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- Narrated by: Susan Bennett
- Length: 8 hrs and 24 mins
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Publisher's Summary
“This parenting book actually made me a better parent.” (Lydia Kiesling, The New York Times)
From number-one New York Times best-selling authors, the ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) - a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child.
This best-selling classic by internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children includes fresh insights and suggestions, as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:
- Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
- Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
- Engage your child’s willing cooperation
- Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
- Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
- Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
- Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, Faber and Mazlish’s down-to-earth, respectful approach makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
What the critics say
"Will bring about more cooperation from children than all the yelling and pleading in the world." (Christian Science Monitor)
"An excellent book that’s applicable to any relationship." (Washington Post)
"Practical, sensible, lucid... the approaches Faber and Mazlish lay out are so logical you wonder why you read them with such a burst of discovery." (Family Journal)
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- Exanime
- 2018-03-21
Maybe back in the 70's
This book may have been a sensation back in the 70's but by today's standards it's just OK. The entire book is based on work by Dr. Haim Ginott (which as far as I can see, was completely ripped off by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish after attending his workshops) and can be summarized as follows:
* Never deny or ignore a child's feelings
* Only behavior is treated as unacceptable, not the child
* Depersonalize negative interactions by mentioning only the problem. "I see a messy room."
* Attach rules to things, e.g., "Little sisters are not for hitting."
* Dependence breeds hostility, let children do for themselves what they can
* Children need to learn to choose, but within the safety of limits.
* Limit criticism to a specific event—don't say "never", "always", as in: "You never listen," "You always manage to spill things"
* Refrain from using words that you would not want the child to repeat
* Ignore irrelevant behavior
The above advice by Dr. Ginott is sound, but in this book they do not explain the reasons why this works, they simply tell you what to do and spend the entire book selling their approach with anecdotal stories that border on the ridiculous...
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Wrong way
Dad "Johnny, clean your room!!!, it's a mess you are a filthy animal, you'll never learn, you'll always be a failure, I should give you a good smack" (I'm not kidding, the "wrong way" examples are this much over the top
Kid "I hate you!"
Right way
Dad "I see a messy room"
Kid "I'll clean it up right away daddy... I love you so much... I will also do my homework and call grandma before saying my prayers and going to be an hour early" (again, not kidding, as soon as you apply the "right way" kids suddenly transform into magical unicorns
To top it all, this particular version of the book is about half full with the old 70's book and the last 6 chapters are just letters from parents telling these authors how amazing they are and how they saved the world (it felt like a giant ego stroke)... I feel everybody would be far better served by just reading Dr. Ginott's original work "Between Parent and Child (1965, Macmillan)"
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- SepidehSanaz
- 2018-09-21
A Must Have Reference Book
As a child I remember that this book was one of the reference book which my mom used to study it in University for her psychology ckass.
I rember that I really liked it because of the drawings and illustrations which made it very easy for me to understand such facts as child.
30 years passed and I became a mom myself. During all these years I have tried to find this book again and asked my mom thousands of times, but she could not remember the title. To make the story short I picked this book in #Audible1 and finished it.
As a habbit I buy a hard copy of the books that I listened to and enjoyed for future reference. I did purchase this book though in order to translate it ti farsi, when I have got to the second chapter of the book- for translation purpose-I immedietly recalled the comic like drawings!!!I went through the book like crazy so happy that I finally found this book after all these years.
I have searched the title in Farsi and found thd version that I have seen jn my childhood. Yup no need to translate, it was re published more than 100 times already!!!
Anyhow...this is a must read book for every parents whi want to raise confident yet emotionally intelligent children. I just don't know why my mom did nit follow the instruction for her real life outsude if the university?? lol. I have all versions of this book , Paper, pdf, Audio....so it is in my immediate access when I need it.
To my experience it will be much beneficial to start with the paper book at first hand , because there are some assigments after each chapter which will be so so beneficial if you take your time and do it/ write it.
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- Kindle Customer
- 2018-05-30
Ok content, narration could be better
I am not a fan of the narration, I kept finding myself tuning out due to the monotone robotic-like voice.
