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Say What You Mean

A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication
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Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply - a guide to more meaningful and mindful conversations.

We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic - relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? 

In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and nonviolent communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating.

The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to:

  • Feel confident during conversation
  • Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction
  • Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say
  • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations
  • Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions
©2018 Oren Jay Sofer (P)2019 Random House Audio

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  • Diane Lori Ellis
  • 2019-05-28

Life Changing!

I took Oren's online course for this book and it was life changing. Oren has a true genuine quality in his wiliness to be venerable in his communications with others, sharing from his own life's experiences and his heart. His techniques teach us to be present for ourselves and the other person and at the same time how get the needs of being heard and valued met in both. He helps us achieve this through sensory meditations of learning how to be pause and be present, using reflection, and buddy practice to slowly change old communication habits that no longer serve us or others well. Oren's website has recordings that accompany this book. His site has informational blogs and you can sign up for his email offerings to enhance your journey as your travel through the pages his book. The books audio was also recorded by Oren himself offering us more opportunities to learn the importance of when and where to pause, for how long and allowing us to hear how this emphasizes compassionate listening. The work of Marshall Rosenberg and Thich Nhat Hanh on non-violent communication, learning to be in the present moment, loving kindness, and deep listening, have both influenced Oren's life in bringing us to the next natural step of world peace. This is a book you do not want to miss.

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  • Robin
  • 2019-06-16

No meat to the content

I was excited to see that this book included non violent communication, somatic psychology and mindfulness. However I didn’t feel like the book went into any depth with any of those subjects. The author was primarily schooled in Buddhism, then studied some NVC, and somehow incorporated a very basic description of the autonomic nervous system towards the end of the book. No meat to the book. I wasn’t able to finish it, but skipped through listening to the beginning of each chapter. Very basic concepts of social interactions are described in depth. Lots of personal process and trying to say how this book will change your life, but not giving any helpful concepts.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-03-29

Embarrassing

I've never felt shame and cringe quite as strong while listening to audiobook. Holistic approach, white privilege, gender-neutral pronounces. At the end of the first hour, author still can't get single point across. This book needs structure and editing.

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