The How
Notes on the Great Work of Meeting Yourself
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The How
Narrated by:
Yrsa Daley-Ward
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Yrsa Daley-Ward
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Yrsa Daley-Ward
About this listen
Yrsa Daley-Ward's words have resonated with hundreds of thousands of readers--through her books of poetry and memoir, bone and The Terrible; through her writing for Beyoncé on Black Is King; and through her always illuminating Instagram posts.
Now, in The How, Yrsa encourages readers to begin, as she puts it, the great work of meeting ourselves. This isn't the self we've built up in response to our surroundings, or the self we manufacture to please the people around us, but instead, our most intimate self, the one we visit in dreams, the one that calls to us from a glimmering future.
With a mix of short lyrical musings and her signature stunning poetry, Yrsa gently takes readers by the hand, encouraging them to join her as she explores how we can remove our filters, and see and feel more of who we really are behind the preconceived notions of propriety and manners we've accumulated with age. With beautiful and intriguing meditations, The How can be used to start conversations, to prompt writing, to delve deeper--whether you're solo, or with friends, on your feet or writing from the solace of home.
What the critics say
“In this gratifying exploration of the self, Daley-Ward excels at describing the indescribable…this work defies genre and features a beautiful blend of lyrical prose and bold poetry…. This is a tender, hopeful meditation.” –Publishers Weekly
"A heartfelt, artful manifesto focused on living fully and authentically... By turns simplistic, elegaic, and illuminative." –Kirkus
“The How is a brilliant reminder that the answers we seek are in ourselves... Yrsa Daley-Wards words [in The How]—as they’ve always been—are a guidepost, a reminder, and a welcome home.” —Refinery29
“We're used to seeing these messages on our social media feeds, but how do they translate into a book? In The How, Yrsa Daley-Ward brings these soothing words to life, in a book that feels like a meditation and a guide, a therapy session and a cup of chamomile tea.” –NPR
"Through a combination of lyrical prose and poetry, Daley-Ward encourages readers to peel back the layers we’ve built up based on societal expectations and get to know the real, unique, hidden person beneath. Although this is difficult work, Daley-Ward’s beautiful writing shows how important and inspiring it can be as well." –Book Riot
“Yrsa Daley-Ward is half Jamaican and half Nigerian, and her poetry book doubles as an exploration of self-help book about self-love. From Beyoncé to Instagram, she has had her powerful words reposted and shared countless of times. While Daley-Ward has penned beautiful and thoughtful words across social media, she continues to uplift others with her words of affirmations and encouragement.” –Book Riot, "15 of the Best Nigerian Books"
"A heartfelt, artful manifesto focused on living fully and authentically... By turns simplistic, elegaic, and illuminative." –Kirkus
“The How is a brilliant reminder that the answers we seek are in ourselves... Yrsa Daley-Wards words [in The How]—as they’ve always been—are a guidepost, a reminder, and a welcome home.” —Refinery29
“We're used to seeing these messages on our social media feeds, but how do they translate into a book? In The How, Yrsa Daley-Ward brings these soothing words to life, in a book that feels like a meditation and a guide, a therapy session and a cup of chamomile tea.” –NPR
"Through a combination of lyrical prose and poetry, Daley-Ward encourages readers to peel back the layers we’ve built up based on societal expectations and get to know the real, unique, hidden person beneath. Although this is difficult work, Daley-Ward’s beautiful writing shows how important and inspiring it can be as well." –Book Riot
“Yrsa Daley-Ward is half Jamaican and half Nigerian, and her poetry book doubles as an exploration of self-help book about self-love. From Beyoncé to Instagram, she has had her powerful words reposted and shared countless of times. While Daley-Ward has penned beautiful and thoughtful words across social media, she continues to uplift others with her words of affirmations and encouragement.” –Book Riot, "15 of the Best Nigerian Books"
I am so grateful for all of her works, like all her other ones, it is particularly timely to what I need to be hearing/reading.
Will buy this book in many physical copies and every upcoming gifts opportunities are getting it.
Absolutely incredible
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