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- Jessica
- 2023-08-20
Best parenting book 2023
I’m a clinical therapists and a mother of two.
I read this book back in school before the kids were around. Having just re-read it now, I am floored how great these techniques are and appreciate the step by step examples. Well done and completely relevant today!!
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- Olivia
- 2023-07-03
Best read in many years. Narrative performance is realistic!
One of the best reads in many years. If changes lives. Hard to put down. Rushed to go through the first read and then want to listen again and take notes.
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- Amit
- 2023-06-22
excellent
loved it. lot of good examples. it makes easy to understand. not boring at all.
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- Nadean
- 2023-03-02
Loved it!!
Great book with so many good ideas that I’ll have to listen to it again. Wish I had read this when I was raising my kids - but will definitely be using these skills for my grandkids!
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- KSD
- 2023-02-02
This book has changed my view on how I talk to my children
I cried multiple times during this book, recalling how adults spoke to me as a child. I have a lot of work to do, moving forward, I want to change the way I talk to my kids.
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- Danielle l.
- 2022-12-20
One of the best parenting book out there!
The fact that it was published many decades ago and is still extremely popular is a testament to its timelessness and multicultural core values.
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- monique
- 2022-12-07
Voice is condescending
Performance was distracting and considering the title of the book “speak so kids will listen”… the narrator and the storyline came off as quite condescending. Hard to finish
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- John
- 2013-01-02
Best. Parenting. Book. Ever.
What did you love best about How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk?
This is a very special (audio) book. It has transformed my relationship with my son and influenced how I listen and communicate in my professional life.
This book gets overwhelmingly positive reviews and I am writing this review to help other parents find this wonderful book.
My wife and I were very proud of our positive parenting. We had received many positive compliments from friends and strangers regarding our positive parenting. Unfortunately, when we hit a rash of poor behaviour when our son began attending school, we began to question ourselves and our parenting techniques. This uncertainty lead to a downward spiral of 'old school' discipline based parenting, turning every disagreement into a battle that had to be won. Instead of helping my son's discipline, it worsened. Each time it worsened, we decided we needed more discipline. The cycle continued until I found this book.
This book was similar to how we had initially decided to parent our son, but the devil is in the details and the notion that every interaction with my son could be an opportunity for him to communicate HIS thoughts and develop HIS decision making skills and confidence was a subtle yet extremely powerful shift in thinking. Its not only about me showing love and positivity to my son, its about ensuring he feels confident and positive about himself. Yes, there is a difference.
I have developed much more patience and understanding, as a result of this audiobook. There is no question that the daily interactions with my son take much longer, especially initially, though I have come to realize that this extra time is really important and essential to being a good parent. Like most things in life, long term effective solutions are always more time consuming and complex than short term quick fixes.
That being said, my son has now developed very effective problem solving and communication skills. These skills have have allowed us to spend our time and attention learning and sharing thoughts on how to solve problems; instead of locking wills and trying to defeat one another in a battle of wills.
After adopting the techniques in this book, I can honestly say that I have experienced a very special transformation in the relationship I have with my son. I am in awe of his creative problem solving skills, he surprises me daily, and we have developed an even deeper bond of love and support.
I recall thinking, as I listened to the audiobook, that a number of the examples seemed very hokey and the descriptions of how children would react to simple questions as a little too perfect. Yet once putting the techniques into practice, I found myself often reaching for paper to write down the incredible responses my son would have to the simple questions.
There is an example in the book, where it advises parents to consider the power of saying 'you must be proud of yourself', rather than 'I am proud of you'. I have seen a number of negative or mediocre reviews that cite this as a criticism. While I still mix in the odd 'I am proud of you' I will never forget the look of contemplation, nod of agreement and then smile of satisfaction my son's face when I first said 'you must be proud of yourself'. I could tell that he had not really thought of his good behaviour in terms of what it meant to him. Its now something he has developed strongly within himself.
