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Publisher's Summary

Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research - and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction - this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

©2001 Patrick J. Carnes, PhD (P)2016 Recorded Books

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Not for every sex addict

The book is more focused on describing a vast variety of sex additions than helping you with a game plan. It helped me to not feel alone in my addiction. But doesn't help me to built a way out of the addiction. It mostly helps you to be aware of how deep into the hole some people go. It has very nasty stories Keep in mind it's tough and painful to hear.

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  • Dez Mudryk
  • 2016-12-27

Very Extreme

This is a good book. I have struggled with fetishes and porn and wanted help. The issue is while I felt like I couldn't relate to other books wherein the person struggled with masturbating once per week (seemed minor compared to my problems) I found I couldn't relate to this book for the exact opposite reason. The examples and illustrations are oriented for the extremely advanced sex addict. This book is geared towards not just child molesters and rapists but to those who do it non stop for years. This book contains the stuff nightmares are made of. Don't even think about it if you have a weak stomach.

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  • Nelle nell
  • 2017-04-15

expertly explains sex addiction

I am so glad I bought this book because it is giving me so much Insight on my husband's disease and how I contribute to it also how I'm codependent. I remember listening to one of the chapters and I just ended up bawling crying because of all the compassion I felt for my husband and his struggle. this book has been a turning point for me

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  • MR
  • 2016-05-06

Makes you think

This book allowed me to evaluate the events in my life and commit to getting what I need.

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  • Mikael Sweet
  • 2017-03-13

Great book!

This book hits all the major points for the recovery of every addict. Chances are that if you read this book and your an addict, you will see yourself in this book multiple times.

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  • Gavin
  • 2017-01-23

Helpful and eye opening.

Great book. Thorough, deep, and inclusive of a variety of ills and problems, the inner workings of addicts, and how to overcome.

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  • Angie Garrett
  • 2021-05-15

WOW!

One line in this book that shifted everything I thought I knew...

“Men objectify women because it is easier to be rejected by an object than by a person.”

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  • Jessica
  • 2020-01-07

Content was disturbing

This book likely presents sex addiction in true light, but the content was too disturbing for me and sometimes caused too many graphic images. I chose to stop listening after a few chapters and thought that this book may be triggering for a sex addict.

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  • Ruzette Nicolas
  • 2019-09-09

Good but

I regret too much time is dedicated to descriptive side of addiction and too few on the dynamic. I also think addiction is not only for persons with lack of self love

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  • Jake McNally
  • 2018-05-17

Too graphic, not practical

I read this book to better help others with addictions. however the book goes into so much detail with events like rape and incest, it disgust me. You can learn about addiction without that

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  • Travis
  • 2016-08-16

gives significant understanding to sexual addition

I'm glad I read this book. it has opened much mind to the world of sexual addiction.

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