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I Tried to Change So You Don't Have To

True Life Lessons
Written by: Loni Love
Narrated by: Loni Love
Length: 6 hrs and 37 mins
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One of Amazon's Best Nonfiction Books of 2020 So Far!

An inspiring, hilarious memoir about learning to resist the pressures of conformity, love yourself for who you are, embrace your flaws, and unlock your true potential.

Now cohost of Fox's The Real and SiriusXM's Café Mocha, Loni Love hasn't taken the typical path to becoming America's favorite straight-talking girlfriend and comedian. She was not the child of Hollywood legends, and she never wore a size 00. Rather, she grew up in housing projects in Detroit, more worried about affording her next meal than going on a diet. When she moved to Hollywood after graduating college with an engineering degree, seeking to break out in the entertainment world, there was nothing that would convince her to eat the kale salads and quinoa bowls that her colleagues introduced her to, which looked to Love like "Weeds my grandma used to pay me a dollar to pull from her yard."

Still, despite the differences that set her apart in the status-driven world of entertainment where being thin, young, blonde, and bubbly is sometimes considered a talent, Love spent years trying to fit in - trying to style her hair just so, dieting, dating the men she thought with whom she was supposed to be. In this audiobook, she tells the uproariously funny story of how she overcame the trap of self-improvement and instead learned to embrace who she was. As Love writes, "There's a saying a lot of people live by: 'Fake it till you make it.' For me, it's always been 'fake it, and then have the whole thing blow up in your face.'" I Tried to Change So You Don't Have To explores all of the embarrassing mistakes, terrifying challenges, and unexpected breakthroughs that taught her how, by committing ourselves to our own path, we can take control of our destiny.

©2020 Loni Love (P)2020 Hachette Audio

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"A fun and inspiring read." (Booklist)

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Best book ever:)

Listening to “I tried to change so you don’t have to” is an amazing book I love the fact that it is narrated by Loni Love herself. Truth be told I never knew who she was till I started to watch the Real from the beginning and she always makes me laugh and cry and made me think of things in a whole new way...but this book had been an amazing story it’s like I was sitting at the table and Loni was telling her life stories... Loni’s book taught me that it is never to late to continue discovering what your life is going to be like in the future and that no matter what I can’t change the past but I can change my future and because of her I have made some changes in my life right now to better myself and I feel confident about them because they are my choices.
Thank you Loni Love for sharing your story and for the encouragement that I can work to better my future.

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  • Tarsha S.
  • 2020-07-18

Awesome Book

Awesome book. Thank you Loni Love for sharing your truth so unapologetically. As I embrace my 40 year old self, I am learning to Love myself and be a ok with the person that God created. Listening to your book provided insight and perspective on my own journey to SELF peace and happiness. Thank you again 🙂.

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  • Sheila Soule
  • 2020-07-11

Love Loni Love!

Loni Love pulls few punches in this well executed memoir covering life in the projects, maternal love & a lack thereof, enterprise & hard work. living in poverty & rising from it. She recounts police racism, helps us to understand how that cute boy with dimples reaches a crossroads where he’d choose the bad path, all while very self aware, often funny & always keenly insightful. Well done!

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  • Ibrahim
  • 2020-07-01

Incredible

She is so open and raw. She provides so many little details to the point where you can see imagine exactly what is happening at any given time. Although this is a book of her life, Loni did not disappoint with all the laughs throughout as well. This book is very encouraging and motivating to keep on going no matter what. Life is definitely not easy, but make the best of it.

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  • Kristine Bloedoorn
  • 2020-08-08

Excellent!!!

This book made me cry, laugh, and reflect. Sometimes I did all three in one chapter. Can't say I was a fan before, but I definitely am now!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2020-08-06

SENSATIONAL

I really LOVED this book. Ms. Love really put her EVERYTHING into it! I was laughing out loud throughout most of the book but there were also times when my heart went out to Loni! I appreciated her honesty and understood her journey. Thank you Loni Love for writing this book. I already called my/ our Sorors and requested that our next Arts and Letter book reading will be this wonderful book!! Can't wait to discuss it and hear everyone else's thoughts. Peace and blessings to you!❤🔺️

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  • Edith
  • 2020-08-06

Great Book!

Loved the book , especially the narration by Lonnie. I learned so much about my fellow Detroiter. The details were spectactular.

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  • Michka
  • 2020-08-03

Funny, Inspirational, and Heartfelt

This was truly inspiring. It gave me insight into Loni's life that I never knew about. It heartfelt, gave great advice, and had me laughing all at the same time.

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  • Brenda Collier
  • 2020-08-02

Captivating! I could hardly put it down!

Loved this book. It was told in an engaging manner which gripped my attention. Loved how she ended each chapter. I learned a lot about her growing up experiences that were not shared on The Real. Loni is also from my hometown, which made for an interesting connection. I highly recommend this book.

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  • TisTrue
  • 2020-07-28

Thank you Loni!

ILoveLoni, funny, shows who we know she is,Amazing, wish it came with PDF for pictures.

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  • arizona
  • 2020-07-16

Thank you for being you!

Bravo! I have enjoyed listening to your book and appreciated having a peek inside of your fascinating journey. I love your story, your beauty, your humor, and your talents! Stay beautiful, Ma, and many blessings to you and James!