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Raw, intimate, and timely, Nadia Bolz-Weber’s latest book offers a full-blown overhaul of our harmful and antiquated ideas about sex, gender, and our bodies.

Christians are obsessed with sex. But not in a good way. For generations countless people have suffered pain, guilt, and judgment as a result of this toxic fixation on sex, the body, and physical pleasure. In the follow-up to her celebrated New York Times best seller Accidental Saints, Bolz-Weber unleashes her critical eye, her sharp pen, and her vulnerable but hopeful soul on the caustic, fear-riddled, and religiously inspired messages about sex that have fed our shame. 

In turn, Bolz-Weber offers no simple amendments or polite compromises, because the stakes are too high - and our souls and our bodies are worth too much. Instead, this tattooed, swearing, modern-day pastor calls for a new reformation. She urges us to take antiquated, sexist ideas about sex, gender, and our bodies and “burn them the f--k down and start all over.” 

This is a journey of holy resistance. Along the way, as antidotes to shame, heresy, and all-too-familiar injustice, Bolz-Weber dispenses grace, freedom, and courage. She shares stories, poetry, and scripture, cultivating resilient hope and audacious love rooted in good news that is “powerful enough, transgressive enough, and beautiful enough to heal not only the ones who have been hurt but also those who have done the hurting.” 

In Bolz-Weber’s most personal, bracingly honest book yet, she shares intimately about her life, with her trademark blend of vulnerability, humor, and candor. If you’ve been mistreated, confused, angered, and/or wounded by the shaming sexual messages so prevalent in religion, this one is for you. Includes a PDF of images and drawings from the book.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2019 Nadia Bolz-Weber (P)2019 Random House Audio

What the critics say

Shameless is a triumph. Nadia Bolz-Weber returns to readers the gift toxic religion and consumer culture stole: the gift of sexuality. Her wisdom is unparalleled, her vulnerability touching, her storytelling masterful, and her perspective both ancient and fresh. Shameless will give its readers their joy, relationships, and freedom back.” (Glennon Doyle, author of number-one New York Times best seller Love Warrior, Founder and President of Together Rising)

Shameless is one of the most important, life-changing books I’ve ever read. Expertly-crafted and lovingly delivered, it serves as both a bomb and a balm - blowing up the lies religion teaches about sex and tenderly healing the wounds those messages have inflicted. Pastoral and prophetic, Shameless weaves together history, theology, biblical studies, personal narrative, and sex ed, without ever losing sight of its most important aim - honoring the dignity of actual human beings living actual, messy and beautiful lives. It’s Nadia Bolz-Weber’s best book yet. And that’s saying something.” (Rachel Held Evans, author of Searching for Sunday and Inspired

“If the conversation around sex in the Church has felt like a small, cramped room to you, brace yourself: Nadia Bolz-Weber is about to kick in the door, hustle you outside, and burn down the room as you march out into the fresh air. This irreverent, bold, and authentic book is deeply centered in love and the transforming goodness of God. If ever there was a time for the Church to disrupt the world's broken notions around sex, gender, masculinity, and power with this sort of a shameless reformation, it is now. And Nadia is the loving, hopeful, wise, take-no-prisoners disruptor we've been waiting for.” (Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist and Out of Sorts)  

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interesting

was interested to hear a woman's perspective and considered what was said. It resonates with me. thank-you for writing it.

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Great content!

I loved the overall story of the book but the political references weren’t needed nor were they accurate. Otherwise great book.

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Loved it!

Eloquently written, heartfelt and engaging! I have long been a fan of this author, never disappoints!

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  • Katie Dillman
  • 2019-04-20

Most certainly pastoral work

A perfect embodiment of her self professed pastoral style of fuck it I’ll go first

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  • Kacie k.
  • 2019-02-28

putting my faith back into my religion

Nadia bolz-weber has amazing context in her story and I really love how she's helped me put my face back into my religion as a lesbian affirmed Presbyterian Christian. she really puts a fresh and modern spin on Christianity which is needed to happen for some time.

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  • mountainfrog
  • 2019-02-07

Disappointing

I wanted to like this book. Nadia Bolz-Weber is one of my favorite writers. I have given her books as gifts. I think she is a gifted speaker and thinker. I think her premise is correct. We need to rethink the purity culture in the Evangelical church. We need to support sexual minorities. We need love each other when we do not meet historic biblical standards set forth by the mainline (patriarchal) church. My concern, however, is that she has a very big logical fallacy in this book. She opens her book with the argument that holiness is defined as "togetherness". She argues that holiness is where separate beings come together. This just isn't a correct definition of holiness. Holy is defined as "set apart for God". Merriam Webster definition of holy - exalted or worthy of complete devotion as one perfect in goodness and righteousness". By definition. holiness is not carnal. She argues that erotic exploration is holy because it is communion. I think she is using the wrong words. I agree that communion can be good. I agree that God wants communion, but I don't think she is using the word "holy" correctly. Since this is one of her foundational arguments, the rest of the first section seems to falter. Because I love her writing, I continued to the second half of the book. The second half of the book is better. She describes the walk of sexual minorities and the paternalistic church. This is compelling. She ends with the admonition to work toward forgiveness and general communion. This is powerful. I wanted to be able to share this book, but I can't. I think her misuse of the word "holy" is too big of a stumbling block. I am personally glad I listened to it, but I can not recommend for others.

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  • Margaret Priola
  • 2019-04-26

Thank you, Nadia

Thank you, Nadia. That is all I can really say. This is going to be healing for so many, including me.

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  • John-Michael Marrs
  • 2019-02-13

So thankful for and to this lady!

Characteristically honest, life-giving, and life affirming. In the vein of Pure, but with even greater hope, anecdotes, and theology.

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  • Molly M
  • 2021-01-05

Needed this

As a 41 year old virgin having just discovered all the lies told to me in my Christian evangelical upbringing about sex and for the first time ever, working through that trauma, I needed to hear these words. Particularly because it helped give words to experience and validation that I am not alone. I’m still figuring out what I believe and trying to figure out how I go forward. Debating if it’s even worth it to continue following Christianity given all the endless misinterpretation and lies, but found this book to be a breath of fresh air. Nadia and her church give grace and a bit of peace. Perhaps the Church that has done damage can also be the healer? Love that. We’ll see.

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  • Kerri
  • 2020-11-19

eye opening and life changing

if you are open to listening and learning it will change how you view yourself and others

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  • D. Thomas
  • 2020-11-01

will take time to digest...

Wow. This book will take some time to digest. I'm in the middle of thinking deeply about many things (people seem to call this "deconstruction") and I am not confident I "agree" with every word or claim in this book...but agreeing isn't really the point of the journey. It is most certainly written by a Pastor and hearing it read by the Pastor herself was a special experience. Nadia clearly cares deeply for her congregation and for the extension of her congregation...her readers. Give it a listen if you want to experience what it's like to be seen/heard/loved. That's how I felt.

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  • Jenna
  • 2020-10-20

This was worth it

This book was transformative. It was powerful, and I’m definitely going to read this again.

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  • Esther Ho
  • 2020-10-03

I wish every Christian could listen to this.

As someone trying to process all the grief, guilt, hurt, shame and hatred the church has inflicted on me, this book has been so powerful, moving and instrumental. There is redemption, liberation and salvation in the Bible, as Nadia has taught me, hope and life from the same book that others have used to damn me, my body, my gender and sexuality to eternal failure and hell. Incredible. I have much to think about, unlearn and relearn.