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  • I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck

  • An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life
  • Written by: John Kim
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  • Length: 5 hrs and 5 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (72 ratings)

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I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck

Written by: John Kim
Narrated by: John Kim
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Publisher's Summary

The Angry Therapist who has helped thousands of men find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives now shares his insights with everyone in this powerful guide - self-help in a shot glass - covering essential topics, from vulnerability and posturing to workouts and women.

Deep in post-divorce soul-searching, John Kim came to an astonishing realization: He was a miserable f--k who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. Armed with this new insight, he began The Angry Therapist blog - an admission that, while he was a licensed therapist and life coach, he was no better than the people who sought his advice. In his first post, “My F--king Feelings”, he wrote about the struggles and shortcomings that had led him to this point. As his work caught on, catapulting him into the role of unlikely and unconventional guide for thousands of people all over the world, Kim evolved from behaving like a boy to living like a man - and showed his clients how to do so as well.

In I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, Kim delivers the dos and don’ts for stepping up and into manhood, which he defines by transparency and strength of character, not six-pack abs or a corner office. With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and think, Kim takes you on a rugged, rough-and-tumble road trip of self-exploration and discovery, sharing his wisdom and insights, such as why:

  • Being nice is for boys and being kind is for men
  • Scheduling man dates could make you a better friend, lover, and human being
  • Peeing in the shower is a sign of a larger problem
  • Arguing, judging, and answering “I dunno” are keeping you from a healthy relationship, a great career, and a happy life

We are not born men. We are born boys. The transition from misery to meaning is an internal process that requires work: reflection, pain, courage, and sometimes, a rebirth. Kim knows because he’s been there. The truth is, men weren’t meant to just pay bills and die. With this audiobook as your guide, you will love hard, walk tall, and find a life filled with purpose and passion.

©2019 John Kim (P)2019 HarperCollins Publishers

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Simply life changing

John, thank you. I can relate to this SO much. As a man in his early 30s after going through MUCH of what you did, I needed to hear this. I needed to SEE a real life living version of a man who felt safe sharing feelings, insecurities and more. You're like a unicorn...once I saw you through this book I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe I finally had permission to be MYSELF. The person who is kind and full of love. I have been learning about myself and falling back into love with myself since my engagement ended almost 1 year ago when the world stopped making sense. Today it did. I saw a living example of it being OK to be a man and cry. To be a man and to make mistakes. To be a man and hurt others around you - but that it could be ok if I did the work. I am doing it and my life has meaning again. Thank you.

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Straight taking guide to modern life

Kim’s book is a Modern day guide to life in a materialistic and misogynistic world.

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Honest and Compelling

John Kim's work is insightful, honest, and beautifully human. Hearing him read it himself really drove home his points and made it feel much more personal.

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Man’s soul usher manual

Excellent perspective check for men lost or
In a dark time. If your searching for more meaning in life and at the bottom of the depression well, read this book.

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Great Book.

I was reccomended this book by a buddy who raved about it. So I downloaded and it was so much better than I thought it would be. very eye opening and really gets you thinking in a good way!

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A must read for today's man

Kim's authentic and transparent self is relatable and oh so needed, today more than ever.

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A MUST READ not only for guys but for woman too!

I love John's shot glass approach to writing and the wisdom he drops in every chapter. My girlfriend has enjoyed listening to this as much as I have.

I highly recommend this book and following @theangrytherapist on IG and his podcast of the same name. You won't regret it!

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Great listen for gents

If you're struggling with life in general and feel disconnected from the present, this listen will help bring you back to now. From learning how to get the woman you want, to accepting why sh*tty events happen and how to deal with them. This book covers majority of your questions.

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Fabulous!

I love John Kim, he is so relatable and down to earth. I have been gifting this book to people since I finished it.

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Not just a book for men

This book was an absolute delight to listen to. John Kim a.k.a. The Angry Therapist brings his “shot glasses” of therapy to life as he details his ow. Struggles and lesson in transforming from man-boy to man. Wise, funny, soulful, truthful, Kim’s is a voice that we can all benefit from listening to. Well done Angry!

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