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Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities, but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.

In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way - rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialogue between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.

©2014 Leslie Becker-Phelps (P)2015 Tantor

What the critics say

"A godsend for those who unknowingly bring a lot of angst into a relationship." ( Library Journal)

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  • EB
  • 2020-06-15

Narrator is painful

Teaches you about attachment styles & gives some good relationship advice if you can get past the narrator. (She sounds like Siri)

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  • MSP
  • 2021-01-14

Excellent Book, Very Relatable

This book is extremely helpful and very relatable. I found it tremendously helpful for my anxiety, depression and figuring out my attachment style. This gave me tools to open up my thinking and also topics to further discuss in therapy.

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  • Danika
  • 2017-01-28

Excellent book

This book really helped me understand why I reacted certain ways in past relationships AND it has great exercises to help move toward a more secure way of thinking. If you've ever asked yourself, "Why did I do that?", or if you've ever felt you didn't deserve to be loved this is a must read.

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  • Ellice Tan
  • 2019-01-30

Narrator, Please Take a Drink—I Beg You

As far as the book goes, it’s amazing, and I highly recommend it to anyone—especially those suffering from an anxious attachment style. However, as far as the actual audiobook goes, I couldn’t wait for it to be over. It was so painful to listen to the narrator’s dry mouth. I cringed every time she swallowed or opened her mouth to read. It was extremely distracting. I had to force myself to listen to the whole thing.

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  • Bryce Dickerson
  • 2018-07-05

I don’t normally leave reviews

This book was absolutely incredible, so many powerful insights to help mainly people struggling with insecurity in love relationships. I can’t recommend it enough

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  • Corey
  • 2016-06-21

Great book!

Very therapeutic researched advice that helped me a lot in dealing with an avoidant female. Couldn't recommend this book enough for anyone.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2017-09-06

Excellent read

I really enjoyed the book and was surprised at how much it knew about my anxiously attached behaviors. If you want to read something that will give you tools to get out of the anxious cycle you are and and have a healthy lasting relationship, buy this book.

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  • shandra518
  • 2017-08-29

great read

Definitely helpful for learning how to manage my own emotions and feelings. definitely recommend to others who want to have more self control and want to feel like they are empowered.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2017-03-12

Excellent Book

So much great and useful information in this book. The exercises are very helpful in healing your heart and creating more secure attachments.

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  • Will Rodgers
  • 2016-12-28

This offers hope

If you have difficulty with relationships or pervasive patterns of problems in relationships, listen to the book. Twice preferably.

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  • R+G=N&EJ
  • 2016-09-06

Need a companion workbook or the written text.

Lots of excellent suggested self work but hard to stop what your doing when listening to audio Will be purchasing the written book and / or workbook if available

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  • Idalin Bobe
  • 2020-04-28

A must read for understanding attachment styles

This book discusses both anxious and avoidant style, and of course secure. The exercises allows you to dig in to any wound you may be struggling with and see it from a different perspective. You may cry while listening, or after doing an exercise, but more importantly you will feel yourself giving yourself a huge hug. This book is quite lovely! Very understanding on how it discusses attachment styles in a none judgmental way.
Worth the investment!

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