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Healing the Shame That Binds You

Written by: John Bradshaw
Narrated by: John Pruden
Length: 11 hrs and 24 mins
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Healing the Shame That Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times best-selling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains the fabric of our social system, inappropriate or misdirected shame results in the breakdown of our self-esteem, the destruction of the family system, and an inability to move forward with our lives. In an honest and emotionally revealing style based largely on his personal experience with addiction and his decades as a counselor, John Bradshaw moves from the source and manifestation of toxic shame to the practical tools---affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling work, guided meditations, and other healing techniques---that will release the shame that binds us to our past.

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©1988 John Bradshaw, Renewed 2005 by John Bradshaw (P)2011 Tantor

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Informative, Validating, Useful

If you’re feeling limited by chronic shame and embarrassment, this is the book for you. It takes the sting out of a normal human experience and puts it back in its proper place.

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  • Mary
  • 2011-12-18

Wonderful information

Would you consider the audio edition of Healing the Shame that Binds You to be better than the print version?

Yes ---held my attention----my mind tends to wonder when I read and I find myself rereading certain parts

What did you like best about this story?

the truth about shame --the toxic

What about John Pruden’s performance did you like?

Really like Pruden's presentation-----the manner the book was read helped me visualize so many of the concepts

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Both....cry primarily ----I truly identified with the writings and work of James Bradshaw

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Truly the book I have searched for years to answer my questions about why I and others responds to situations the way we do-----Thank you so much for this informative and interesting audio book! I listened whenever I had a spare moment---then listened to the audio book a second time.....

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  • Charles Wurts
  • 2013-01-08

I thought it was worth my time

Would you listen to Healing the Shame that Binds You again? Why?

I am , it's difficult to follow everything so I'm listening to it again.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Healing the Shame that Binds You?

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Which character – as performed by John Pruden – was your favorite?

It's not that type of book - this is a textbook really

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

I am able to identify where I have carried shame in my own life.

Any additional comments?

Again, this is pretty much a text book. Don't expect it to roll like the catcher in the rye. There are parts that won't apply to you but the parts that do may make it all worth it.

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  • suzanne
  • 2017-09-29

One of the most insightful books I’ve ever read

This book needs to be shared with the all of humanity. John Bradshaw’s articulate, brilliant yet so tender explanations of how shame not only develops but can go from a healthy guiding force to the utter destruction of our authentic self to the whole of the way we can do torturously live out very sad, unfulfilling and harmful adult lives...

Where have I been that I only found this man and his pioneering work, now! What a gift.

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  • James Brown
  • 2013-12-31

A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WITH PAST PAIN

If you have experienced tragedy, in any way in your life, THEN READING THIS BOOK IS A MUST. It opens your eyes to understanding what you went through, why you went through it, and how to not only survive it, but overcome it and prosper. Great Book.

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  • ADAM SPENDING MONEY
  • 2017-11-10

Do you feel like you're different than everyone else, if so, read this book.

I have never found so much helpful information in one location at the same time. Although some of it may not be pleasant, you will learn so much about yourself. I can accept anything, as long as I understand it. Not understanding has held me back for so long but not anymore.

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  • joedt3
  • 2017-10-15

Incredible Revelations for Me

This book had so many revelations for me. I'm sure I will be referring back to it again and again. Will also be buying the hard copy.

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  • SWD
  • 2017-03-06

Some parts are great, but I had to skip others

The prologue was long and I almost stopped listening. Finally, there were some great pearls of wisdom. I really enjoyed and learned a lot. And then the final chapters talked so much about spirituality and higher powers, so I skipped that too. But the meat of the book, the parts about shame and childhood were enlightening.

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  • Amy Snyder
  • 2017-06-12

great book!

I loved the experience of Being! I feel transformed. The whole world needs this book!

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  • C. Barry
  • 2016-12-13

Valuable information, but gruesome at times

Is there anything you would change about this book?

There were more very extreme gruesome examples than necessary, which seemed more harmful than informative at times. These examples were honestly haunting and did not have enough resolution or education information attached to them to be helpful/informative.

Would you recommend Healing the Shame That Binds You to your friends? Why or why not?

I think the book might actually be re-traumatizing for many survivors. This is really unfortunate, as there is some very good information that otherwise could be helpful.

If this book were a movie would you go see it?

Absolutely not.

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  • maria elena gonzalez
  • 2017-07-30

Love it

Great book and it really helped me understand lots of my feeling and behaviors. Thanks

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