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The Conscious Parent

Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children
Written by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Narrated by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Length: 9 hrs and 32 mins
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Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes for dysfunction.

In Dr. Shefali Tsabary's conscious approach to parenting, however, children serve as mirrors of their parents' forgotten self. Those willing to look in the mirror have an opportunity to establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness. Once they find their way back to their essence, parents enter into communion with their children, shifting away from the traditional parent-to-child "know it all" approach and more towards a mutual parent-with-child relationship. The pillars of the parental ego crumble as the parents awaken to the ability of their children to transport them into a state of presence.

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  • JM
  • 2019-05-22

Such a great parenting resource!

This book has given me countless tools to use in my parenting journey. I only wish I had found it sooner. I hope every parent takes the time to read/listen to Dr. Shefali’s work!

Thank you!

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A concept that an emotionally intelligent parent will love

Starting out, I wondered if this book was going to be a little too foofoo.
I have two daughters already at University and two more in grade school.
The Author kept me interested until I understood and began to buy-in. I started to recognize the situations I failed at and the things I was doing right, and then learned how to focus on myself and my reactions.
I love the ideas of this book and realized that the concepts are right on point and how I can use them to raise my last two girls.
Wish I would have read it 20 years earlier.

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Parenting must read!

I wish I would have read this book before I had children. This book brought up a lot of emotion for ne. I had to face my own childhood pain and really get honest with myself. I recommend this book if you are ready to take responsibility and face your own demons. .

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Amazing!

Great read for struggling parents who have challenging children. This helps you get a grip on the why!

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  • Bid
  • 2018-09-18

The better parent is from within

An enlightening audiobook that taught me to reflect on my own 'output' into the world before jumping into a thoughtless reaction that is fuelled by ego and not empathy.

Highly recommend this to parent(s) and families having a hard time connecting with their chid/children.
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#Audible1 The conscious parent

This book and Dr Shefali’s view have changed my parenting and my life. I feel relieved and much calmer having adopted some of her perspectives. Highly recommend, especially for anyone with anxiety or parent-worry!

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Best parenting book I have read.

Indeed my bible in my journey as a mom.
So thankful to Dr Shefali for this book.

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I recommend this to every parent and therapist!

Dr. Shefali takes soulful parenting to a deeply spiritual, yet practical and actionable, place.

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Dr Shefali consciousness magnifier

Dr Shefali has a gift . She understands the relationship between language and consciousness.

And relationships are about shared consciousness regardless of whether we are parents ,children and spouses .

Dr Shefali rejects form and invites us to partake In what we really share . Time . Space . Experience .

I have never heard a more articulate voice for the intrinsic value of purely shared human experience as an antidote to the constraints that are modern existence .... the schedules , the striving and the checklists that inevitably box us in to the point we have forgotten what it means to share humanely with our children and each other .

Dr Shefali is a force of human nature .

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New view on parenting

This book changed the way I relate to my children. I no longer get angry quickly or react quickly. I learned that when I feel anger or disappointment or embarrassment or sad at my children. I’m really re feeling feelings from my past. Feelings that I don’t realize are still inside. Feelings that I still need to work through. Being conscious is being awake to those feelings and realized that they have nothing to do with your children or their behaviour or who they are but everything to do with you. What you have lived through what you are trying to hide from. It’s amazing to wake up to this and know that’s where those feelings are coming from.

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  • Juliana
  • 2016-01-05

great book for parenting and self development

amazing book to become a better person and consequently a better parent. theory, why, and practical advises, how; nice voice and narrator (which is the writer her self).
should be thought in schools and universities.

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  • Ja H
  • 2015-03-03

Heals both the parent and the child!

We're on our last 2 of 9 children with 22 grandchildren so far and I haven't heard this much parenting truth ever. Thank you!

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  • Ada Nunez
  • 2016-05-09

Good message but with flaws.

I listened to it because a good friend of mine recommend it. I however struggled to finish it. the information is good, but her reading of her own work was a put off (and I almost never complain but instead adapt to the performer). Other two aspects I didn't like was her intense use of generalizations and that her work is directed to the upper middle class up, which is specially sad, since her message is very good for growing at a personal level and as a parent, and all segments of the population would benefit from it.

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  • Juan J Zamoramo
  • 2015-12-28

Cual es tu contribucion buena o mala en tus hijos.

Una abierta de ojos a la gran influencia que tenemos en el comportamiento y formacion de nuestros hijos y de donde bienen nuestras limitaciones como Papas. Algunas de las teorias que la Dra.Tsabary presenta fueron sorpresivamente refrescantes para mi. Altamente recomendable para Papas nuevos.

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  • whitney
  • 2015-09-17

Best parenting book out there

I loved every minute of this book. It's one I'll refer back to over the next several years as my children grow. I loved her approach of the there's-no-quick-fix-parenting out there. Good kids begin with a conscious parent.

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  • Michelle
  • 2015-06-09

Life changing book

This book totally changed not only the way I look at parenting my 2 year old son, but at all of my relationships. I'm so grateful I found this when he was young. I thought I was already a conscious parent but I had lots of opportunities to change. I love that Dr. Tsabary reads the book - her voice is so soothing.

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  • Tracey Romans
  • 2015-01-13

Disappointing

What would have made The Conscious Parent better?

This book has lots of great ideas and goals to achieve as a parent but no real advice regarding what to do when faced with a teenager who is directly antagonistic or recurrently challenging a boundary that must exist. I have 3 good kids but I bought this book because I want to be the best parent possible. This book wasn't a useful tool.

What could Dr. Shefali Tsabary have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

See above. I stopped listening about half way through the book and may have missed the more concrete material. If that's the case, it needs to be included earlier. You win a reader over by building on small successes and bringing them along.

What did you like about the performance? What did you dislike?

Her accent was pleasing. Her voice sounded friendly and approachable, and consistent with her message/philosophy.

What character would you cut from The Conscious Parent?

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Any additional comments?

I wholeheartedly agree with the author's message. I believe strongly that I don't get to "choose" my kids, only guide and support them. This book affirmed my belief but didn't help me get there. I don't know that it would convince a more authoritarian parent of the primacy of autonomy either.

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  • Jac
  • 2019-06-18

POWERFUL!!!!

What I got out of the book is i love how she explains the importance of generational mind sets that were passed on from our parents and how important it is to stop it before it continues or worsens with our children. BEAUTIFUL book!!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-04-11

So helpful with parenting kids of all ages.

First of all, I love that the author is the narrator. This book has great tools for accepting and communicating with children of all ages. My girls are 8 and 12 years. My relationship with them has changed in a positive way. I have learned new tools to be present.
I will be listening to this again.

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  • Nikki
  • 2018-09-21

Unfortunately couldn’t finish it

I think the substance may be good, but the speaker’s voice does not keep you engaged. I was trying to push through! Just couldn’t do it.

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