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  • Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children
  • Written by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
  • Narrated by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
  • Length: 9 hrs and 32 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (281 ratings)

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Written by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Narrated by: Dr. Shefali Tsabary
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Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes for dysfunction.

In Dr. Shefali Tsabary's conscious approach to parenting, however, children serve as mirrors of their parents' forgotten self. Those willing to look in the mirror have an opportunity to establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness. Once they find their way back to their essence, parents enter into communion with their children, shifting away from the traditional parent-to-child "know it all" approach and more towards a mutual parent-with-child relationship. The pillars of the parental ego crumble as the parents awaken to the ability of their children to transport them into a state of presence.

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  • JM
  • 2019-05-22

Such a great parenting resource!

This book has given me countless tools to use in my parenting journey. I only wish I had found it sooner. I hope every parent takes the time to read/listen to Dr. Shefali’s work!

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A concept that an emotionally intelligent parent will love

Starting out, I wondered if this book was going to be a little too foofoo.
I have two daughters already at University and two more in grade school.
The Author kept me interested until I understood and began to buy-in. I started to recognize the situations I failed at and the things I was doing right, and then learned how to focus on myself and my reactions.
I love the ideas of this book and realized that the concepts are right on point and how I can use them to raise my last two girls.
Wish I would have read it 20 years earlier.

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Parenting must read!

I wish I would have read this book before I had children. This book brought up a lot of emotion for ne. I had to face my own childhood pain and really get honest with myself. I recommend this book if you are ready to take responsibility and face your own demons. .

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Voice and tone of the reader is hard to take.

The author reads this book with a very intense tone that is very difficult to listen to for any period of time... the general ideas in the book are helpful and enlightening. I felt that the examples the author uses from her interpretation of her client’s issues are sometime little harshly described...

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  • Bid
  • 2018-09-18

The better parent is from within

An enlightening audiobook that taught me to reflect on my own 'output' into the world before jumping into a thoughtless reaction that is fuelled by ego and not empathy.

Highly recommend this to parent(s) and families having a hard time connecting with their chid/children.
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#Audible1 The conscious parent

This book and Dr Shefali’s view have changed my parenting and my life. I feel relieved and much calmer having adopted some of her perspectives. Highly recommend, especially for anyone with anxiety or parent-worry!

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Amazing!

Great read for struggling parents who have challenging children. This helps you get a grip on the why!

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Repetitive and kind of dry

This book could have been cut in half lengthwise and still driven it’s point home. I found my self struggling through it trying to stay engaged but it was just incredibly dry although the information is valuable.

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Very insightful

Great listen. I really enjoyed this book and it allowed me to reflect on my own life. I am
not a parent but I think this book is for anyone who wants to understand and gain awareness and tactics for conscious parenting, and for anyone on the parenting journey.

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A must read, loved this book.

A must read, loved this book it is a great tool for everyone to understand kids or ourselves.

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  • Ja H
  • 2015-03-03

Heals both the parent and the child!

We're on our last 2 of 9 children with 22 grandchildren so far and I haven't heard this much parenting truth ever. Thank you!

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  • Tracey Romans
  • 2015-01-13

Disappointing

What would have made The Conscious Parent better?

This book has lots of great ideas and goals to achieve as a parent but no real advice regarding what to do when faced with a teenager who is directly antagonistic or recurrently challenging a boundary that must exist. I have 3 good kids but I bought this book because I want to be the best parent possible. This book wasn't a useful tool.

What could Dr. Shefali Tsabary have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

See above. I stopped listening about half way through the book and may have missed the more concrete material. If that's the case, it needs to be included earlier. You win a reader over by building on small successes and bringing them along.

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Her accent was pleasing. Her voice sounded friendly and approachable, and consistent with her message/philosophy.

What character would you cut from The Conscious Parent?

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I wholeheartedly agree with the author's message. I believe strongly that I don't get to "choose" my kids, only guide and support them. This book affirmed my belief but didn't help me get there. I don't know that it would convince a more authoritarian parent of the primacy of autonomy either.

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  • Dylan Rickaby
  • 2019-10-08

A parenting book straight out of the 60s

I am literally dumber for having listened to half an hour of this book. During that time, I was told that I can’t get in the way of my child’s karma, my children have enchanted spiritual essences, blueprints for their souls, and that they have cosmic destinies. At no time did they ever even attempt to address any of the issues that parents might face with raising children. Instead, the flower child movement is alive and well in this book, doing harm to your children if you let it. One star out of five, apparently I can’t read it at zero. DO NOT BUY!

