Not very PhD material

tldr; become Buddhist. meditate often. acknowledge, accept and welcome whatever is causing you mental troubles because it’s not your fault.

If you’re looking for radical ways to accept things you can’t change, I cannot recommend this book. I listened cover to cover and usually get a least one thing out of every book - except for this one. I’ve heard these principles in many books before especially the acknowledging, accepting and welcoming of fear principal. Maybe I was expecting something different and was let down, maybe I need to radically accept the fact I just listened to 12 hours of what seemed to be the authors saga of feeling like a bad mother and her disclosures of patient stories to try and support her methods. More likely, I need to become Buddhist and open my heart. But in the meantime, I still feel like this was an extremely fluffy book who’s principals and main points could have been shared within 2 hours. Way too much personal stuff about her child and patients, at times it was uncomfortable.

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Sublime Guidance

Radical Acceptance is a rather thorough walk through Buddhist practices that are applicable to daily life, highlighted by numerous personal antecodes from the author (either from her own experiences, or from those she has mentored). I found RA to be an extremely pleasant and valuable listen with believable, down-to-earth examples. Cassandra Campbell is a great choice for narrator--I enjoyed her even-keel delivery. Some segments of the book felt a touch lengthy, perhaps the book could have been 10-20% shorter at most. I would not be surprised if I turn back to this book every year or so for re-listening.

If you struggle with stress, self-image, and/or overpowering emotions, RA is an fantastic choice. I think what attracts me to Buddhist teachings is that the hook is self-centered--get more out of life, take care of yourself--but the way is ultimately through the people and world around you. Below is a loose collection of notes I captured while working through the book. Listen and enjoy.

- Be your own best friend
- Radical Acceptance--the acceptance of life as it is--is how one breaks the 'Trance of Unworthiness' that we put ourselves under
- First step to freedom: recognize your own suffering
- Feeling inadequate is not your fault, nor is that feeling unique to you
- Acceptance is clearly seeing reality + compassion for others
- The 'mara' are the temptations of life. Welcome their enterance, and their subsequent passing, and understand they are not your fault. To do so is to be your own best friend.
- 'Carencia' is when the bull in a bullfight pauses. Its the sign of strongest bulls.
- Practice smile yoga. Don't compare your life's cooking to Pillsbury biscuits.
- Pain is a very important messenger. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
- Emotional traumas cause dissociation. Dissociation leads to recurrences of neuroses until event is revisited and understood.
- To define yourself by desire is to miss out on life. Don't fully suppress desire--it is responsible for a lot of good in this world.
- Buddha the teacher, Dharma the way, Sangra the community. Turn to your community.
- Coping with fear and remorse is all (necessary) practice for death.
- Compassion for others is spiritual self-discovery
- "I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother, And I found all three." -- William Blake

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Nice, but rather casual

I didn't not like it, the author clearly has experienced transformation through practice and would make a wonderful friend and is pleasant to listen to. I was looking for something more structured so I'm trying TGC on Buddhism instead, by Eckel.

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Amazingly Helpful! I'm not one to leave reviews...

As someone that has been burnt on religion and navigating the messy aftermath, I felt this book was written just for me. I've been very skeptical of all the new agey, spirituality, look to the universe type, influences floating around. I see the value but I just don't feel they're all for me. However, The concepts in this book are well presented for someone wanting to create some change. The examples given, resonated perfectly with where I am in life and also where I've been in the past.
The author doesn't come off as an "all-knowing" spiritual leader. I saw her as someone who is willing show her vulnerabilities, personal faults, and felt I could relate to her as an imperfect human, striving to be good, like everybody else.
This book has given me so much more clarity for what's ahead and I'm very grateful for it. I'm going back through it again, right now.

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Life Changing

Listening to Radical Acceptance has given me an enormous sense of freedom. It has also inspired my continuing interest in Buddhism. If you have difficulty with not feeling "Good Enough" for whatever reason, this book may bring you profound peace. It dovetails beautifully with Brene Brown's The Power of Vulnerability. Many of the same ideas in different language. My only quibble is that while most of the time the narrator is serene and soothing, there are times when the emphasis she uses seems out of place. However, I have found from listening to many books and reading many reviews that preferences regarding narration are all over the map, so others may not even notice. Overall, a life-changing book!

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Insights for Meditation and Being Present

Where does Radical Acceptance rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I have read many books on meditation. I have been a fan of Tolle for a very long time, but I have to say this book by Brach is far more reaching and more practical than any book I have read by Tolle. Tolle I have seemed to listen to countless times, but found Radical Acceptance to provide clearer direction on what action to take day by day. She gives very clear examples of how to practice mindfulness, meditation, and work through some emotional issues.

What does Cassandra Campbell bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Her reading is wonderful, to the point, read with emotion. She reads this book as if she was the author. Excellent!

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It was like a guided meditation throughout

I don't think you can listen to this book passively without falling asleep... Not to say it was bad cuz it was amazing... You had to listen with purpose and I felt there were so many good examples in the book that anyone could relate too... I've already recommended this book to many of my friends

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Accessible and helpful

I've heard about this book for several years, so was pleased to finally experience it for myself. Brach gives clear, practical instruction for how to approach emotional roadblocks like anger, resentment, and fear - things I am integrating into my practice already with good results.
My only real criticism is the sometimes saccharine descriptions of her patients. "A tear slowly rolling down her cheek..." I appreciate the use of case studies, for sure, but Brach tends to dramatize them in a way that sometimes feels like she's lifting from a romance novel.
Overall this is a book I think I'll return to for guidance and advice.

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Accept What Is

What made the experience of listening to Radical Acceptance the most enjoyable?

Tara Brach was confirming concepts I've been reading about: Ekhardt Tolle, Byron Katie, ACIM. When the student is ready the teacher appears. And wow...thank you Tara!

What did you like best about this story?

I can listen to it again and again and get something out of it each time.

Which character – as performed by Cassandra Campbell – was your favorite?

Cassandra Campbell is my favorite narrator ironically. She was one of the narrators in The Help. This was a great combo for me: fav narrator and fav subject matter.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

All the great and different stories that explain things in a way that resonates. And disrupting our habitual behaviors in order to accept in the moment...try it!

Any additional comments?

I first heard of Tara Brach on Hay House Radio in 2007 and I had only heard a meditation by her but I loved it. So I was going in sorta blind on this book and I was so thrilled she was talking about exactly what I was studying. I've read Jack Kornfield, Mark Epstein, Pema Chodron and Ram Dass...Tara is right up there with the master teachers.

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Content is profound but narrator ruined it for me

Is there anything you would change about this book?

Purchased the audio version. No, wouldn't change the content of the book.

Who was your favorite character and why?

Tara Brach for courageously sharing her life experiences so openly.

Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Cassandra Campbell?

Just about any other narrator. Perhaps even Tara Brach herself could have narrated the book in a more personable tone.

If this book were a movie would you go see it?

Not likely.

Any additional comments?

Steering clear from any audiobook narrated by Cassandra Campbell. The snobbish tone of the narrator was just too distasteful for me. She narrates professionally, but the soulless quality was too evident. Couldn't finish listening to the audiobook even after many attempts to continue.

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