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Publisher's Summary

The updated version of the best-selling solution to grow your confidence, assertiveness, and self-esteem.

"Finally, a simple-to-follow methodology for growing your confidence and self-esteem - and one that actually works!" (Tom Ferris, author)

Cutting through the nonsense, this book offers a simple and easy-to-understand solution to growing your confidence, assertiveness, and self-esteem. No fancy gimmicks, just solid and actionable advice that can help you fast.

“A modern, fresh and unique book, packed full of helpful advice.” (Linda Richards, businesswomen and speaker)

Some of the topics covered in this book include:

  • Quickly and easily overcome fear about social situations
  • Always know what to say
  • Build your self-esteem and confidence
  • Learn the step-by-step process to increase confidence fast
  • Effectively use body language and read other people
  • Relate to others with ease and confidence
  • Be assertive in any situation
  • And so much more!

"A wonderful book which has already helped countless people around the world." (Colin Bell, The Times)

"A joy to read and an even bigger joy to hear the success stories from past readers." (Jessica Anderson, Today)

©2017 Michelle Gates (P)2017 Michelle Gates

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Great book! Educative and informative!

I liked that this book was written and narrated by a female.
I learned some good tools I can use on the spot, like how to body scan.

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its awesome!

this is great! truthfully i wanted to hear more i didnt want it to finish!

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easy to listen and motivating. Lots of good tricks to gain confidence. thank you very much.

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Great audiobook!

Great tools to help grow your confidence. it's was a nice length! Easy to listen to as well!

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Practical and easy tips that can be applied!

useful tips and concepts, especially like the summary section at the end of each chapter.

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Great short listen

Lots of material in a short listen. Makes it easy to take some notes and put into action quickly as well as refer back to over time.

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Countless awards

This book has won countless awards and constantly gets mentioned by people, for a very good reason. I have had this on paperback for the past two years and loved it but I admit the audiobook version is even better.

I like to go back to this book regularly, listening to sections when I need quick help with my self esteem, confidence, communication skills etc.

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100%

The only book on self-esteem, confidence etc that is worth the money. Thats my opinion and I am sticking to it.

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  • 2021-08-06

Waste of money and time. Useless.

This book is a joke. So boring. Don't waste your money. Zero useful information/help.

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Overall good book

The speaker was a bit quick and the first chapter was a bit preachy, but after that it was a great book with some interesting studies cited. I also liked that it was a shorter book that didn't drag things out. #Audible1

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  • Nina
  • 2017-12-13

This audiobook helped me gain my Confidence back!

This audiobook has really helped me with my self-esteem issues. I still have a long way to go, but I’m on the right track. What I really liked about it is the no-nonsense approach in dealing with confidence issues. Unlike other self-help books I’ve read, Michelle Gates has a way of delivering the facts as they are. There’s no sugar-coating and beating around the bush. This audiobook is in the Top 10 of my list!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2018-12-09

Groundbreaking.

Listened to the book twice now as I was so impressed and also its good to hear it again to get all the information firmly into your head. Such a great book, very very happy with it.

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  • Magda
  • 2018-04-23

A happier and more positive person

Any additional comments?

I feel weird writing a review about this as the matters i was dealing with are private and personal but I felt compelled to leave a positive review simply because of how much this book has helped me.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2018-08-19

Loved this!

This book is practical and gives examples that are real life. I hope I put the practices to good work for me!

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  • 2017-10-25

So much better than expected

I expected to be yet another book the same as the rest but was very relieved to find this one was different as it got to the information very quickly. It was easy to understand yet a lot of advice and tips were pretty original. Great value for money...in that it is already providing a lot of value to my life.

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  • 2019-02-20

Self esteem improved

I got this book mainly for self esteem issues (which really can effect every other part of your life if u let it) which it helped with...and then more. Loved it!

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  • Milecvic
  • 2018-01-04

Very useful self-enhancement audible.

This is the best self-enhancement book I have come across. Fortunately for me it came just around the New Year. Hopefully, it will help me have a great year by helping me improve my assertiveness as well self-confidence. I was shocked to realize that actually there is a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence. I enjoyed working out the assessments on self-esteem at the beginning of the audible. It was awesome examining and re-examining my life. As the philosopher said, unexamined life is not worth living. I was also shocked to realize that research has shown that less confident people tend to be more successful in life as the work harder to make up for their inadequacies.
I would recommend this book to everyone who wants to enhance their life even those that thik have great self-esteem and self-confidence.

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  • Restra
  • 2017-10-31

Helped me a lot.

I dont usually write reviews but i felt compelled to write one to recommend this book simply because of how much it has helped me. My confidence, self-esteem etc is now so much higher. I am more capable. And i am slowly but surely becoming a happier, healthier and calmer person.

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  • 2017-10-29

One of the most helpful books on confidence ever!

Confidence and self-esteem issues are common issues in America and most people feel inadequate either at home or at work. Self-confidence issues are prevalent even in the most unexpected places. I was quite surprised when I read in the book that Kate Winslet who is one of
the most famous actresses in history for her role in Titanic also suffered from self-confidence issues at some point in her life. It was quite an eye-opener as most of this book was.

The funny thing was that the book also opened my eyes to another issue related to confidence which is over-confidence which is apparently as severe a problem as self-confidence deficits. I think this appealed a lot to me because I never really saw myself as someone that had self-esteem problems. This was the most important thing that I learned from this book.

One of the things I have learned to do less of is self-criticism. Instead of paying so much attention to negative feedback, now I try my best to be the best that I can and be honest in my assessment of my performance. An advantage of that is that I now find more satisfaction in my work and efforts and I do not wait for people to comment before I feel good about myself. It helped me to start hurting myself less by driving towards unrealistic expectations. By not pressurizing myself too much and expending so much energy focusing on negative people.

Another thing I liked about the book was that one of the first exercises was an assessment that can help you know your self-confidence level. Assertiveness sometimes can be underrated as most people do not feel the need to stand up for themselves. This is one of the key messages of this book too. It explained what assertiveness should be and when
to be assertive. This is an important skill that we all need to master, especially those who are in managerial and other leadership positions.

After reading the book, one of the activities that I followed up with that the book recommended was writing the things in my life that I am grateful for and also the things that make me feel confident. I now try to review the list regularly and then see what new things
I can add to the list. I typically kept a personal journal right from when I was a teenager and now the book has shown me how to use that as a way to boost my self-confidence. Being my own cheerleader isn’t always easy when it seems like everyone is critical unnecessarily but thanks to the book, I can ignore them better and just be myself.

This book is universal, I recommend it for everyone that wants to improve their lives. I sure found it extremely useful.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2018-07-26

An excellent informative guide

Suffering from low self-esteem and confidence is not nice, I have been afflicted with this on and off for many many years but this was the first book I have read (out of MANNNY!) that spoke to me on my level, felt real, felt honest, felt genuine. Good narrator too, kept it interesting. Hoping to read more by this author

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