He now thinks of himself as brave, loyal and kind. He sees every day as an opportunity to learn new things and solve his own problems.I don't expect that my son will always do what I want but I can count on him to confidently tell me why he acted a certain way and listen.
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- Amber D. Easley
- 2019-04-26
Worksheets are free to download just google!
I wish I could respond to the reviews from people who mentioned that they wished they had bought the kindle/hard copy and let them know that the worksheets are available to download (and print) free online in a PDF! This was a relief for me as I began to listen to the audiobook, and realized the reviews were right! You really do need the worksheets to get the full benefit from this book. I just googled the title + "worksheets" and the first result was a free PDF download. Spread the info!
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- Robs
- 2015-03-16
Not ideal in audio, but good none the less.
I like audio books because I can listen when I need to be looking at something else, or when I can't hold a book. Unfortunately this book contains worksheets which aren't available in audio format. Perhaps pdfs could be made available.
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- Rich
- 2016-06-18
Sound Advice You Can Immediately Apply
Faber and Mazlish's "How to Talk" has endured for over 30+ years in countries all over the globe for good reason: the techniques taught in this book make logical sense, are easily applicable in your daily family life, and have immediate impact. Below is a bullet summary of my highlights from this title. While the read is short (I finished it in six days), the lessons are invaluable. Bennett's narration is fine--if anything, you can really crank the playback speed on this title, the material is easy to understand.
- Listen to and acknowledge your child's emotions. You wouldn't ignore physical hurt, so why would you ignore emotional hurt? Accepting your child's feelings are the cornerstone of this program. Limit the action of a negative feeling.
- At the same time, don't solve the child's problems. Reword the problem for them, perhaps be their brainstorm partner. ("What can we do to fix this?") Encourage them to generate solutions and talk. Foster autonomy. Give them choices ("either we can keep playing or read a bedtime story, but not both. You pick.").
- Can't get your child to behave the way you need them to? Objectively describe what you see, explain the consequence, explain your feelings. Often just one word ("pajamas!") or writing a note ("Dear Jack, I wish you would use me more. I miss you at night. Love, Your Toothbrush.") can communicate volumes.
- Sometimes, you shouldn't use please. Commands are commands, not favors.
- If your child is frustrated or on the verge of tantrum, make them draw on paper. Ask them to draw their feelings and confirm that you "see" how they feel. Often, the child can go from scribbling to drawing happy scenes in minutes once they have been acknowledged. (I actually saw this happen with the first time I tried this with my 3.5yo daughter!)
- Being "sorry" is more than a word. It means that you will change future behavior. Follow through with apologies.
- Punishment focuses on reprimanding the past. Consequences focus on improving the future. Always focus on improving the future when correcting the child. Done properly, future-focused consequences build trust. Punishments destroy trust. If there's a recurring problem, get to the core of the problem and fix THAT. ("I didn't know my child was so scared of the dark. That's why she keeps getting out of bed. Let's get some nightlights.")
- Do NOT talk about your kid like an object, especially if they are within earshot. If others are talking about your child's inabilities, openly state "when she's ready, she'll do that." That shows your confidence in your child that they will grow up independent someday.
- Praise MUST be descriptive. "Good" or "wonderful" by itself is empty and confusing. Describe what you see when you offer praise. Often, one-word praise is the best ("You helped take the dishes to the sink! That's one responsible girl."). These turn into immutable snapshots for the child.
- Developing self-esteem is one of the most important jobs as a parent. The world will do its job of trying to break self-esteem as they grow into adults. This is your chance to give them invaluable tools for life in self-praise by giving correct praise yourself.
- Never use comparisons as praise, especially with siblings.
- Pre-determined roles are a self-fulfilling prophecy. ("Jack is such a goof-off.") You as a parent can combat that. Show them literal or figurative pictures of themselves in more positive roles. Let the child hear you talk about them in a positive role. Be a memory for all their past good examples, recalling them to the child when necessary. If the child regresses, simply state your feelings and expectations.
- Preschoolers have a tough time with the concept of winning and losing. Let everyone finish the Candy Land course, don't just stop the game when the first person finishes.
