• The New Codependency

  • Help and Guidance for Today's Generation
  • Written by: Melody Beattie
  • Narrated by: Lorna Raver
  • Length: 10 hrs and 19 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 2009-04-03
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Tantor Audio

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Publisher's Summary

In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of people who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later, concepts such as "self-care" and "setting boundaries" have become entrenched in mainstream culture.

Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what isn't codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms.

In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior - caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. - enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learnin...

©2009 Melody Beattie (P)2009 Tantor

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  • Andy
  • 2009-05-26

Hard to listen to

I thoroughly enjoyed the audio version of Codependent No More and have listened to it to help me get through some times. The speaker on that book sounds compassionate and like she understands what she's reading.

The speaker on this book sounds like she's reading a script and her inflections throw off the spirit behind the passage she's reading.

There may be some helpful content in this update but it's impossible to tell with the way it's being read.

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  • Janie
  • 2009-11-12

Please offer with different narrator

I've read other books of Melody Beattie's and love them. I've listened for about an hour to this one and the information is great. However, the narrators voice is reminiscent of a controlling matriarchal character from the victorian era ---- ironic. I'm not sure I can stand her for 10 hours.

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  • Elyse
  • 2012-11-12

Okay

Where does The New Codependency rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This book has too many exercises for it to be totally effective as an audio book. The original "Codependency No More" was much more helpful for me. I listen to the original over and over and get something new each time. This one, I think one listen will be enough.

11 of 11 people found this review helpful

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  • Marlon
  • 2009-08-21

enlightening

as i was having some personal issues last summer, i decided to purchase this book to help me cope. this book addressed most of the issues i was dealing with at that time, and greatly helped me to move on. although some of the things mentioned were basically common sense, it's good to hear them in an organized manner. the narrator's voice could have been better, but it was generally acceptable, given the life lessons i got to validate through this book. highly recommended.

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  • Must Love Dogs 1177
  • 2017-05-30

Couldn't finish it

What would have made The New Codependency better?

I really disliked the narrator's voice, it was smug

What do you think your next listen will be?

I have listened to many books since

What didn’t you like about Lorna Raver’s performance?

Her tone

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The New Codependency?

I couldn't finish it so I don't know

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

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  • AnnaSapphire
  • 2016-02-19

Excellent update to the original- life changing

Would you consider the audio edition of The New Codependency to be better than the print version?

Yes- as all audio books are, it was very convenient to be able to listen.

Who was your favorite character and why?

N/A

Which scene was your favorite?

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What did you learn from The New Codependency that you would use in your daily life?

This book, and the first book, Codependent No More, are the bibles for codependent people seeking help. Melody Beattie always hits the nail on the head and her delivery is direct, but gentle. Don't even bother with any other books about codependency until you have read these.

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  • Leah Henderson
  • 2015-07-29

Spells it Out: Co-Dependency

In Co-Dependent no more, it was hard to relate to Beattie since the addiction my ex had was not alcohol. In The New Codependency, Beattie includes speaking about other kinds of addiction which gave her a more inclusiveness for the audience. Wonderfully written, as usual, and great information.

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  • Angela M.
  • 2015-06-30

When we know better, we do better

Powerful. How humble and wise an author to revisit her own words and give more understanding to us all.

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  • Sharon
  • 2012-01-23

Excellent!!

Would you listen to The New Codependency again? Why?

Yes, I have already listened to it again. I feel impowered and confident with how much I've grown from where I started.

What does Lorna Raver bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

A better connection with the author. I had read the book before I ordered through you guys. When I listened to the audio I smiled and laughed in some parts, because of how similar it is to my life experiences.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes

Any additional comments?

Please have more of Melody Beattie's books avaliable under Audible.

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  • Lori Rees
  • 2015-11-28

Minding your own business.

Wow, it's interesting how a person can live in such denial. I always accused others of being codependent, never realizing that I was extremely codependent. If you are raised in an alcoholic home, or dysfunctional home affected by mental illness, or some other dysfunction, you are by nurture, codependent. It is a learned behavior. It is an addiction in of itself and it's a miserable existence. One cannot be happy and codependent at the same time. I always knew I was affected by growing up in a dysfunctional, alcoholic home but I never knew how much I was affected by codependence. Once the veil starts to lift, life gets so much easier. You get to mind your own business. You no longer feel the compulsion to control others or talk about others. Instead the focus is on yourself. What do you want? How do you feel? Your world opens up. You start to feel alive again, more creative, more willing to bring joy and beauty into your life. Alcoholics are concerned with the outward, they are usually criticizing others or gossiping or blaming. They rarely look inward. The focus is always on others. The same with codependents. It is incredibly freeing to focus on the self. Kudos to Melody Beattie and to the other authors who take the time to write about this very important subject.

2 of 3 people found this review helpful