Should I Stay or Should I Go?
A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can - and Should - Be Saved
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Stephen R. Thorne
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Written by:
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Lundy Bancroft
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JAC Patrissi
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In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: tell the difference between a healthy yet difficult relationship and one that is really not working, recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem, stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority, and prepare for life without their partner, even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-10-30
Important to know when to let go
Great teaching material on when you should stop fighting for your relationship, and move on
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- Anonymous User
- 2019-08-04
Nails it in every way
Lundy Bancroft is the only author who truly understands the plight of women in relationships.
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