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The Game of Desire

5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance - and Getting What You Want
Written by: Shannon Boodram
Narrated by: Shannon Boodram
Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins
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Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are. 

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram - the most sought-after sex educator on the internet - is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today - when the rules of love and attraction are fluid - and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just 60 days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand - your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract - and retain - the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence. 

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Shannon Boodram (P)2019 HarperAudio

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fantastik

the best dating book of the summer 2019 full of insight and good tips im going to listen to it again

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Concise, Captivating and Engaging

this read is a must for anyone looking to understand themselves better in order to foster relathionshios better. definitley a lot in here!

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Perfect blend of science and social.

Every woman (not just the single woman) should pick up this book for a read. It's direct, insightful, funny and exceptionally written! This book is the perfect mix of scientific theories on love and attraction and real life applications.

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honest and friendly

i liked it a lot. it really shines a light on how in order to make a change in your life you have to first change or enhance something about you. and you cant be sitting on "i am the greatest" if your life doesn't reflect that. it helps you look inside. at least to me it did. i think loads can benefit from this friendly but still very honest approach to looking inside so to have a better not just love life, but life in general.

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Definitely going to re read

Wow, I learned so much from the book. I can’t wait to re read and actually do the work book. There are so many good tips that I know I can use I’m other areas of life. It was explained well and everything was too the point. Great job Shan

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Felt seen

This was a great book. I felt seen in each women on their journey. Thanks

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Always watched her youtube videos!

Never knew what her profession was before this book but i'm glad she taught me and made me realize of how much control I truly have. thank you Shannon!

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YOU GOT TO TAKE A LISTEN

I recommend this book to anyone really who wants to learn more about yourself and relationships.

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Well done Shan :)

Though the experimentation parts weren’t robust (e.g. numerous uncontrolled variables, confirmation bias not accounted for via double-blind, etc), other (i.e. most) parts of this book gave me explicit guidance and motivation. Well done Shan!

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Life-Changing Read

First of all, this book is more about self-awareness than dating. Shan gives a unique and creative perspective on becoming more whole and living and operating as your truest, best self. We all fill our minds with clutter (and bad dating stories), and this inevitably ripples into other areas of our lives. Yuck vs Yum taught me that HOW I spoke and communicated with my partners was YUCK. We all have unloveable behaviours and this book is a great way to look inward, learn some modern dating tips and tricks!
Shan has a beautiful and quirky way of teaching you who to surround yourself with, how to manifest what you truly desire, and with that becoming a dating expert just comes naturally!
Highly recommended -- also Shan is the BEST narrator and you just can't get enough! I finished the book in 2 days!

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  • Shan Boody
  • 2019-09-25

Hey it’s me...you

Just a review from yourself to say I’m proud of you. I listened to the full thing, again and you really did your thing oxo

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  • 2019-08-05

I applaud you!

Shannon Boodram. Girl. This book was everything and more! I am a 25yo married female and found this book to be very informative and helpful. No, I did not read this book for tips on how to date, instead it was to support a person who I look up to when it comes to “self help”. In turn, I benefited greatly. My takeaways were that of how to get what I want out of any relationship, be it business or personal friendships. Sometimes we may settle for things that enter our lives but this book taught me many ways of actually knowing myself first in order to go after what I deserve! Why clunk around waiting for your boss to notice you for a promotion?! Instead, put yourself out there, become someone they want more of and can’t be without! How you ask? READ THIS BOOK! All in all this book is a great confidence builder - start with your mind, then control the rest. Thank you, Shan!

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  • Melissa
  • 2019-08-05

This book couldn't have been any better!

I initially downloaded this book only because I support Shan and absolutely believe in all of her work. I didn't think I would benefit from this book because its centered towards assisting the single community but I was wayyyy wrong. All the while hearing the audiobook, I couldn't help but to think of how many of my close single friends (who struggle in the dating scene) could benefit from this book AND it did actually give me perspective and self realization to make me a better me (AKA how self awareness and thinking things thoroughly can make relationships stronger). It's hard to explain but the only advice I can give is to read this book! I absolutely loved all of Shan's direction, tips, and the volunteers (Maya, Deshawn, Priscilla, Courtney and Stephanie) were a perfect mix of people that I believe many will be able to relate to.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 2019-07-26

Finally applicable advice for modern day dating!

Shan Boodram did an awesome job articulating dating strategies that anyone can use. This book stands apart from the rest because the author didn’t just state dating facts and research studies, she used real people to test these theories in real social settings. Following each participants’ journey through the program and hearing about their struggles, failures, and successes made the book so relatable. I honestly cannot wait to go out and try out some of the techniques. I would recommend this book to anyone in the dating world looking to make meaningful connections!

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  • Alex
  • 2019-07-25

Lovin’ it

Only on the second chapter but it’s so enjoyable to listen to while I do my morning runs. Kind of like I got a bestie just talking to me, so relatable, humorous and insightful.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 2019-08-11

Read this boooook!

Amazing book, I'm about to re-read it in order to write down the advice given.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 2019-08-03

Life Changing

This was the most amazing book I have ever read in my life. It is one that I know I will read over and over again. I am so thankful that Shan Boodram decided to write this book.

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  • AM
  • 2020-01-24

Great read/listen

I loved this book. What an experience! I thought it was filled with wonderful insights, and as someone loves actionable advice, I found Shan's experiments and workbook exercises to be so helpful and thought-provoking. Would highly reccomend to someone looking to discover more about themselves.

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  • Ambera
  • 2020-01-15

entertaining and inspiring

I loved it. Now, let's see if I can execute its purpose. Shan is a master teacher.

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  • verlaine quinniey
  • 2020-01-14

Great from Start to Finish

So many real tips that you can use today. I also learned so much about myself. I will be listening again and going through with the workbook.