsight, and Aware)
“Jayson Gaddis has written, in our view, one of the most clear and helpful books on this endemic feature of our humanity: conflict. If you want to know what conflict is and how to resolve it, Getting to Zero will give you to that destination. We recommend this book to everyone who has ever felt that twitch which plunges us into darkness. While it is replete with accessible theory about what is happening in your mind and brain, it is even more generous with practical guidance from that will lead you from conflict to connection.” (Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples)
"As a couples therapist, professor, and relationship educator, I am excited to recommend Getting to Zero to my clients and students. Jayson Gaddis is a magnificent teacher - thoughtful, warm, nerdy, practical, and wise. The approach he offers on these pages is one that serves our bodies, our minds, our hearts, and our souls. Dive in! You are going to be so glad you did...and the people you love will be so glad too!" (Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty, School of Education and Social Policy, Northwestern University; author of Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back)
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- Keith
- 2022-05-29
Great book on navigating conflict
Awesome book on conflict with lots of practical advise.
I enjoyed the narration and have listened to it multiple times.
I personally liked the exercises laid out in the book and the accompanying PDF allowed me to navigate them later if it was something I couldn’t do at the time.
I really appreciated the detail and thought put into them.
Jayson has a ton of experience and knowledge to share.
I’ve implemented some of the strategies outlined in the book and found them to be useful in my relationships and how I show up in them.
If your struggling with conflict, this is a great resource.
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- D. Regier
- 2023-01-27
Great Book.
Lots of good advice for getting out of demon dialogues or stopping them before they happen. Good sense of humour in parts, good for
A laugh or two. Thanks.
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- Deren Sentesy
- 2024-02-04
Understanding and resolving conflict with one’s self and others
A thoughtful system and series of questions that has lead me to a much deeper understanding of myself, how I respond to conflict, how I show up in my life. And how to move a relationship from disconnection through reconnection back to connection.
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- Alyssa
- 2021-10-12
Not useful for audio purposes
Most of this book requires you to do a lot of writing. Every chapter the author says; if you're driving or working out pull over, stop what you're doing and write this down. This is not practical for an audio book. I listen while working, driving, walking my dog, etc. If I wanted to sit with paper and pencil in hand, I would have bought the actual book.
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