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Tell Me What You Want

Written by: Justin J. Lehmiller
Narrated by: Justin J. Lehmiller
Length: 7 hrs and 41 mins
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A leading expert on human sexuality and author of the blog Sex and Psychology offers an unprecedented look at sexual fantasy based on the most comprehensive scientific survey ever undertaken. 

What do Americans really want when it comes to sex? And is it possible for us to get what we want? Justin J. Lehmiller, one of the country's leading experts on human sexuality and author of the popular blog Sex and Psychology, has made it his career's ambition to answer these questions. He recently concluded the largest and most comprehensive scientific survey of Americans' sexual fantasies ever undertaken, a monumental two-year study involving more than 4,000 Americans from all walks of life, answering questions of unusual scope. 

Based on this study, Tell Me What You Want offers an unprecedented look into our fantasy worlds and what they reveal about us. It helps listeners to better understand their own sexual desires and how to attain them within their relationships, but also to appreciate why the desires of their partners may be so incredibly different. 

If we only better understood the incredible diversity of human sexual desire and why this diversity exists in the first place, we would experience less distress, anxiety, and shame about our own sexual fantasies and better understand why our partners often have sexual proclivities that are so different from our own. Ultimately, this audiobook will help listeners to enhance their sex lives and to maintain more satisfying relationships and marriages in the future by breaking down barriers to discussing sexual fantasies and allowing them to become a part of listeners' sexual realities. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2018 Justin J. Lehmiller (P)2018 Hachette Audio

What the critics say

"Lehmiller's smart, warm, sex-positive book breaks the toxic silence around our sexual fantasies. Reading it may be the best thing you ever do for your sex life, your relationships and your self-acceptance." (Geoffrey Miller, author of The Mating Mind, Spent, and Mate)

"Lehmiller's groundbreaking book points to an alarming divide between the conversations we're having about sex and the conversation we should be having about sex. It provides the nudge we need to change the conversation - and, in doing so, to live healthier, hotter lives." (Eli J. Finkel, professor of psychology, Northwestern University)

"A penetrating, erotic X-ray into the hidden recesses of our sexual psyches. Illuminating and incisive, Lehmiller lays bare the gray matter of great sex." (Ian Kerner, PhD, New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First)

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-05-08

Amazing book

This book was so good I couldn’t stop listening to it. The information is so illuminating and the psychology behind everything was just so fascinating. Hope another book is to follow even if its just an expansion or more in-depth study on similar subjects

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  • Gabriel T.
  • 2019-06-27

A must read for every couple...young & old.

I was very pleasantly surprised by the content and concepts discussed throughout the book. This opened up an incredible amount of questions and thoughts regarding human sexuality, our perception of it and how we can be better at it. I certainly feel more empowered by the knowledge I've gleaned and look forward to using this new knowledge to educate my family and friends.

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  • 2019-09-03

Interesting.

I actually downloaded this thinking that I'd learn about the importance of communicating desires and/or something along those lines. I did, in a roundabout way. Groovy book regardless.

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  • hof
  • 2019-08-29

Excellent information

Must read (listen) book about sexual desires. Very detailed and easy to understand. Recommend for everyone. Makes you feel less odd and understand individual desires and differences.

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  • joe sample
  • 2019-05-21

Essential read

This is an essential book to read. Everyone from sexologists to parents to couples need to learn what’s in this book. I will be re-reviewing as I consider my own future research. Thank you for letting everyone know that their desires can be honored.

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