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The Five Keys to Mindful Communication
- Using Deep Listening and Mindful Speech to Strengthen Relationships, Heal Conflicts, and Accomplish Your Goals
- Narrated by: Gabra Zackman
- Length: 6 hrs and 38 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Good communiation is essential to any healthy relationship, whether it's between spouses, family members, friends, or co-workers. In this book Susan Chapman, a marriage and family therapist and a longtime meditation teacher, explains how mindfulness can be brought to bear in the way we speak and listen to each other so that we can strengthen our connections and better accomplish our goals. Drawing on Buddhist principles and on her training as a psychotherapist, Chapman explains how the practice of mindfulness - learning to become fully present in the moment - makes it possible for us to listen more deeply to others and to develop greater clarity and confidence about how to respond.
Chapman highlights five key elements of mindful communication: silence, mirroring, encouraging, discerning, and responding, and she dedicates a chapter of the book to each. Other topics include identifying your communication patterns and habits; uncovering the hidden fears that often sabotage communication; staying open in the midst of difficult conversations so that we can respond wisely and skillfully; and learning how mindful communication can help us to become more truthful, compassionate, and flexible in our relationships.
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- Vacant Thought
- 2020-11-17
A Gem wrapped in Mindless Verbosity
This is my favourite book relating to personal communications. I find that I keep going back to it to re-listen to it, because the core messages it contains are outstanding. The problem is that it is difficult to read. The author over-utilizes a collection of catch phrases revolving around the dual themes of mindfulness and mindlessness, and she just keeps droning on repeating them. It is hard not to let your focus drift when there is so much mindless repetition. However, if you can get past that, you will find that the core of what she has to say is precious, particularly in relation to conflicts with loved ones. She will teach you a lot about recognizing signals, applying them to the traffic light model, and about letting go of the righteousness of your own perspective.
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- Anonymous User
- 2019-11-05
It helps
I learned a great deal from this book about my ability to communicate effectively. It's worth listening to a few times!
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- Abbey
- 2019-03-07
Humbling, Funny, Relateable
This book was a slow read for me because I had so much to absorb. It has greatly impacted my relationships already. All of it is simple to understand, and doesn't feel judgemental or shameful. Will read again, without a doubt.
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- Cheech
- 2022-03-08
Incredible
this book is so well-written and easy to understand. It's an absolute must for anyone hoping to learn how to be a kind human oh, and how to communicate with everyone around us. It's a gentle reminder that all of us are doing the best we can, and that if we're lucky enough to learn how to communicate with people, we will experience a much richer life. So glad I found this book! I plan on listening to it many more times.
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- Ryan-Ann King
- 2021-11-25
Pleasantly Surprised
I was surprised by how much I enjoyed listening to this book. It presents a though provoking, mindful approach to how we communicate in all types of relationships. I learned something!
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- Bobbi L.
- 2023-11-19
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This is one is a keeper for me. After listening to it once, I'm going over it again at a slower pace. I want to take it in chunks to allow myself more contemplation, notes, and some visuals to go on my daily board.
The reader is great as well. She has a very pleasant intonation and rhythm.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-11-16
Excellent book very eye opening
This book was very well written and performed. The messages throughout the book makes you really sit with your and think about conversations you’ve experienced in past and present relationships and the affects your words had on their outcome.
Just finished listening to it but I believe I will repeatedly listen to it to try and grasp the concepts.
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- Theresa Cochran
- 2023-10-15
Excellent book
I really enjoyed this book and found the methodology easy to understand and apply to my life definitely won’t be the last time I listen to it
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- AmazonShopper416
- 2023-07-23
I love you
Thank you Susan and Gabra. This was a gift to listen to. Won't be the last time I do...
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- Emma David
- 2023-02-23
Great book and solid advice
This is a book I will come back to again. There are journal exercises to help you reflect on what you’ve learned from each chapter. As well as really solid advice on how to communicate with anyone you will come in contact with in life from loved ones to friends to coworkers. I recommend this book to everyone, especially if you are a leader in some way, shape or form.
10/10 great book.
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- Randolph
- 2015-04-02
Caution: Textbook Madness!
I would recommend this book in another format. Too much information to absorb without some reflection. Imagine a bumpy road. Easier to pass over slowly for a smoother ride.
