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  • Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety
  • Written by: Ellen Hendriksen
  • Narrated by: Ellen Hendriksen
  • Length: 7 hrs and 44 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (206 ratings)

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How to Be Yourself

Written by: Ellen Hendriksen
Narrated by: Ellen Hendriksen
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How to Be Yourself is the best audiobook you'll ever listen to about how to conquer social anxiety.

"...a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self." - Susan Cain, New York Times and USA Today best-selling author of Quiet

Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you're introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.

If you get nervous in social situations - meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss - you've probably been told, "Just be yourself!" But that's easier said than done - especially if you're prone to social anxiety.

Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has.

With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the listener through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and - at long last - exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Ellen Hendriksen (P)2018 Macmillan Audio

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Extremely relatable, encouraging, and helpful

Ellen Hedrickson knows her stuff and lays it out in a way we can easily understand. She explains the psychological standpoint of where our anxiety stems, where it should be, and tricks to get there. My favorite thing about this book is that she helps you begin the journey of being yourself, starting from what mindset you need, to facing your smallest, social anxiety ridden fears, to finally putting yourself out there. Thanks to this audiobook, I am actually much more comfortable in social situations, and for me, that is quite an accomplishment.

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Good book but narration caused distraction

This book has some great tips on how to change your perspective with social anxiety. My issue was the narration. I found it was like a children’s book being read and I couldn’t stay focused since every sentence was performed the same way. Worth the listen but it was the only book I’ve had to go back multiple times cause I unintentionally tuned out because of the of the repetitive inflection in the narration.

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absolutely amazing

This book is phenomenal and really digs deep into the reasons and remedies of self sabotaging behaviors that we develop as we age .
The narrator had a great sense of delivering ideas with proper tone and emphasis.
This book has literally changed something inside me that was bothering me for a long long while.
On my second read and will read it once more to absorb all of the ideas.
Definitely recommend to almost everyone having negative mindsets

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If you have Social Anxiety, this book is for you.

After listening to this book I knew didn't have social anxiety, but got a better understanding, and the root causes of it. Though I do consider myself as an introvert/quiet person, Ellen's advice she shares throughout this book, her clients' anecdotes on how they relieved this anxiety has helped me express my thoughts more (to others) and to increase my inner circle. Highly recommend to anyone suffering from it.

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Kind Voice, Helpful Words

I loved this book! I was soothed by Ellen Hendrickson‘s calm and knowledgable voice, as she went through easily comprehensible and applicable steps to managing my social anxiety. Each chapter surprised me, as they explained my personal situations perfectly. I was even more shocked when the chapter on perfectionism used my name as Hendricksen’s patient (I don’t hear “Vivian” too often). It felt like a personal call out – especially because my biggest personal anxiety trait is perfectionism.

When the book came to an end I honestly thought to myself, “I’m going to miss this book.” I will listen again and take physical notes, so I can review them and apply them to my life.

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I loved it

Ellen really nailed it. It was interesting to hear that most people feel anxious, and it is the practice that makes anxiety fade away slowly. It was one of the take away from first time listening.

Thank you Ellen for this creation.

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Amazing book

The author has a great voice she is very engaging. Highly recommend this book for anybody who suffers from anxiety. This will absolutely set you on the right path.

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Very relatable and beautifully distilled tactics


This book was very uplifting. I was drawn to it based on the title of "How to be yourself" without even fully grasping how much of my own life experience has been routed in social anxiety. This book helped me come to the realization with self compassion, and has left me with a slew of manageable tactics to implement in my daily life.

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  • 2020-11-16

Uplifting

This book was a perfect reminder of how and what to do, to be a better you. Narration was entertaining and light. I recommend!!

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Complete guide to Be Yourself!

This book surprised me with how good it is at helping and guiding me towards an happier life. It gives a lot of tips about a wide variety of struggles. It talks about a lot of researches and facts, not just about anecdots. It's a complete guide, and I have learned many tools regarding my social anxiety. I come out of this as a more confident and less stressed person. People around me already sees a difference. Thank you

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