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  • The Queen of Distraction

  • How Women with ADHD Can Conquer Chaos, Find Focus, and Get More Done
  • Written by: Terry Matlen MSW
  • Narrated by: Randye Kaye
  • Length: 6 hrs and 18 mins
  • 4.2 out of 5 stars (16 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Do you rule the realm of disorganization, clutter, and chaos? Are you constantly battling to get things done? Are you ready to give up and toss your day planner into the dungeon (otherwise known as your closet)? If so, you might just be The Queen of Distraction. And whether or not you've been formally diagnosed with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you probably already know that something's got to give.

The Queen of Distraction presents practical skills to help women with ADHD achieve focus and balance in all areas of life, whether it's at home, at work, or in relationships. Psychotherapist Terry Matlen delves into the feminine side of ADHD, discussing the elements of this condition that are particular to women, such as relationships, skin sensitivities, meal planning, parenting, and dealing with out-of-control hormones. In addition this audiobook offers helpful tips and strategies to get your symptoms under control and outlines a number of effective treatment options for you to pursue.

©2014 Terry Matlen (P)2015 Tantor

What the critics say

"[T]his work is helpful for regaining focus and control over the events of everyday." ( Library Journal)

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Finally! A book that helps!

There are several books out there about women with ADHD. They all say pretty much the same thing....not your fault, can't help it, lists of characteristics blah blah blah. This is the first book I've found that has suggestions on how to actually cope! Seriously, my house has never been so tidy, my clothes so organized, my inbox so empty. I have a heck of a long way to go, but for the first time in half a century, I feel like I might just be able to handle being an adult. An added plus is that it has removed so much stress from my marriage.
I cannot recommend this book enough!

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decent book on adhd

suggestions provided were useful, but overall the book was very repetitive - touching on the exact same topics over and over again

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  • Laurie J. MacPherson
  • 2017-02-16

Meh.

I was frustrated that so much of the advice involved hiring help or spending money. I had hoped for more information on how to change thinking patterns and habits.

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  • Rebecca W. Voorheis
  • 2018-02-27

Disappointed

Would you try another book from Terry Matlen MSW and/or Randye Kaye?

No

What could Terry Matlen MSW have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

Less patronizing, more optimistic, more realistic about what's possible. Keep in mind most of us work, have kids, do the lion's share of housework, are taking care of aging parents, etc and she suggests we do things like laminate recipe cards and glue pictures of the contents of file folders to the outside of the box. I felt like I had told her my house is burning down and she suggested I paint the garage door. Middle aged women are like Atlas, holding up the world, and those of us listening to her book are trying to hold up the world with one arm tied behind our backs. I also found her message very discouraging. At one point in the book she goes out of her way to say that there is no corresponding gift or advantage that comes with ADHD and that it's a flat out disability with no upsides. Not only do I think she's wrong, I think that message is downright demoralizing.

Don't even get me started on the number of times she mentions her website in the book - sometimes multiple times in one paragraph! By the end I literally screamed out loud in the car as I was listening when she started saying "for more information go to http:// ...." I would love to know how much money she gets from the products she mentions.

What didn’t you like about Randye Kaye’s performance?

I think she had a really tough job to do given the content of the book and author's lame attempts at humor. But I couldn't stand when she was trying to make it obvious that something was wry.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Disappointment, frustration

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  • S D
  • 2016-06-09

It is almost like reading a bibliography of myself

It is almost like reading a bibliography of myself. I like that this book relates to women with ADHD. All subtypes are discussed. I wish there was more on the Primarily Inattentive subtype since I thought females generally have that type.
The book offers strategies for organizing your life but sometimes I think that the author forgets that we are ADHD because some of the suggestions require too much organizational thought. I think that if you have a spouse or a non-ADHD person to help you use these suggestions, it would makes sense. I can just see myself getting stuck trying to sort my "to do today" paperwork vs what can "wait until later" pile. I can sort tasks better than paperwork. I think that a lot of us find paperwork much harder to sort out. Some of is that have an OCD personality along with ADHD/executive function issues may find it even more difficult.
I find the narrator easy to listen to even at a faster playback rate. There were a couple areas that skipped like a broken record briefly but it may have been on my device rather than an Audible glitch recording.

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  • Kim
  • 2016-09-25

Fell even worse about having ADD

Brutal, descriptions of what it's like to live with ADHD overshadowed the helpful passages for me.

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  • DMB
  • 2016-10-10

Too basic

Would you try another book from Terry Matlen MSW and/or Randye Kaye?

Maybe

What could Terry Matlen MSW have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

Separate book or chapters into basic vs advanced information

Have you listened to any of Randye Kaye’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

no

Any additional comments?

I skipped the first chapter because I can't stand another book showing they understand my unique plight. Feels condescending now.Doesn't help to hear structural suggesting when you don't have options to buy or set up all of that special organizational stuff. Need to keep suggestions simple, cheap and generic?

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  • Aliza
  • 2015-12-31

Unendurable narration

I squirmed through almost 6 chapters before caving in to save my sanity. Imagine a sketch on SNL where a woman is playing a public service announcer or narrating a museum audio tour. Cloying, saccharine, affected narration. I am an adhd mom with adhd kids, and I'd rather live in chaos than listen to this.

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  • NurseBecca
  • 2019-10-09

Better off getting psych advice from Cosmo

This was the most incredibly condescending (and kind of sexist, honestly) book I’ve ever had the privilege of leaving half finished. I’m a grown woman with ADHD, not an anxious tween looking for advice on fashion choices, how to shop at a mall, or how to cook meals. I am accomplished in my field, and when the stars align and I have the time I’m practically June Cleaver meets Martha Stewart in the kitchen. I felt talked down to the entire time I was struggling to get through this nonsense. 10 of 10 would not recommend, to anybody.

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  • Lauren
  • 2016-05-28

The most validating information I've recieved!

I have never understood myself so much! Now I can help my kids with THEIR ADHD STRUGGLES

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2017-02-12

Revalational!!

As a 33 year old woman who was just recently diagnosed with adhd this book was right on time! I related to many of the example stories a little too well! But I loved that about the book. I am in the stages of coming to terms with and learning about my my recent diagnosis and I feel this book really helped me with that process. I Would recommend this book also to people who may not have adhd but that have a hard time with or are looking for tips on organization. Love and thanks!

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  • e. austin
  • 2016-05-14

amazing!

the words made so much sense. I loved this book. I actually finished it! for a professional organizer with a adhd this book will not only help me but it will continue its usefulness with my clients! all of us here at TCBC want to say thank you.

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