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Publisher's Summary

This program is read by the authors, with Paul Giamatti, and includes sections recorded in front of a live audience. 

The highly anticipated first book by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, the voices behind the number-one hit podcast My Favorite Murder!

Sharing never-before-heard stories ranging from their struggles with depression, eating disorders, and addiction, Karen and Georgia irreverently recount their biggest mistakes and deepest fears, reflecting on the formative life events that shaped them into two of the most followed voices in the nation. 

In Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered, Karen and Georgia focus on the importance of self-advocating and valuing personal safety over being "nice" or "helpful." They delve into their own pasts, true crime stories, and beyond to discuss meaningful cultural and societal issues with fierce empathy and unapologetic frankness. 

"My Favorite Murder started as a way for Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark to work through their fears. Now it’s a worldwide community.... Even its darkest moments are lightened by Karen and Georgia's effortlessly funny banter and genuine empathy." (RollingStone.com)

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark (P)2019 Macmillan Audio

What the critics say

"Hardstark and Kilgariff’s podcast takes on crime, death and other gory subjects, all filtered through the pair’s subversive wit as they riff on life’s craziness, often sharing details from their own mental health and substance abuse struggles. This openness translates onto the page. A kind of life guide...the book is just as funny as the podcast but often goes deeper into painful subjects." (Los Angeles Times)

“Kilgariff and Hardstark bring a much needed dimension to our current, true crime fever dream - an empathetic, slangy dose of acidic humor, weary compassion, and nervous hope. Their podcast is a joy to listen to and this book captures its energy and hilarity perfectly.” (Patton Oswalt, New York Times best-selling author of Silver Screen Fiend)

“In addition to being laugh-out-loud funny, smart, and incisive, Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered is so interesting and insightful that it made me a) want to be best friends with the authors and b) for real ask them to take me on as a therapy patient. This book is hilarious, honest, insightful, and clever as hell. Do yourself a fun favor by buying it and consuming it. You’ll emerge at the final word as a new-and-improved badass version of your former self.”(Megan Mullally, New York Times best-selling coauthor of The Greatest Love Story Ever Told)

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My only complaint...

I have one complaint, and that is that this book just wasn't long enough! I want MORE! I could honestly listen to these two lovely ladies all goddamn day, SO below is a list of potential sequels:

Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide Part 2
Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide Part 3
Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide Part 4
Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: Confessions of Steven Ray Morris
Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: Corrections Corner
Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Not-So Mini Minsode

Just to get the ball rollin'
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Do it for the murderinos!

I had a hard time wanting to keep reading this book and finished it more out of loyalty than intrigue, something about the style it was written.. more like a collection of awkward valedictorian speech scripts, didn't do it for me. Regardless of that, I found the content completely relatable and will always read any book these two beautiful souls put out. SSDGM

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Great Listen

If you enjoy the podcast you will enjoy this book. Easy listen and was sad when it was over.

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An okay experience

This is a book written specifically for their fans, i'm doubtful anyone who hasn't listened to their podcast will get much from it. I wouldn't say it's a definitive how-to guide about anything, really, although i appreciate the intent was likely more of a self help book. It's a collection of their own stories and personal anecdotes mixed in with some rather vague life advice - (do something you love, buy your own things with your own money - sums it up basically). Nothing more insightful. It's fine for what it is. I do enjoy Karen and Georgia and think they're good storytellers, although they're at their best when they can banter off each other. For this reason i enjoy the podcast more than i did the book, although it was an easy listen and the narration was pretty great.

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Obviously I love it

Vulnerable and awesome. Thank you KK and GH. I need more words for this review but I don’t have any, it’s perfect. It was over too quickly.

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Murderino in the Making

I LOVE this book! I’ve only started listening to your podcast last month (thanks to my best friend), and so far there isn’t a second I dislike. You ladies are such badasses! This book really hit home from both sides of your stories. Keep more coming!

Love and adoration from Bobbie in Melfort, Saskatchewan, Canada.

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Make Pat Proud

I can’t get through Karen’s chapter about her mom without ugly crying. This whole book is honest and vulnerable and I’m so glad I got to listen to them tell it in their cadence and voices that I can’t seem to get through a day without.

