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Love Lives Here

A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family
Written by: Amanda Jette Knox
Narrated by: Amanda Jette Knox
Length: 8 hrs and 7 mins
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Publisher's Summary

National best seller

2020 Canada Reads, Longlisted

An inspirational story of accepting and embracing two trans people in a family - a family who shows what's possible when you "lead with love."

All Amanda Jetté Knox ever wanted was to enjoy a stable life. She never knew her biological father, and while her mother and stepfather were loving parents, the situation was sometimes chaotic. At school, she was bullied mercilessly, and at the age of 14, she entered a counselling program for alcohol addiction and was successful.

While still a teenager, she met the love of her life. They were wed at 20, and the first of three children followed shortly. Jetté Knox finally had the stability she craved - or so it seemed. Their middle child struggled with depression and avoided school. The author was unprepared when the child she knew as her son came out as transgender at the age of 11. Shocked, but knowing how important it was to support her daughter, Jetté Knox became an ardent advocate for trans rights.

But the story wasn't over. For many years, the author had coped with her spouse's moodiness, but that chronic unhappiness was taking a toll on their marriage. A little over a year after their child came out, her partner also came out as transgender. Knowing better than most what would lie ahead, Jetté Knox searched for positive examples of marriages surviving transition. When she found no role models, she determined that her family would become one.

The shift was challenging, but slowly the family members noticed that they were becoming happier and more united. Told with remarkable candour and humour, and full of insight into the challenges faced by trans people, Love Lives Here is a beautiful story of transition, frustration, support, acceptance, and, of course, love.

©2019 Amanda Jette Knox (P)2019 Penguin Random House Canada

What the critics say

"[A] success both through strong writing and the crackling feeling on the page that she genuinely loves the shit out of her trans family." (Xtra)

"This sweet and positive account of a family facing obstacles and growing closer together is inspiring." (Publishers Weekly)

"Love Lives Here is an emotionally raw, often funny book that leaves the reader wanting to be Amanda Jetté Knox’s best friend. It’s the story of how people tried to push her down, and will strike a chord with anyone who’s ever been bullied. And that’s a lot of us!" (Ottawa Sun)

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Heart wrenching and uplifting

If there ever was a book to listen to, this one is it. Narrated by the author, you feel like you're right there experiencing everything. It's heart wrenching and uplifting. An important book for EVERYONE! I'm so glad I listened to it.

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This is a bestseller for a reason!

I cannot say enough beautiful words about this book. This story will stick with me.

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an amazing story!

wow! this story is incredible! I couldn't put it down. it is also educational and eye opening. thank you for sharing your story!

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Not great

The story is Interesting, but the Writing is quite low quality. You can probably read all you need to know about this family story on the internet. I would consider a different book if you're looking for something about transgendered people.

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favourite

so good. Amanda reading her and her family's story make you feel like you are sitting on the couch with her having a chat. so comfy.love the lessons I've learned with this book. love the authenticity. 💜

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Honest, well read and touching.

This is a great story of humanity front and center. Unfortunately, some of us can't see past our own ignorance and insecurities, yet thankfully the author faced this adversity with immense courage out of love. Thank you so much for sharing this. If only everyone could see.

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great book

good read
loved it <3 <3
I can't wait to read more books like this.

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Best read of 2019

An incredible book detailing the lives of a family with some trans members. Beautifully written. I have learned so much and as a teacher feel better prepared to help educate my students.

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Love is love

Amanda Jetté-Knox gives a raw, honest account of her family’s journey of transformation, acceptance, support, and love for each other other while their daughter transitions. This gave courage to her spouse to be who she was supposed to be.
I would recommend this book to anyone.
There are not currently books on transgender families loving, living and thriving.
This is a book of hope.
This is a book of acceptance.
This is a book of love.

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Emotional rollercoaster

I loved every second of it. I related to so much of it, there were even moments where I felt like it was my story being told.
Thanks so much for writing this.

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  • BethLocke
  • 2019-07-31

Love Grows

I won't be able to adequately voice what this book means to me and why you should purchase it. If you are transgender, an ally, unsure or even opposed, you should read this book. It's not about moving beyond the subject, it's about embracing it and learning from it.

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  • T.G
  • 2020-02-21

great strory

I really love the story it's really show up the real love
I wish I had this support and love from my family

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  • 2020-02-08

Lovable, powerfully honest and relatable story!

As a mom of a smart, handsome and courageous transgender son, I could relate to this book in so many ways. I've always said that my son is the one person who really taught me about unconditional love. Nothing will ever change that! Thank you for sharing your story and for all that you've done for the LGBTQ community. You're an inspiration!

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  • Jason McIntosh
  • 2020-02-03

Terrific book!!

This book started off slowly and I thought maybe is made a mistake by buying it. I kept going and it just kept getting better. I could totally feel all emotions being felt. It just continued getting better until the very end, which was great!! I loved this book overall and I will follow the author's blog now too. I hope she writes about such book. To the author, I say thank you for what you have done for me and slowed me to be, due to the words in your book!! Thank you!!

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  • NEHeap
  • 2019-08-02

Exceptional & Enlightening

Jetté Knox has written a proudly authentic and deeply moving memoir allowing us as readers to really get to know each of her family members in an intimate and real way. She speaks candidly about how they arrived at the present moment, with all the twists and turns that reflect the reality of life: nothing is a straight path (pun intentional).

For those of us who have lived similar journeys, you will find much identification. For those just beginning to learn about how gender really exists as a lived experience or are looking for a model on how to be a strong ally to GNC/NB and trans folk, this will definitely offer you a good place to start.

I wish that everyone could read this book - I believe that it would relieve so much of the ignorance that drives the fear and bigotry that produces.

Glad and grateful for authors like this who are willing to do the exceptionally courageous work of sharing their stories in this way.

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  • stone
  • 2020-02-25

I was crying, whill reading this

I adore this story of hope and love.
a lot of us out there don't get that love and it's heart braking... its so uplifting to see a happy story about a LGBT+ famly.
if your having a bad day, or bad week, give this book a try,
this book gave me so much hope for what may happen in life... so to the Author, I say thank you!

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  • Heather Long
  • 2020-01-03

Thank you

I can't begin to thank you, Amanda, for the story of your family. I cried more times listening to it than I care to admit to. It is beautiful because of its truth and rawness. I will probably listen to it again and again as our family journey is just beginning and I know I will need perspective to help along the way.

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  • Kellie A Smith
  • 2020-01-02

awesome purely amazing

everyone should read this book!! Especially if you have a transgender family member or if you know anyone that is.

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  • tredyn
  • 2019-11-15

simply amazing

I cried sad tears till I cried happy tears. the author's reading is amazing. as a trans woman from an abusive and broken childhood I really empathized with everyone in this story. amazing.

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  • Jennifer Guernsey
  • 2019-10-21

Very real, very listenable

Heartwarming and hopeful. Just recommended it to friends whose trans kid just came out to them.