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- camille
- 2015-10-15
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I needed to understand how to allow myself to connect I have issues of abandonment and alcoholism in my family. I do not allow people close even when they should be. I'm only half way through the audiobook , and I recommend it highly for communicating and connecting with others .
It's very easy to listen to also . Thanks!!!
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- LCNanny
- 2015-12-22
Delivers on message, in a Clear and Meaningful Way
Would you listen to The Five Keys to Mindful Communication again? Why?
Yes. the message and information is timeless. I've studied Buddhism, and thought there would be more emphasis in that arena, but not so. It's more Imago Therapy principles, and the mindfulness aspect is about becoming more aware (through exercises and observation) of how we communicate and react. I've listened, read and studied messages on wholeness for years, and this book is hopeful, inspiring and actionable. It's not a book you read or listen to and walk away asking now what. There are exercises that are simple, relatable and provide results (like stopping for 3 seconds, every couple hours to be silent) I was amazed at how this exercise affected me.
The red, yellow, green light concept (the colors represent a mental or communication state, with red being hostile or shut-down, ect) is a bit of an issue. It's not hard to grasp what the intent is in using this analogy, but how are we as non-therapists, suppose to be able to identify and alter our behavior successfully using this technique? I think in professional therapy it would work, but in a self-help setting; not so much.
What do you think the narrator could have done better?
She at times sounded condescending, and high pitched. Definitely needs to re-think that young child voice (pain for the ears!)
Any additional comments?
Overall, I highly recommend this book because the information is accessible, not too intense, and overall so helpful in helping people take responsibility for their experience, thus living in their power (not as a victim, rescuer, or persecutor)
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- Ivan Lapalme
- 2015-10-18
Great self help material, worth your time :-)
I was always having difficulties with conflicts, especially in my love life. So I've began to put to practise the 3 lights technique with my sweetheart and we have moved past so many layers off past trauma just by understanding, compassion and mindfulness., using the 3 lights technique for a start.
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- Empress Karen
- 2015-12-21
"Too Zen!"
Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?
I love Gabra Zackman as a reader. I was looking for self structure and steps as solution builders. I am on ch 3 with 4 1/2 hrs to go and I have a full agenda for meditation and zen thinking. None of the other reviewers even hinted this was the case.
What was most disappointing about Susan Gillis Chapman’s story?
I can only hope this book improves in the next 4 1/2 hrs. I am not into yoga, and I agree it does help you meditate, but so far the provided information has not galvanized me at all.
Which scene was your favorite?
Yet to be determined
Did The Five Keys to Mindful Communication inspire you to do anything?
So far this is about getting out of one's self and caring about others. I wanted steps to help formulate better communication not charity building acts.
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- Shaun
- 2015-09-30
Insightful and poignant
I enjoyed it very much. The Author's experience is rich and meaningful and it is clearly illustrated with relatable examples and stories. The insight provided herein is extremely valuable to anyone, especially if you struggle with communication in general.
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- Steven
- 2016-01-03
85% meditation related, 15% about communication
Would you try another book from Susan Gillis Chapman and/or Gabra Zackman?
No. I'm not interested in meditation related material. I do believe it can be beneficial, but it's not what I'm interested in.
Would you ever listen to anything by Susan Gillis Chapman again?
Same as above.
What about Gabra Zackman’s performance did you like?
The reading performance was the quality I expected.
What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?
Disappointment. I had expectations of the science of communication, but the content of the book didn't meet that expectation in the way I was looking for.
Any additional comments?
I bought this book with the expectation that it would be a university level research driven book about the science of communication. I wanted to analyze, not meditate.
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- Astrid
- 2015-03-12
Interesting and helpful
The book met my expectations and it is one I will have to come back to. The narrator was very good as well. I would recommend it.
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- Khaled
- 2015-02-14
Great book and mind fullness manual
Very easy to understand easy to apply practices
Eye opener to me, it explains a lot
I will start listening to it again now, I will allow more times to the exercises as well
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- Carolina Walter
- 2016-03-26
A book about empathy
It focuses on the empathy and loosing the concept ( like in the movies) of villains and heroes. But I felt that it relies on the hope that not only you'll put yourself in the other person's shoes but that the other person will do the same, in reality this doesn't happens all the time, you cant control that and sometimes people do bad things or behave like assholes, and you just cant make them turn green again.
You have to listen to it several times to really get it in.
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