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This is exactly what I was hoping for

If you’re a fan of their podcast, then you’ll love this book. This dual memoir not only made me laugh and cry (I cried quite a bit), but it was full of the thoughtful anecdotes and friendly pieces of advice you’ve probably come to expect from Karen and Georgia.

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a review fit for 2 queens

I fucking loved it, I waited so fucking long to be able to put my extra money toward it and it was fucking worth it.
jk I used my audible credit but still
FUCKING LOVED IT. don't be like me, spend your actual money, it's worth it.

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Important read/listen for EVERYONE

I would recommend this book or rather urge people to consume it whether or not they listen to My Favorite Murder. The first chapter brought me to tears. It made me pause to write Karen and Georgia a thank you letter for putting into words all of the gut-wrenching emotions that come with being a woman or vulnerable person. This is why this book is important and should be read as part of the high school curriculum. These are the words I wish I could say to male family members and people who argue that rape culture is not real.

Besides the painstaking truths in this book, I laughed, smiled, cried, and cried again with tears of joy. These two women have an incredible way of making the listener or reader feel that they are not alone. Especially in a time (right now in 2021) that is so isolating, it is such a comfort to listen to this book and feel like you have two friends validating your innermost thoughts and offer refuge for the people who so often get lost in their own head.

If you want to be a generally more happy, confident, b*d*ss human being, I suggest you give this book a try.

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  • KK
  • 2019-06-12

Love love loved

If you currently are or ever have struggled with anxiety, depression, alcoholism, drug addiction, self worth, a broken home, finding your place in this world, THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU. It’s not about murder. Only an undertone of murder while navigating life. This was a great book and brought me to tears multiple times because these woman are so relatable due to their personal struggles.

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  • Lesley
  • 2019-06-02

No murder--but so much to love

If you've never heard of My Favorite Murder and you are wondering how a book can be this popular when it's about the lives of two women who run a true-crime comedy podcast, well, yeah, there's a lot to unpack there. I'd just say that if you're even marginally interested in true crime, try the podcast and see if you like it. Then come back and get this book.

If you're already a fan of the MFM podcast--hey, Murderinos!--you already know you want this. It's everything you are expecting: Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark talk about the good and bad in their past and current lives, just like on the show, only it's more about them and less about murder.

But that's OK. You already know what makes the show great. It isn't the murder--it's these two women, who are pretty great because they're pretty normal. They have doubts, insecurities, problems, anxieties, just like the rest of us--the difference is that they're honest about it all and brave enough to talk about it, to each other, and to us. Thanks, ladies, for opening up the world for the rest of us weirdos, and for writing this book that gives us six and a half hours of extra listening and even a few minutes of Paul Giamatti. What's not to like? SSDGM!

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  • Erin O'Connor
  • 2019-05-28

The self help book I didn’t know was missing from my life

This book changed my life. I laughed. I cried. I learned. I have told everyone I know that they need to stop what they are doing and check it. This book changed my life.

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  • Verhellno
  • 2019-05-29

I can’t even begin to say thank you enough

Honestly when I hear your voices, the golden girls theme song plays in my head and it’s like I’m welcoming back old friends I haven’t seen in a long time.
When people say you saved their lives or came to them in a time of need you may think it sounds cliché, but you legitimately saved my life. The day I found the podcast was the worst day of my life. Before someone gets the wrong idea, let me explain.
The day the podcast was introduced to me was the day my fiancé called me out of no where the day before our four year anniversary and told me he didn’t love me anymore. I felt hollow, numb, and the depression I had been fighting bubbled up in my veins and threatened to spew itself all over my already crumbling world. He called me right before work and I almost called out. Thank god I didn’t.
I worked in a retirement home at the time and my residents always made me feel really safe. This particular day, one of my newest residents had her daughter visiting her trying to get her acclimated to her new retirement home living. As I was serving them food and trying not to sob, I heard the resident’s daughter, Cathy, say something about the murder that always shocked her. I actually started listening, I was a criminology major at my local community college and I wanted to hear hers. My residents who all knew what I did (they called me their little detective) motioned me over.
Instead of serving some of them in a timely manner, I stood there in awe of this woman who described to me the two most bad ass women who loved true crime and broadcasted a kick ass podcast two times a week. I didn’t even know what a podcast was at the time. I still have the picture of the MFM podcast page so when I got home I could look y’all up and listen. I didn’t even make it to my lunch break before I was binging you guys and crying in the linen closet at work. You guys were like coming up for fresh air when you’re stuck under water disorientated from being hit by a large wave. You were my relief, you were my saviours.

