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  • How to Be You

  • Stop Trying to Be Someone Else and Start Living Your Life
  • Written by: Jeffrey Marsh
  • Narrated by: Jeffrey Marsh
  • Length: 5 hrs and 41 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (28 ratings)

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How to Be You

Written by: Jeffrey Marsh
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Too short. Too weird. Too quiet. Not true. Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are.

An interactive experience, How to Be You invites you to make the audiobook your own through activities such as answering questions about how you do the things you do, and discovering patterns in your lives that may be holding you back. Through Jeffrey's own story of "growing up fabulous in a small farming town" - along with the stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race, age, and gender - you will discover that you are not alone. 

Learn to deepen your relationship with yourself, boost your self-esteem and self-worth, and find the courage to take a leap that will change your life.

©2016 Jeffrey Marsh (P)2021 Penguin Audio

What the critics say

“The advice Jeffrey gives is so succinct and so intimately personal that I swear, if your brain could change colors in reaction to humans, Jeffrey's words would turn your brain bright pink." (Bustle)

 “Their message is simple: Be yourself. Be happy with yourself. Be more comfortable with your differences - and embrace and enjoy them.” (Digg) 

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Jeffrey is amazing

I will listen to anything Jeffrey has to say. They have this amazing ability to reach your soul when they speak. I recommend this book for anyone who is struggling to be themselves and who wants to treat themselves (and others) with kindness.

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For anyone integrating their inner child

Beautiful! Inside and out! Performance, writing, and fairy bells of truth! Will listen over and over again.

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Beautifully and compassionately written

Jeffrey's book is a must. And I will definitely take their advice, and read over again in the future. :)

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Highly Recommend

I will be recommending this book to anyone who asks, and probably a couple of people who don't. The content is very accessible and the author has a good canter and compassion in their reading of the book.

As someone who accesses professional mental health services this book to be a great addition. Will be re-listening to this book every few months for the affirmations. Thank you Jeffrey ❤️

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loved this book

I could listen to this all day... and I did... and now I'm going back to the beginning and starting over. Thank YOU Jeffrey.

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Enjoyable, light, and uplifting

I follow Jeffrey on social media, and I love their message. This book was in the same vein, and to my delight, the audio book was narrated by Jeffrey themselves. It's a very Buddhist and love-centered philosophy -- nothing new or groundbreaking, but a gentle urge to take care of ourselves and reach out in love.

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I needed this and didn't even know it.

I needed to hear this message for myself. I started this to help me be a better a parent. Little did I know how big of a message this had for me as well as my parenting.
Thank you!

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  • Laura H.
  • 2021-04-11

A must read!

Jeffrey Marsh has written an inspiring book full of wisdom, compassion, and love! I wish I had this book when I was younger, but even in my mid 30s, I have found it to be incredibly helpful and supportive. Jeffrey shares their own experiences to help the reader navigate the ups and downs of life, and the inner turmoil we all go through when we feel we don't fit in or haven't gotten it right. They provide helpful advice and insights so that we can live a life free from crippling guilt, shame, or confusion. I especially like the segments called Hero, Heroine where they bring in the example of real life people throughout history who embraced who they are despite pressure to conform to society's standards. I recommend this book to any teen who is struggling with finding themselves and loving who they are as well as any adult who is having these similar struggles as well. Jeffrey reminds us that we are good people, and that we deserve our own unconditional love!

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  • Chas
  • 2022-10-15

Great if you’re gay

If you’re straight and granted there are relatable situations in the read, but there are things that are worlds away if you’re a straight guy.

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  • Hammie
  • 2022-01-01

Life Changing Book

I've followed Jeffrey on IG for a while for their beautiful messages, but didn't think this book was for me. But I was very wrong; it was 100% something that I needed. If you've grown up being put down, been discouraged by anyone, been told you're not enough or you're too much, or simply want to know how to better love yourself, then this book is for you!

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  • menucha
  • 2022-05-26

A hug for your soul

Jeffrey makes incredible points about change and growth in a way that makes you feel safe while inciting a desire to create your best self.

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  • JustGiveMeCoffee
  • 2022-02-14

Go ahead, get it!

I've been following Jeffrey on TikTok for a while, because of the encouragement and fearlessness that oozes from their every pore. So when I found out that Jeffrey had written and narrated a book, I got it right away. I just listened to the whole thing in one day and am looking forward to doing it again!

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  • Touly&Lula
  • 2021-04-25

Sooo good.

The reading, the content...just make being alive feel better. I’ll be listening to this again without delay.

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  • J
  • 2022-03-04

Apparently life is "equally unfair to everyone"

This audiobook creates a strawman of what sadness looks like and continues claiming it is you.

Apparently none of those problems are real and everything you fear isn't as bad as the fear itself 🙄

Apparently you can just make a commitment to not struggle anymore.

Oh and "never yell at your boss" given as unironic advice 🤢

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  • Dawn
  • 2021-12-26

Beautiful book by a beautiful soul.

I stumbled upon Jeffrey Marsh on social media and have quickly become a fan. I appreciate his kind, inclusive, generous spirit. I started listening and had to listen to the whole book at once.

Thank you, Jeffrey, for sharing your story to help others write theirs.



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  • Angela Schulz
  • 2023-06-25

I found this very interesting

I really enjoyed listening to his insights. We all seem to be very conditioned by our upbringing and Jeffrey provides tools to see things in new ways and to embrace who we are.

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  • Cas
  • 2023-05-16

Jeffrey Marsh is amazing!

This is a truly amazing book about learning to love yourself for who you are and where you are in your life. Jeffrey is so inspiring and I love them so much! Definitely a must read!

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