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  • Juliana
  • 2016-01-05

great book for parenting and self development

amazing book to become a better person and consequently a better parent. theory, why, and practical advises, how; nice voice and narrator (which is the writer her self).
should be thought in schools and universities.

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  • Ada Nunez
  • 2016-05-09

Good message but with flaws.

I listened to it because a good friend of mine recommend it. I however struggled to finish it. the information is good, but her reading of her own work was a put off (and I almost never complain but instead adapt to the performer). Other two aspects I didn't like was her intense use of generalizations and that her work is directed to the upper middle class up, which is specially sad, since her message is very good for growing at a personal level and as a parent, and all segments of the population would benefit from it.

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  • Ana
  • 2016-02-02

I would have given minus stars if possible.

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

a different author and reader

What do you think your next listen will be?

haven't decided

Would you be willing to try another one of Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s performances?

no

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

disappointment and revolt, annoyed by the reader's tone of voice.

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The book has proven to be a waist of my time and money. It is not only superficial, is full of empty cliches and phraseology that do not apply to the majority of parents in today western society.

There is so much Freudian crap in it, it makes your mind spin! There is so much superficially understood and badly used new age Buddha zeny varnish, that is painful to go through. Pronouncements are offered, a dime a dozen, repetitively, unrealistically, and uncritically presented, most of them based on the outdated (and never substantiated) Freudian psychic energy model.

There is an assumption the writer makes and brings in this book about the reader, that makes the tone of the book patronizing and belittling. There is so little real life advice and examples, that it makes it a waste of time and money.

Most situations presented, although offered as 'majority' are anecdotal at best. No studies are quoted, explained, or described, no other school of thought is ever mentioned and compared. The book seems to be written for overachiever parents, on the higher income strata, with unresolved and unacknowledged emotional baggage and problems, which the author assumes, they tend to bring into their own child rearing. Pleassse!

Also, there is an implied authoritarian and strict tradition functioning as an undercurrent that informs the "model parent" in this book, that is not specific to contemporary western life. Most of the parents I know today in the western world are generations away from the authoritarian cultural models she takes issue with.

She contradicts herself constantly, interprets situations with both sides of her mouth, and gives contradictory advice for similar problems.

It is the worst parenting book I ever encountered! Most of the theoretical foundation of her approach has actually been around for at least two generations now, most of it based on work done by luminaries like Mary Ainsworth, and John Bowlby, and there are many books, much better written, researched, and practical out there.

As for the 'making of the parent', she so proudly presents as her own and singular approach, remember Dr. Spock? He's been telling parents this very truth since the 40's. And remembering Dr. Spock's message, 'trust yourself as a parent, you know more than you think you know', to this book's main message fear that you parent as badly as your own parents did, is a step I am not recommending anyone take. Nobody is just the result of one's upbringing, or tradition, and children react to real life present situations, not to their parents elusive subconsciousness (whatever that may be) and so do parents. Besides, the book rarely talks about children, but more about parents, assuming them to be of one or two kinds, and badgering and nagging at them constantly.

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  • Michelle
  • 2015-06-09

Life changing book

This book totally changed not only the way I look at parenting my 2 year old son, but at all of my relationships. I'm so grateful I found this when he was young. I thought I was already a conscious parent but I had lots of opportunities to change. I love that Dr. Tsabary reads the book - her voice is so soothing.

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  • Whitmckay
  • 2015-09-17

Best parenting book out there

I loved every minute of this book. It's one I'll refer back to over the next several years as my children grow. I loved her approach of the there's-no-quick-fix-parenting out there. Good kids begin with a conscious parent.

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  • Greta Harman
  • 2015-03-17

Best soul journey ever

More than a parenting book! Must read!! Loved every word in this book!! Have listened twice already and will listen again! Message is so important!

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  • M. Major
  • 2015-03-06

It is my deepest desire that every expectant read

I am eternally grateful I record super soul Sunday. It is there I first heard of this book and bought it the next day. I have never read a book that I could not wait to read again before finishing my initial read. Words do no justice. This is no book it is an experience that upon completing you find you have been transformed into a capable parent without fear of doing it wrong.

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