As a single twenty two year old who lives on her own now, pursuing her bachelors in criminology and a minor in bio-chemistry at one of the most esteemed criminology universities in the country ( Go Noles!), I can honestly say a year ago I never saw myself here. I never thought I would make it to this point in my life where I was grateful he walked out, but here I am. I am so grateful he walked out and I am so grateful for you Karen and Georgia. Thank you for helping me survive and thrive and become who I always wanted to be... myself. I love you, and Steven and Vince and Marty and Elvis and Mimi and Dot and George and Frank.
Thank you for creating this world where we can be so free and loving towards our true passions and for being so open about mental health. Thank you for also teaching me to be nice to little me.
Always a murderino through and through,
Siera

ps. Cathy if you’re reading this thank you so much!

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  • VOGUEMAG
  • 2019-05-28

I just really enjoyed Karen crying

A lot of very personal and moving anecdotes.
The book reminds me of exactly why I fell in love with them in the first place.
Thank God I got the audible and not the book!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-05-29

Stay Sexy and Don’t Put This Book Down

Congrats to Karen and Georgia for this culmination of what must have been incredibly hard work! I listened to the entire audiobook on my way back to the States from London, and it made my flight so much more bearable. I will say that the bits where Paul Giamatti read felt out of place (especially because I’m used to hearing only Georgia, Karen, or STEVEN when I listen to MFM), but I still loved the whole book. Georgia and Karen clearly understand the messages that have resonated with their listeners and know that we want to get to know them better, and this was a great opportunity to spend time on both of those things. 10/10, would recommend. (P.S., Georgia, you said you were worried we’d hate you guys after reading this book. I love you even more.)

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  • Holly L
  • 2019-05-28

SSDGM

If you like the podcast MFM, you will love this book. If you don't know My Favorite Murder, you will likely love this book. Georgia and Karen, both a little rough around the edges. But that makes them kindred spirits. Both funny and charming. They shine a light on mental health issues with honesty and humor. Love these ladies... Also Paul Giamatti.. Epic

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  • JD
  • 2019-05-28

Exactly what I hoped it would be

This audiobook is a perfect representation of what makes their podcast so great. It's personal, vulnerable, hilarious, tragic and heart-warming. Georgia and Karen do a wonderful job reading their own words - and the audio bonuses are amazing. I will not spoil them.

If you're a fan, you probably own this already. If you're new to their world of SSDGM then this is the ultimate "gateway drug". It's a fantastic memoir and worth your credit. Give it a whirl.

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  • Jonathan Varner
  • 2019-05-28

I'm not crying, you're crying.

They deserve this book, and so do we! So far, so good. I'm really happy I can support these two wonderful ladies.

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  • Suzanne McCullen
  • 2019-05-28

Could have listened for many more hours

I am a big fan of MFM and was present when one part of this book was recorded at a live show. The honesty and vulnerability put forth by Karen and Georgia was raw and lovely. I enjoyed their reading and am pre disposed to enjoy the content which speaks to my heart. They helped me and many like me find our tribe. Bravo



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  • TAYLOR JULIA
  • 2019-05-29

Exactly what I wanted this book to be!

As a Murderino, this book is exactly what I wanted it to be! It is not the podcast and doesn't talk about murder too much, but it is a raw and vulnerable memoir by two women who want to help other women by sharing their experiences. I spent the first hour crying my eyes out, then laughed out loud, then just listened to the whole thing almost in one sitting.
Congratulations Karen and Georgia, you wrote an amazing comedy / self-help memoir! Everyone, men and women, should read it!