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  • How to Be Alone

  • If You Want to, and Even If You Don't
  • Written by: Lane Moore
  • Narrated by: Lane Moore
  • Length: 6 hrs and 3 mins
  • 3.8 out of 5 stars (52 ratings)

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How to Be Alone

Written by: Lane Moore
Narrated by: Lane Moore
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Publisher's Summary

The former sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first audiobook.

Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage - whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance - as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award-winning sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan. But her story has had its obstacles, including being her own parent, living in her car as a teenager, and moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Through it all, she looked to movies, TV, and music as the family and support systems she never had.

From spending the holidays alone to having better “stranger luck” than with those closest to her to feeling like the last hopeless romantic on Earth, Lane reveals her powerful and entertaining journey in all its candor, anxiety, and ultimate acceptance - with humor always her bolstering force and greatest gift.

How to Be Alone is a must-listen for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends more time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not. Above all, it’s an audiobook for anyone who desperately wants to feel less alone and a little more connected through listening to her words. 

©2018 Lane Moore. All rights reserved. (P)2018 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Not sure how this was supposed to make people less

A book full of self-pity. It is entertaining but be warned this book is mostly about the author talking about her life experiences.

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Amazing read!

Lane Moore details a life that is equal parts sad and beautiful. A cathartic listen.

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Toxic

this is the opposite of a self help book. grossly negative and sarcastic amd teaching people to seek happiness from others. I wish I hadn't read this :(

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So Fantastic!

Amazing narration, and so honest, raw and inspiring all at once. I laughed, cried and just loved all of it

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Should not have been a book

Hated the author/narrator. She wants people to love her and have empathy for her yet has no empathy for anyone but herself. Sounded like a whiny baby. Poor me poor me and f*ck you for having what I don’t have… and my suffering is worse than anyone else’s. You were sexually abused as kid? Well at least you had someone that cared about you that much.
Also references her past constantly but never actually talks about what happened. Also does not actually tell you how to be alone until the last chapter.

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Not what I expected

I thought this would be more helpful for someone looking to learn how to live on their own. It was pretty depressing and self deprecating and triggering. I also couldn’t really follow along what was happening, and the narrators voice had a vocal fry I couldn’t enjoy

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So much wow

She owns everything; all the hardships, all the pain. But somehow it all comes with optimism. Recommended for anyone in pain. Probably others too.

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10/10 my new Comfort book

Amazing book, cried many times through out it just because it was filled with so many things i needed to hear. It made me feel A LOT LESS ALONE, and like I’m not crazy. Love Her voice ❤️ definitely will re-listen. Thank you.

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More of a biography

Bought this while looking for self help books.
This book is more of a biography for the author. What I love about it is that she narrates her own story- so you know her tone and intention throughout. It’s very engaging and easy to follow not something that drowns out after awhile.
The story itself isn’t 100% relatable but many of the themes are recurrent in my own life. While listening I was able to see similarities and open up new perspectives on myself.
The story makes you cry & laugh.
It is a VERY good book but be warned it is emotionally charged.
You definitely feel for the writer & feel like while you’re both alone- you’re both alone together.

It offers hope but it won’t give you tips and tricks to try to change your life with regards to feeling alone or being alone. Overall insightful.

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We need more stories like hers

I loved this book. Going into it, I expected to see more explicity about attachment styles (esp bc of her ig content) though I know she is no psychologist. However, seeing her story and seeing how she values the kindness of strangers is beautiful, and important when we live in such a apathetic-to-strangers society. I related a lot to how she talks about holidays, and queerness, and her delivery is like shes talking to you. When I was becoming an adult strangers had to fill the holes that my parents couldn't fill, raising myself but also being raised by tiny snippets of love where I could get it. Siblings aren't always enough and they shouldn't have to be. Seeing that she struggles but still chugs on is inspirational in a genuine connection way, not a clickbait self help by person who magically fixed it all with THESE 5 EASY STEPS self help kind of way (I love self help books, but so many are not by chronically mentally ill folks). I also cried when she said "10 years wont be long enough" near the end (you'll know what I mean when you read it).

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