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- familyman1
- 2014-03-10
Great for Compliant, but NOT Strong Willed Child
What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?
Including information for difficult children, not just ones who are likely to respond to simple reasoning and soft consequences. (The author refuses to call anything punishment.)
What do you think your next listen will be?
Setting Limits with your Strong Willed Child. Robert MacKenzie.
Have you listened to any of Susan Bennett’s other performances before? How does this one compare?
No
You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?
Yes. I think the portions about open ended questions had benefit and I also do think this could be a good book for someone who already has a good mutually respectful relationship with their kid and just want ways to further improve that. However, these strategies will not work on more difficult kids, the so called strong willed child. This book will be very un-helpful for you.
Any additional comments?
When I 1st listened to this book I probably would have given it 4 or 5 stars, but after I tried using its techniques, I realized it was not written with 1 of my children in mind, which is why I bought the book in the 1st place. This book sounds good and indeed much in it is good for the "compliant child" which is why I am sure it does work good for some parents and their kids who are compliant. Furthermore, its intrinsically a very "passive parenting" approach that makes parents already doing this passive parenting feel good about what they are doing and indeed encourages them to double down on their current strategy, but does little to help them with more difficult, non compliant children. Although I really do use some of these strategies with my compliant children, it is a disaster for the others and I assure you they will walk all over you. So if you want a 'feel good" book that basically says, your doing great, keep being passive and keep do what "feels" like the best parenting method with little guidance on more difficult children, go for it. However, for those of us looking for books to help with our more difficult children, I recommend Setting Limits with your Strong Willed Child by Robert MacKenzie.
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- jill
- 2012-08-13
Great Story but leaves me wanting to jot notes
Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?
Totally LOVE this book. I have read a lot of parenting books but this one seems to treat children as unique individuals with unique personalities who require unique care and upbringing. It emphasizes respect and autonomy for the child rather than punishment and rewards.
The trouble is that there are things in the book to ponder and consider and even role play. It is tough with an audio book. it was tough to give serious consideration on the fly with the next paragraph being read. Also, I found myself wanting to take a few notes to help me remember a few lessons that would help with my own children and unable to do so as I was commuting to work in the car.
I highly recommend this book and even though it is read very well I would suggest a paper copy rather than the audio version.
What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk?
showing respect for children
What about Susan Bennett’s performance did you like?
her tone of voice exemplified a 'normal' mother's voice showing happiness at times and exhaustion and frustration at times.
Did How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk inspire you to do anything?
treat my children better
Any additional comments?
I plan on buying the paper version so that I can refer to it often!
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- Tiana
- 2019-08-05
identical to How to talk so LITTLE Kids Listen
I bought this to help me with my son that is getting to be a big kid, but it is identical to the book for little kids. If you have the little kid version, don't waste your money on this.
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- Tim
- 2012-06-25
Might seem too soft for some but the results are proven!
I kept feeling conflicted by letting my 16 year old daughter get away with certain behaviors. Instead of fighting with her I acknowledge her feelings and she takes it from there. Very effective methods even if often they feel like you're letting your child get away with somethings you shouldn't. Intrinsic motivation is what's being encouraged. Wonderful book that has stood the test of 3 decades!
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- Tasha S.
- 2016-04-20
Wow! Simply AMAZING!
This book has changed my way of thinking and how I communicate! This is not just for parents, but teachers and pretty much anyone else who spends time talking with children. Love this book!
These are skills easily transferable to communication with other adults as well. We all need to be a little more empathetic at times. :)
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- Amazon Customer
- 2012-09-22
Invaluable
What did you like best about this story?
This book provides practical how-to skills to use in handling challenging issues with children. In fact, many of the skills are quite useful in all relationships. I was able to immediately apply much of what I learned.
Any additional comments?
If you have children or work with children, don't hesitate to give this a listen. It really can be life-changing for you and the children in your life. The skills require practice and adaptation for each unique relationship, but they can make a radical difference in our relationships with children.
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