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  • He's Scared, She's Scared

  • Understanding the Hidden Fears That Sabotage Your Relationships
  • Written by: Steven Carter, Julia Sokol
  • Narrated by: Kevin Young
  • Length: 11 hrs and 42 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (26 ratings)

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He's Scared, She's Scared

Written by: Steven Carter,Julia Sokol
Narrated by: Kevin Young
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Available for the first time in audiobook, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitment phobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships.

Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offers guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

©1993 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

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Chapter 3 Brad is the guy I dated in fall 2022

Blake, you’re “Brad”

Had I read/listened to the book I would have ran from you as soon as you had told me that you were a cop.

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It was good

I’ve heard better narration, but it’s free and informative, a little dry. I would definitely recommend it, but I won’t listen to it a second time

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triggering

I did not like this book but I listened to the end. I felt triggered. maybe thats a good thing.

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  • the one
  • 2015-11-10

I definitely have commitment issues

The last half of this book was awesome the first half was pretty good too but I feel like there are too many stories. You could definitely get what you need out of this book by reading the last half of it.

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  • IB
  • 2018-08-18

Wish I had read this book 20 years ago!

It explains most of the confusing things I have encountered in relationships, for example a partner leaving suddenly at the height of happiness blindsiding the other. And that the panic doesn't have to set in at the beginning, but can also start after marriage, children, buying a house etc. It was absolutely enlightening to read. Thank you to the authors for putting words to something I could never understand. Every young women who is starting to date should read this book to be aware of these complex and sometimes paradox dynamics.

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  • AUAlum1998
  • 2016-05-10

it's eye opening for sure

A good book to understand why men leave out of the blue and help to cope with the fact that there is nothing you can do about it.

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  • Wendy
  • 2017-04-14

Still Love this guy. - Lu

Oh my, book just described {L.L} my BOYFRIEND of almost 7yrs.
We've broken up 3 different times within a 2yr. per,

1st:Aug.2013-Jan.2014 (Proposed💍)
(Moved out 1 mo. after I was laid off)

2nd:Aug2015-Dec.2015(Returned💍)
Moved out 1 mo. after getting hired 45 miles away from home.

3rd:Aug.2016-Present {Pending}
Don't live together, spend every other weekend together, I think this I'll probably be our last attempt to salvage what's left of our relationship. Thanks Never got the engagement ring back !!!! Guess he realized it was a mistake.

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  • Roxann AA
  • 2017-01-05

Very useful

Loved the book. Highly recommend it. Removes lots of myths and enigma from simple relationships problems.

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  • Karina P
  • 2017-08-08

An eye opening read!

This book is excellent, full of insightful and eye-opening information for you to use immediately in your current or future relationships.

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  • Scube
  • 2016-12-21

Everything said in this is so precise !

its almost like my own my minds voice! love it. I just hope there is a way to have the love back.

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  • Kaitlin
  • 2020-12-01

Will be returning

Pretty worthless, didn’t get anything out of it. It goes way overboard with the stories with no actual practical solutions.

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  • Gaylena Mockensturm
  • 2017-05-30

Great help for commitment issues

This book has been very helpful to me with my commitment issues, and it helped me get to the source of the problem. Helpful information

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  • Keturah Jordan
  • 2017-02-10

Amazing Insight

Helped my to understand so much and have realistic expectations of my partner and myself.

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